Se un ragazzo fa queste 10 cose, non sei altro che il suo richiamo per il culo

Sometimes we get carried away and we can’t see what’s really going on. Maybe we actually do see it, but we don’t want to admit it because things would change and our heart would be broken.

Forse da qualche parte, nel profondo, sapete di non essere altro che un'esca per lui, ma vi rifiutate di ammetterlo perché provate dei sentimenti per lui. Sperate di crescere con lui e che lui cambi.

He probably never talked openly to you and is keeping you in a grey zone where everything is possible. So, to some extension, it’s not your fault that you’ve been kept in the dark. It’s logical that you will draw your own conclusions and hope for the best.

But, let’s face it, this way you are only prolonging the inevitable. By choosing to be blind in order not to get hurt, you are only making it worse when the truth comes to light—and it will. You will only get attached to him even more and therefore, you’re going to hurt much harder.

Dai un'occhiata ai segnali che indicano che lui sta pensando a te solo come una trombamica e risparmiati il batticuore e le lacrime:

Ogni appuntamento finisce con il sesso

Non avete mai avuto un appuntamento normale in cui lui vi accompagna a casa e vi bacia dolcemente, dandovi la buonanotte.

I know that there are some passionate feelings involved and that it’s hard to resist him, but if every time you go out he gets sex, he will only expect sex in the future—not to mention that he will call you only when his sex drive hits the roof.

Evita gli incontri pubblici

In pratica, vi ignora in pubblico, soprattutto durante il giorno. Vuole vedervi solo durante la notte perché c'è qualcosa che vuole da voi ed è il sesso.

So, if you see him during the day somewhere in the mall, walking the dog in the park or whatever, he will pretend he doesn’t see you and practically run away.

Ti prende per i fondelli

This is that grey area I’ve written about. This is the position that suits him best. He probably doesn’t know exactly what he wants or you are his backup girlfriend, so he keeps you around giving you hope that someday it may turn into something more.

I hate to break it to you, but it will change only if he wants it to. Do you want to be a girlfriend of the guy who wasn’t sure about you right at the beginning? I think not.

Nasconde il telefono

This is too suspicious. Most people nowadays keep their phones in front of them because let’s face it, we can’t live without our phones anymore. If he is being weird and secretive about his phone, he is probably hiding something.

Maybe he already has a girlfriend and although his phone is probably on mute while he is with you, he is afraid that her name might pop up on the screen and then he is busted—which most definitely doesn’t work to his advantage.

Non parla mai del futuro

Whenever he plans something, he never mentions you. He never uses “we”, he always uses “I” which is definitely not a good sign.

This means that he isn’t planning to be with you for a longer time. You are probably only his plan B until something better comes along.

He isn’t around when you need him

He has the perfect ability to disappear when you need him to be there for you. When you are going through a rough period in life, when you have problems and you need someone just to be there for you and to listen to you, he won’t be there.

He doesn’t feel he needs to comfort you because he doesn’t care for you. This is an undeniable sign that you are just a booty call for him.

Evita di presentarvi ai suoi amici o alla sua famiglia.

He will mostly try to hide you from everyone he knows. He is well aware of the fact that for him, what you have is not serious, so he doesn’t want anyone to know about you.

He even takes you to places where he is sure nobody he knows will see you. The bottom line is that if he never introduces you to anyone, he doesn’t take you seriously.

Fa piani all'ultimo minuto con voi

Questo è sicuramente un punto fermo segno che sei un'assistente. Se volesse davvero passare del tempo con te per te e non per qualcosa che vuole da te, lo avrebbe programmato in anticipo di almeno un giorno o due.

But, if he calls you and expects you to be free right that second or in an hour, he only wants you for one thing. His plans have probably fallen through, so he turned to his plan B—you.

Ti manda messaggi di notte

Vi manda messaggi in orari inopportuni, a volte nel cuore della notte. Non vi manda messaggi per sapere come state o perché gli mancate.

He is texting you because he wants to hook up with you and texting: “What’s up?” is a lame attempt to see if you are awake and up for it.

Se ne va subito dopo il sesso

Arriva in ritardo e se ne va non appena ha finito. Che cosa vi serve di più?