È il mio ragazzo? 15 segni legittimi che voi due siete finalmente ufficiali

You’ve met through a dating app (possibly Tinder) or texting and things have really been going well!

You spend time together, do little things for each other, and you’ve taken things to the next level quite fast.

E ora, stare con qualcun altro a questo punto sembra così folle!

So far, there are no red flags, and even though he’s a new guy in your life, you feel incredibly comfortable in his company.

And all your best friends are giving you a hard time because lately you’ve been ditching them for your new relationship (although you’re not sure if you should be calling it that quite yet…)

Usually, you’re not one for online dating, but with this guy, it isn’t a big deal as he’s genuinely the same guy his Tinder profile said he was.

There are good signs about him everywhere you look, but you’re just so hesitant to call him your boyfriend, even though he legit feels like one.

Come fare per capirlo una volta per tutte senza doverglielo chiedere direttamente?

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Definire la relazione

The beginnings of a relationship are always the most exciting, fun, and unpredictable, while at the same time so daunting and scary, as you never know if you’re on the same page.

Come si fa a sapere quando si può chiamare qualcuno il proprio fidanzato/la propria fidanzata?

Come si passa da una buona amicizia a una relazione seria con una transizione chiara e senza intoppi?

What has to happen for a person you’ve known since high school (or just met recently met through social media) to become your boyfriend?

Well, there are a few things that have to happen in order to be able to call the person you’ve been seeing your boyfriend, even if it’s still a very nuova relazione.

In primo luogo, dovreste passare molto tempo insieme e mandarvi messaggi e telefonate regolarmente.

There has to be some sort of a connection and eagerness to see each other, otherwise it’s doomed from the get-go.

I know this firsthand. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked myself that pesky question.

È il mio ragazzo? Siamo finalmente ufficiali?

More often than not, I’d be rushing into things without really having a good grasp of what a relationship actually is.

So now, I can say I’ve got a fair amount of experience with that gray area to know when things are taking a turn for the better and when you’re just living in fantasy land.

I’m going to share with you a lot of useful bits from my colorful personal experience, along with some solid relationship advice I got in the process.

È il mio ragazzo?

è una delle cose più sconcertanti che una ragazza possa chiedersi, e tutte meritano di sapere la verità, per quanto possa essere bella o difficile da digerire.

A relazione sana rinuncia alla cosa succede se perché con l'uomo giusto si sa sempre da che parte stare.

And since sometimes, discerning his signals and figuring out where it’s going can be challenging due to a sudden rush of all kinds of emotions, I’ll help you discover the status of your relationship.

You’ll never have to wonder if he’s your boyfriend again because these signs will tell you once and for all.

Buona fortuna!

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Fa davvero uno sforzo per vedervi

It’s the little things like this that make it truly count.

See, if a man wants to see you, he’ll move mountains if need be.

And if he doesn’t, he’ll just keep making excuses.

Le persone trovano il tempo per chi vogliono trovare il tempo per loro.!

Il vostro uomo organizza serate di appuntamenti?

Si prende del tempo dai suoi impegni per passare del tempo con voi senza farvi sentire in colpa?

Sono tutti segni di un grande fidanzato in divenire.

Vi fa sentire desiderati e apprezzati e vi fa godere di ogni secondo trascorso in sua compagnia.

It’s easy to let the girl organize everything and just show up (if that).

Ma un ragazzo che fa progetti, si attiene a ciò che dice e non trova mai scuse è un ragazzo che puoi considerare un vero e proprio fidanzato.

Vi chiama regolarmente

I messaggi di testo sono così fuori moda! Scherzo.

Gli sms vanno bene e tutto il resto, ma quando un ragazzo fa sul serio con voi, a un certo punto le telefonate diventeranno un appuntamento fisso!

It goes without saying that you’re probably texting all the time, but as the relationship progresses, you should start calling each other a bit more often.

So if your guy doesn’t mind picking up the phone and having an actual conversation (aside from texting of course) every now and then, you’re probably on the track to a healthy relationship!

I’ll be the first to admit that phone calls aren’t my favorite thing in the world, but with an actual boyfriend, they’re a necessity.

Fate un brunch insieme

Le serate di coppia sono importantissime per il vostro rapporto.

Avete bisogno di trascorrere del tempo insieme per costruire e rafforzare questo legame.

Ma le date dei giorni sono altrettanto importanti (se non di più).

Incontrarsi per un brunch significa avere voglia di vedersi fin dalle prime ore del giorno e questo significa qualcosa.

Uscire la sera significa sempre bere qualcosa, possibilmente altre persone e tanta musica ed eccitazione.

Ma il brunch significa un pasto piacevole e significativo tra due persone, in cui si può avere una vera conversazione mentre si è completamente sobri e appena usciti dal letto.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have brunch with casual hook-ups.

Quindi, se il vostro uomo vi porta fuori nelle prime ore del giorno, le sue intenzioni sono piuttosto chiare (vuole essere il vostro fidanzato!).

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You don’t spend all your time in the bedroom

Sex is a vital aspect of any relationship and whoever says that it doesn’t play a big role is lying.

You need to be sexually compatible, otherwise, there’s no chance you’ll make it work.

There’s always room for improvement, but if your needs aren’t met and it feels weird and wrong, you’re not with the right dude.

So now that we’ve cleared that up, make sure you click on ALL levels and never settle for mediocre sex.

When you find a guy who gives you what you need and satisfies your desires in the bedroom, that’s the real deal.

Ma il sesso non è TUTTO ciò che ruota attorno alla vostra relazione.

Dovete essere in grado di trascorrere del tempo di qualità anche al di fuori della camera da letto!

Passare del tempo al sole, magari dedicarsi a un hobby insieme, o semplicemente guardare la TV e sentirsi felici e in pace.

When time spent outside the bedroom is as good as the time spent IN it, then you know you’re officially a couple!

You’ve met each other’s family and friends

First thing that’s important to note is the vast difference between women and men when it comes to chatting about their new boyfriend/girlfriend.

It’s highly unlikely that a man will go on about you to his family and friends as much as you will because men don’t have that need to talk about everything with their best friends like girls do.

So you shouldn’t be worried if you haven’t met tutti of his buddies and still don’t know his entire family.

You’ll get there.

A patto che si conoscano almeno uno o due amici intimi e magari la sorella o un altro familiare stretto.

Guys don’t put that much thought into these things, so don’t worry about it too much.

You probably obsess over it way more than he does and he plans on bringing you home at some point, but there’s no rush on his part because, as I’ve said, guys just don’t care about it too much.

He doesn’t mind PDA

This doesn’t mean that every guy has to be into PDA (because they’re not) but if your man is into this, then you’ve got a keeper!

A man who can hold your hand and kiss your cheek as you’re strolling down the street is a man who’s happy to show the world his love toward you.

When a guy can hug you, hold you, and give you a huge smooch anywhere public, without caring who’ll see and what they’ll think, now that’s a guy who’s quite clearly head over heels for you.

Not all guys will do that (and it doesn’t have to mean anything) but if yours does, he’s one proud boyfriend who you should stay close to!

Con lui si può parlare letteralmente di tutto

Una delle cose che preferisco delle persone è poter parlare liberamente con qualcuno senza trattenersi.

I’ve had a boyfriend that was my lover, my life partner, and my best friend all in one.

Parlare con lui era un sogno e potevo conversare con lui di qualsiasi cosa senza mai stancarmi di lui.

He challenged me intellectually, didn’t fear defying me, and always told me the truth.

Talking to him was a breath of fresh air, as people like him don’t come by very often.

Come vi sentite in giro il tuo ragazzo?

Le vostre conversazioni vi appagano e vi piace chiacchierare con lui delle cose più casuali?

Vi racconta i suoi segreti e condividete con lui le vostre paure più profonde?

La conversazione è una parte vitale di una relazione, e se potete parlare con lui di qualsiasi cosa, in qualsiasi momento, allora sapete che siete una coppia legittima.

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Parla di te al futuro

Un ragazzo che non ha intenzione di rimanere nella vostra vita non farà mai progetti futuri con voi.

He’ll never insinuate that there’s a future together because he knows there isn’t one.

But when a guy says ”we” instead of ”I” when making plans or talking about his dreams, that tells you everything you need to know.

Questo ragazzo vuole che tu rimanga nei paraggi.

He sees you in his future plans and whenever he’s talking about where he sees himself, later on, he always pictures you there too.

Isn’t that all the reassurance you need? For me, there isn’t a sweeter thing in the world than a man planning a future around you and making sure you know it.

You’re comfortable being dressed down around him

Quando avete iniziato a frequentarvi, eravate sempre vestite di tutto punto e il vostro trucco era sempre impeccabile.

You’d enjoy dressing up for him and you’d never let him see you in your natural state (puffy eyes, baggy clothes, and a messy bun).

But lately, you’ve stopped caring about all that.

Ora si sente così a suo agio nell'essere completamente se stessa con lui.

You used to dread being seen without makeup, but now you couldn’t care less.

Ti fa sentire sempre bella.

A few months ago it would’ve been a no-go on letting him see you in your oversized T-shirt and your home-edition leggings, but now that’s mostly how he sees you and you love it!

Don’t get me wrong, dressing up for your man is really nice from time to time, but being your messy self around him is so much more important because that’s simply you!

And if you feel loved in all of your versions, you’ve got yourself a real one.

Conosce tutti i vostri amici e le vostre relazioni con loro.

Tiene traccia di tutte le ragazze e di ciò che fanno.

He knows them all by name and he’d be able to tell you the ones you’re closest to and which ones have been getting on your last nerve lately.

Ascolta davvero quando si parla di loro e offre un feedback.

So he knows that Laura is like a sister to you and that you’d do anything for her.

He knows all about Jenny’s latest hookup and the embarrassing story behind it (no judgment, though!)

He knows how quirky Samantha and Emma are, and he’s already used to their dry sense of humor.

He genuinely cares about knowing them because they mean a lot to you, ergo, they’re important to him too.

È bello poterne parlare con lui, sapendo che ti capisce e che ha consigli utili quando ne hai bisogno.

Ha uno spazzolino da denti a casa tua

Uno spazzolino da denti non è mai solo questo.

It means this guy knows he’s going to spend time at your place a lot, and he came prepared!

Leaving things at each other’s place means that the relationship is moving in the right direction.

This is a big deal! If you have a drawer specifically for him and vice versa, you’re one step closer to moving in together.

The pace is right, the intentions are clear and your willingness to leave stuff over (knowing it’s more than okay) means you’ve become a legit boyfriend/girlfriend.

Lasciare le cose in sospeso significa in pratica trovare una scusa per andare a trovarli il più possibile (non che vi serva una scusa).

If your man plays video games at your place, laid back on your couch, and you can do your nails at his, you’ve entered the relationship zone.

Vi chiama con nomi dolci e affettuosi

When you’re in a committed relationship, it goes without saying that you develop cute pet names for each other and it simply becomes a habit to call each other those things.

It’s not uncommon to prefer calling him ”babe” instead of his actual names because you simply adore him too much.

E a sua volta, vi chiama con i vostri nomi speciali che vi fanno sciogliere!

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Vi rispetta e vi incoraggia

A lot of men who aren’t serious in their intentions don’t really care about your ambitions and goals, and your journey to achieving them.

They just want one thing from you and they’re good to go.

Ma un uomo degno del titolo di fidanzato è tutta un'altra storia.

A quest'uomo interessa quello che fai della tua vita.

He doesn’t let you give up on yourself and he pushes you to the ends of your abilities.

Vuole davvero che abbiate successo perché la vostra felicità è la sua felicità.

Una relazione sana significa due persone che si amano nel bene e nel male e si sollevano a vicenda.

If your man is the wind beneath your wings, you’ve got yourself a real boyfriend.

He doesn’t present you with ultimatums

I ragazzi possono essere davvero strani e fastidiosi riguardo alle ragazze e alle loro carriere.

Not all guys are respectful of their girl’s ambitions and they often resort to ultimatums if they don’t get enough attention due to their girl’s busy schedule.

That’s a whole thing right there, but we’re going to focus on those small select few who understand that women have jobs and dreams too, and don’t hold it against them.

Un ragazzo degno di chiamarsi fidanzato non vi farà mai scegliere tra lui e il vostro lavoro, o tra due cose qualsiasi.

Il vostro ragazzo capirà che potete fare più cose contemporaneamente e avere successo in tutti i settori.

He’ll understand that he’s not your solo priority in life but he’s very high on your list.

If, and only if you’ve got a guy who truly gets this, you can call him your boyfriend.

He’s the reason for constant joy in your life

At the end of the day, we all just yearn for that special someone who’ll bring joy and peace to our lives.

Niente stress, niente ansia e niente segnali contrastanti che facciano pensare a una rottura.

Stare con questa persona dovrebbe essere come riaccendere una scintilla ogni volta che la si vede.

La sua presenza dovrebbe portarvi immediatamente felicità e sollievo.

If it doesn’t, it’s honestly not worth it.

Life’s too short to spend time on people who cause you stress more than they actually make you happy.

Don’t be afraid to admit to yourself that you simply crave joy and peace.

If this guy makes you feel all tingly on the inside and brings a smile to your face the minute you lock eyes, you’ve found yourself a keeper.

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Per concludere

After carefully going through all of the signs above, I hope you’ve been able to figure out the status of your relationship and if your man is indeed worthy of being called your boyfriend.

The first thing you should take away from this article is that it’s okay to put yourself first.

It’s okay to expect all those things because you deserve that, and more.

At some point in life, you realize that it’s so insane sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of someone who doesn’t give you half the effort that you give him.

If you’ve got a guy who checks most of these boxes, then you’ve snagged yourself a real, kind, respectful boyfriend.

Non accontentatevi mai di meno. Non mentite mai a voi stessi nella speranza che lui cambi in meglio.

If he doesn’t hold your hand when you’re struggling and never lifts you up when you’re down, he’s not your man.

Be with someone who’ll make you a priority when everything is making it difficult to put you first.

Be with a man who’ll always make time for you without checking his schedule, because that’s the sign of a man who’s irrevocably in love with you.

And that’s the only type of man you should ever be with.