L'importanza dei tempi di Dio nei rapporti di coppia

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” Ecclesiaste 3:11 (NLT) 

I know that sometimes it’s so hard to believe in the accuracy of God’s tempismo nelle relazioni because, most of the time, it just doesn’t match ours. It’s especially hard to believe in it because you think that your love life suffers. 

Quando ci innamoriamo di qualcuno, vogliamo iniziare subito una relazione con quella persona, perché il nostro unico desiderio è stare sempre con lei. 

The problem is that we are so impatient. We don’t know how to wait. We don’t understand why we should wait. 

I know we believe that God is Almighty and everything happens by God’s will, but still, sometimes it is really hard to believe in God’s perfect timing. 

We rush through life. We don’t have the patience for anything anymore. That word just doesn’t exist in our modern-life vocabulary. 

Unfortunately, that’s exactly why we go through so many painful heartbreaks in our lives. Tutto è nell'Onnipotente God’s hand. Our whole lives, our fates… everything. 

Non credere in God’s will e God’s perfect timing vi condurrà sempre a crepacuore. 

Do you trust in God’s timing in relationships? If it gets hard for you to believe it sometimes, follow these next steps and it will surely help you believe in God’s time again. 

Riponete la vostra speranza in Dio

“We put our hope in the Lord. He is our help and our shield. In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name. Let your unfailing love surround us, Lord, for our hope is in you alone.” Salmo 33:20-22 (NLT)

If you put all your hope in God, you don’t have to worry about anything. You are safe. All of your prayers will be answered and God will fulfill your biggest dreams and wishes – in due time. 

Most people consider hope only a feeling, but it’s not. It’s much bigger than that. It’s much more powerful. 

La speranza è qualcosa che ci muove. Speriamo in un domani migliore. Speriamo in un futuro più luminoso e migliore. Speriamo in un amore puro e onesto. 

It’s what makes us alive. It’s what makes us positive and optimistic.

Even when it seems like the world is crashing down around us, like we aren’t strong enough to keep going, our hope keeps us going and in those moments, it pushes us to fight even harder. 

We as Christians place our hope in Jesus Christ – that He loves us and is faithful to shower us with Le sue benedizioni.

Believe in God’s plan

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘piani per farvi prosperare e non per farvi del male, piani per darvi speranza e futuro.‘” Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)

God has a plan for all of us. You see, we all have our books in heaven. Those are books of our destinies. God has written them before we’re even born. 

You may also think that it’s hard to believe in God’s plan sometimes because we don’t know where it actually takes us, but that’s how faith actually works. You have to believe in unseen and unknown things. 

That’s how God wants to test your heart. To see if your faith is strong enough that you’ll even believe in some unknown and confusing things. 

That’s in fact when you have to prove yourself and your faith – to trust God’s plan no matter how unfathomable it may seem to you. 

The road that God has planned for you may be unclear and difficult, but trust me, the destination will be incredibly beautiful. When you get there, you’ll understand that it was all worth it. 

A volte, i piani di Dio possono essere totalmente diversi dai vostri, ma dovete comunque credere che i suoi piani siano nel vostro interesse. 

He wouldn’t make you suffer ever. Even if he doesn’t answer your prayers always or his timing is a little slow (according to you), His only purpose is to protect you from heartbreak. 

Se incontrate degli ostacoli sul vostro cammino, considerateli una tentazione. Egli ha reso il vostro cammino difficile solo perché vuole vedere quanto è forte la vostra fede. 

Trusting in God’s plan no matter what will be your shield against evil. Your faith will protect you from heartache and disappointment. 

Abbiate pazienza

“The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him. It is good that one should wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord.” Lamentazioni 3:25-26 (ESV) 

Don’t be so impatient. Stop focusing only on your love life. There are so many other things and important parts of your life that you can affect, and you should pay attention to those also. 

God knows the perfect time to send the right person in your life and He’ll do it only then. That’s something you can’t affect too much. 

The first time you ask Him for something, He may not answer your prayer. But, don’t give up. He’ll answer it sooner than you think – of course, only if what you asked for is good for you. 

Quindi, non avete altra scelta che aspettare pazientemente. Prestate attenzione ad altre cose nella vostra vita che sono ugualmente o addirittura più importanti della vostra vita di coppia. 

Pregare

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” Mark 11:24 (NIV) 

Ogni giorno, ogni notte, PREGARE. It might take some time, but you’ll get the answer you need. Your prayers will pay off. 

No matter how strange God’s plan for you might seem, always look for something positive in it. Treat every situation as a blessing or make a lesson out of it. 

Be always grateful to God. Don’t forget to thank Him for everything in your prayers. He may close some doors for you, but at the same time, He’ll open some new ones. Be grateful for all of it. 

Il vostro destino è nelle vostre preghiere. La vostra preghiera è la vostra salvezza. 

Valutare se stessi

If you have doubts about God’s perfect timing, then examine your past and your life. Start from the time you were just a teenager in high school, and take a good look at your life journey. 

How did you choose your partners? Were they always the best choice for you? I’m assuming they weren’t because you would still be with them. 

Chi erano i vostri migliori amici? Fanno ancora parte della vostra vita? Avete mai tradito i vostri amici o viceversa? 

Siete sempre stati fedeli a Dio? Avete sempre creduto fermamente nella Sua volontà? Avete riposto la vostra speranza in Lui e vi siete fidati dei suoi tempi perfetti, oppure avete fatto le cose secondo i vostri tempi? 

Avete sempre seguito il vostro cuore quando si tratta di relazioni? Siete sempre stati grati a Dio, qualunque cosa accada? 

Take some time and do this self-evaluation. It will help you with finding the reason why God’s timing in your love life is a little bit slow for you. 

Maybe you aren’t ready for dating yet. Maybe you’re still holding onto some emotional baggage from your past. 

Un altro motivo potrebbe essere che il vostro partner è sbagliato per voi e God doesn’t want you to suffer. Perhaps that relationship you’re praying for would only lead you to heartache. 

I’m sure there is a good reason that God’s timing is taking so long. God always has a reason for everything. 

It’s up to you to evaluate your life and relationships, and find out that reason. The only thing I know for sure is that He’s always trying to protect you. 

Riconsiderate la vostra relazione

Okay, you’ve done the self-evaluation, now it’s time to do the same with your relationship. Examine it. You have to ask yourself some questions that will reveal if your partner really is the right guy for you. 

Pensate alla prima volta che avete incontrato il vostro partner (o interesse amoroso). Cosa avete pensato di loro la prima volta che li avete visti? 

Ricorda il suo primo appuntamento? Com'è andato? Vi siete subito innamorati di loro dopo quell'unico appuntamento? 

What are your partner’s goals for the future? Are those similar to yours? Do they mention you when they talk about their future? Do you actually see them in your future? 

Come tratta il vostro partner la vostra famiglia? Tratta le persone a voi vicine con rispetto? Vogliono uscire con loro o dovete sempre costringerli a uscire con voi e i vostri amici? 

Sono tutte domande che possono aiutarvi a capire se la vostra relazione è un vero affare o meno. 

Prima di iniziare a pregare Dio affinché vi aiuti nella vostra relazione, dovete considerare alcune cose. Innanzitutto, dovete essere sicuri che il vostro partner vi ami quanto voi amate lui. 

Poi, siate sicuri di voler stare con quella persona per sempre. Se è davvero la vostra anima gemella, Dio farà in modo che le vostre strade si incrocino. 

You know that both partners should put in the same effort to make the relationship work. If you’re the only one who’s putting in the effort, then you are in a one-sided relationship. 

If you’re sure that you have found your soulmate then you have to wait a little and trust God’s timing. I’m sure He’ll answer your prayers and bless that relationship sooner than you think. 

Accept God’s timing – It’s never wrong

Always believe in God’s perfect timing. Even in the times you most doubt it, you have to accept it and place your hope in Him. 

Not knowing the exact timing may be frustrating, but it’s how God wants to teach us to trust Him. 

When you learn to accept God’s timing, you’ll start living in hope. You won’t bother about when something is going to happen because you know that God is already working on that. 

If you have faith in Him, you know that He’ll make your prayers happen, and it won’t be important when it does happen because there is no need to rush – you have your whole life ahead of you. 

Accepting God’s perfect timing will bring peace into your life. You won’t bother about timing and it’ll allow you to focus on some other things that you can actually influence.  

Ripensamenti

“This vision is for a future time. It describes the end, and it will be fulfilled. If it seems slow in coming, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed.” Abacuc 2:3 (NLT) 

This bible verse explains it all. Sometimes, you may think that God’s timing in relationships is a little bit slow, but the important thing is that will come – because it always does. 

Trust God. He knows what’s best for us. He knows it better than we do. Put all your hope in Him and pregare ogni giorno per ottenere le Sue benedizioni. 

Sometimes we aren’t aware that the other person doesn’t love us in the same way and we pray to God for the wrong person. Don’t worry.

God knows it and that may be the only reason He won’t answer your prayers about that love. 

Egli ha già scritto la vostra storia d'amore e He’ll send you true love at the momento giusto. You just have to trust in God’s perfect timing and wait for it.

You’ll be so thankful to Him because that person will be more than you have ever even imagined. 

Be honest with yourself. You’re probably praying for your relationship because you love your partner, but do they feel the same about you?

Is your love really enough to make your relationship work? It might just not be – or ever be. 

And when God answers your prayers, that doesn’t mean you should stop praying. It means that you are quitting. 

A person who is sure that they’ve found the right person would never give up on that relationship. 

Until then, you don’t have to rush anywhere. Enjoy your singleness. You may miss that part of your life one day. 

So che Dio risponderà alle vostre preghiere. Dovete solo avere fiducia God’s will ed esercitare la pazienza. Maggio Dio vi benedica voi e il vostro amore.