Se dovete piegarvi all'indietro per stare con lui, non è quello giusto

È così difficile essere sempre quello che si impegna al massimo mentre l'altra parte non fa assolutamente nulla.

You bend over backward for someone, you do the impossible to make things between the two of you work even though you know deep down it’s pointless but you can’t seem to help yourself.

Ci tenete così tanto a loro che continuate a provarci nella speranza che vi vengano incontro. Purtroppo, non lo fanno quasi mai.

Your emotions shouldn’t exhaust you.

Sure, relationships demand investments but they have to go from both sides. They re about give and take and you can’t just keep on giving without getting anything in return.

Esaurirete ogni atomo della vostra forza. Vi mancherà il calore. Vi mancherà avere qualcuno su cui appoggiarvi. Vi mancherà tutto ciò che continuate a dare in modo così disinteressato.

Vi mancherete perché, prima che ve ne accorgiate, sarete emotivamente svuotato senza più nulla da dare, né a se stessi né agli altri.

You shouldn’t take the role of a martyr in your relationship. True love doesn’t need sacrifices to that extent.

Avete dato così tanto a lui che non avete più nulla da dare a voi stessi.

He shouldn’t behave like he is entitled to your heart. He shouldn’t expect your call or text when he hasn’t reached out for hours or even days. He shouldn’t rely on you to make plans and go above and beyond so you guys could meet.

He shouldn’t take for granted the fact that you are always there for him when he needs you. He shouldn’t come and go from your life and assume that you can flip the switch on your heart.

You might be used to all of that but that’s not how things should work.

You will probably come to a point where everything starts to feel normal even though it’s far from it. You are just used to things being bad that you have made peace with it.

This is your wake up call. It’s time to stop fighting for someone who isn’t right for you. It’s time to stop being a doormat he walks on.

Dovete essere la luce del suo mondo e non qualcosa che lui può calpestare.

Dovete diventare consapevoli di meritare di meglio. Meritate l'amore che continuate a dare. Meritate qualcuno su cui poter contare.

Someone you can call or wake up in the middle of the night because you just had a nightmare you can’t snap out of. Someone who makes you laugh and enjoys your smiling face.

Qualcuno che ti rispetta. Qualcuno che fa tutte quelle piccole grandi cose come mandare regolarmente messaggi (invece di ignorare i vostri messaggi) e pianificare le date in anticipo. Qualcuno che sia coinvolto e investito nella relazione tanto quanto voi.

Everything else is too little. Everything else is just crumbs. Everything else is forcing a relationship that isn’t meant to be.

The bad shouldn’t outweigh the good.

Your emotions shouldn’t jump up and down from happiness to sadness based on his mood of that day. Sure everyone has their bad days but that doesn’t mean you can take it off out another person or treat her like crap.

L'amore è gentile e non dovrebbe mai ferirvi. Non dovrebbe mai farvi sentire piccoli e non apprezzati. Non dovrebbe mai farvi sentirsi soli .

True love doesn’t tolerate onesidedness.

It needs balance. It needs equal investments. It needs to flow from one person to the other. It needs reciprocity. Without it, it can’t survive.

You know that well. Just peak into your heart and see that it isn’t full anymore. It lacks affection and attention and, more importantly, it lacks self-love.

If he truly was the one you wouldn’t have to bend over backward to be with him.

You shouldn’t have to work so hard to keep him in your life. You shouldn’t go to all the lengths to make him treat you properly. You shouldn’t read his mixed signals and be the one who always tries and gives more.

He should be there, too. He should give back all that he is taking. He should be there through thick or thin. He should be in this relationship with you. And that’s the only truth.

In fin dei conti, l'amore è fatto per due. Due persone che si amano profondamente e che farebbero di tutto per stare insieme.