Se fa queste 7 cose, la vostra è una relazione falsa

Che cos'è una relazione falsa?

It’s a relationship that has no future. It’s a relationship you’re staying in because either you’re afraid of being alone and moving on, or you’re convinced that things are cambiare, ma non lo faranno.

Many of us don’t even know that we are in fake relationships. It’s hard to explain why that is so but one guess would be that we simply refuse to open our eyes and consider a change.

Change is difficult and not many people welcome it. No matter whether it’s good or bad, at the time when you have to make a decision that you know is going to make things different, change is just hard.

You’re letting go of everything you know and starting something completely different.

That future that awaits you is scary because, naturally, you don’t know what is going to happen.

That’s why some of us choose to believe that our relationship is the right one.

Because it’s easier to live believing that the problems between you and your partner are just temporary.

Altrimenti, l'unica cosa che vi rimane è accettare di essere in una relazione falsa.

To make things easier for you and to make you open your eyes and embrace what’s coming next, here are the things he does that actually show you are in a fake relationship which has no future. You’re just prolonging the inevitable.

He doesn’t talk to you

Dove non c'è comunicazione, non c'è amore. Perché?

Because, if your partner doesn’t talk to you, if he doesn’t share his thoughts and his feelings with you, how are you supposed to know this person?

Maintaining communication doesn’t mean you have to call each other or text each other every second but when you get home from work, it would be great if you talked a bit about how your day went or how you’re feeling, just to keep up with things.

Otherwise, how would you know what’s going on in your partner’s life? Communication is the key.

If he doesn’t talk to you, you won’t know what’s bothering him.

E imbottigliare i sentimenti dentro di sé può solo causare problemi a lungo termine.

When he leaves, you don’t know where he’s going

He is being a bit secretive about where he’s going and when he’s coming back.

I’m just saying, you are not compiling a police report and you don’t have to know all the details but it would be nice if he’s going out just to tell you where or with whom?

It’s not that avete problemi di fiducia, but if he acts this way all the time, you’re going to develop trust issues.

E una volta che si smette di fidarsi di lui, non ha senso rimanere nella relazione.

The fact alone that he doesn’t want to tell you where he’s going is very suspicious and it can only show you that he doesn’t take your relationship seriously and probably isn’t even planning on staying for much longer.

You’re just a piano di backup finché non trova qualcosa di meglio. Questa è sicuramente una relazione falsa.

He’s all over you in public

Si potrebbe pensare che il palmare sia una cosa positiva, ma come in tutte le cose, una quantità eccessiva di qualcosa può essere molto sospetta e dannosa.

If he is all over you in public and you’re playing along with his charade, then you have a problem.

He is probably trying to prove to others that he is happy and by doing the same you’re just helping him.

When you get home, he’ll turn into the cold shadow that he was before. That is anything but a real relationship.

You don’t have to prove your love to anyone. If he has the need to do it excessively, then you’re definitely in a fake relationship.

Le ragioni per mantenere una relazione falsa possono essere numerose, ma qualunque esse siano, fatevi un favore e lasciatele immediatamente, prima di farvi seriamente male.

You’re always the one starting the conversation

Vi parlerà solo quando avrà bisogno di qualcosa da voi. Ciò significa che è consapevole di ciò che sta facendo e del tipo di relazione che sta vivendo.

Significa che questo tipo di scenario funziona per lui al momento.

Don’t let him use you and just break it off. You’ve tried enough and you’ve started so many conversations which were all a one-way street.

You’ve pulled the words out of him and it never ended well.

That man simply doesn’t want to open up to you. Maybe you’re not that interesting to him, or he just has different plans.

In ogni caso, sei tu la vittima e devi assolutamente lasciare questa falsa relazione.

L'unica cosa che avete è la chimica sessuale

Don’t get me wrong. Sex is great and it’s super that you have that kind of chemistry between the two of you.

But there is something you shouldn’t disregard so easily. Sex is great but it’s not the most important thing in a relationship.

If the only thing you have left is sex, then you’re in a fake relationship. You can’t just communicate through passion. For a true relationship, you need much more.

All'inizio di una relazione, il sesso gioca un ruolo importante nelle vostre vite.

You’re just getting to know each other and you’re exploring each other, but after some time, things have to grow into something bigger and more serious.

Se non lo fanno mai, quella relazione è impostato per fallire.

You don’t share great moments together

Your relationship is actually boring. You’re stuck in a rut where you do one thing again and again.

Siete bloccati in una routine che è tutt'altro che divertente o creativa. Le relazioni devono essere divertenti e turbolente.

You have to experience a lot of things together. You have to be able to remember all the crazy, goofy, romantic or sad moments you’ve lived together. You have to have them to remember them.

If this is lacking in your relationship, it means that the relationship you’re in is not a real one. It’s a try which was worth it for a while but it failed.

Il suo ego è troppo grande

Le relazioni si basano sul compromesso e se una persona deve avere sempre ragione, allora c'è qualcosa di sbagliato in quell'immagine.

Se insiste nel voler fare sempre le cose a modo suo, significa che la vostra relazione è senza amore.

When you love someone, you’ll show him that by letting go from time to time. Even if you think you’re one hundred percent right, you’re going to listen to your partner.

Non lo fa mai. Crede di avere ragione e anche se voi avete effettivamente ragione e non lui, non lo ammetterà mai. Il suo ego è troppo grande per accettare di aver commesso un errore.

That is not a relationship. That’s a crock.