Se il vostro uomo fa queste 10 cose è un SOCIOPATICO TOSSICO

Questo è ciò che è successo a me, quindi so di cosa sto parlando. Voglio condividere la mia esperienza estremamente dolorosa.

Voglio aprire il mio cuore e diventare completamente vulnerabile davanti a tutti voi.

I’m doing this in the hope that my story will help others break free from the hell they are going through like I broke free from mine.

It took me a long time to understand what kind of a monster I was married to—it took me 4 years. 4 years of tears, 4 years of crippling pain, 4 years of thinking it was all my fault.

After all that time, I’m not the same anymore. He took that part of me that made me who I am.

He stole it from me and turned me into something I didn’t want to be. Something he wanted me to be.

Something he could control—a mannequin disguised as a woman.

He was an infinite bastard. A heartless mother fucker. He didn’t care for a single soul in this world except for himself.

He didn’t care for his family or his friends. Actually, he didn’t even have any friends.

And he robbed me of mine, as well. It was so calculated, it was so sneaky and I didn’t get it.

I couldn’t leave just like that. Even when I started to realize what he was doing to me, I couldn’t just walk away.

It’s not as easy as it seems. I know people sometimes judge women who are being abused for still sticking to their abusers.

These abused women even defend their abusers and make excuses for them. Well, it’s easy to play the role of just an observer and judge those women.

Ma vivere questo scenario e svegliarsi ogni mattina con lo stomaco pieno di paura e con la delusione scritta in faccia è qualcosa di completamente diverso.

Queste donne hanno paura to leave because they got used to the poor treatment they get. They don’t know any better.

It is insanely weird, because, to some extent, they have at least some kind of security, even if it’s living with an abuser. These uomini tossici sanno come ingannarvi e farvi credere che si preoccupano davvero per voi.

Sanno come darvi la giusta attenzione per farvi rimanere.

And when they do, they turn into toxic sociopaths, their actual real selves, all over again, and the vicious circle goes on. That’s why you can’t leave.

Continua a darvi la speranza che cambierà.

L'unica cosa che queste donne conoscono è il maltrattamento. Quando qualcuno urla e si scaglia contro di te ogni giorno, diventa il tuo ambiente naturale.

After some time, those harsh loud insults don’t offend you as much.

His threats and his violent behavior don’t affect you as much. I mean it does affect you, but you swallow it all up.

You don’t shake anymore in front of him, but you go through hell inside of you.

Ti dà una dose di se stesso e tu ne sei coinvolto.

It’s like you are a drug addict. He made you try it a few times and now, you can’t stop.

You need more and more and he keeps giving you something you think you need, something you think you can’t live without.

Quando un tossicodipendente si disintossica, si rende conto di ciò che stava facendo a se stesso.

He realizes how much damage he has done to his precious mind and body and he realizes how stupid he was up to the point when he couldn’t have enough.

It’s either give up on drugs or die. It’s the same for you. Leave him or die from the inside.

If your guts are telling you something is wrong, and if you’re feeling like you’ve been imprisoned, if your true self is slowly starting to fade or if you have disappeared completely, then you are being abusato emotivamente.

All of the things I wrote are true, but most of the women who are living it can’t accept it or are afraid to.

If you’re still too scared to take the step to being ‘sober’, to abandon the sociopath that constantly feeds you with toxicity, remember this…

Love isn’t supposed to be that way. Love isn’t supposed to yell at you because it’s having a bad day.

Love isn’t supposed to emotionally blackmail you. Love isn’t supposed to make you feel less worthy.

Love isn’t supposed to break you.

Ma questi uomini sono tutto tranne che amore. Urlano, gridano e mancano di rispetto.

These men don’t know how to love. They know how to pretend to love you.

They use their villain manipulative power to gaslight you and make you completely oblivious to what’s happening.

They have the power to control you, but only until you wake up from the nightmare they’ve directed and realize you deserve and want way better than you have now.

Open your eyes to save yourself. See what he’s doing to you, and just like myself, run for your life.

Vedi anche: Siete il bersaglio di un sociopatico? 10 modi per scoprirlo

Ti sta prendendo in giro e ti fa credere di essere tu quella pazza.

It’s his favorite tactic, something he does best. He makes you believe things which are not true.

Anche se all'inizio dubitate di lui e lo affrontate, lui troverà scuse così forti e vivaci che la discussione andrà avanti per giorni.

He will act like it’s not a big deal. Even if you caught him texting another woman who is clearly his mistress, he will make you believe it’s not true.

At first, you will insist on him explaining you the situation, but after some time of hearing the same excuses, you’ll start doubting yourself.

You will actually make yourself believe it’s all in your head, that you are pushing things too far.

That was his plan all along. To make you believe you’re the crazy one and that he never did anything wrong.

Ti sta facendo credere che tutto sia colpa tua.

He is totally guilt-tripping you. He makes you think you are the one to blame for literally anything—his and your mistakes.

Dopo tutto, lui è quello perfetto ed è impossibile che commetta un errore. Tu sei l'incapace, la sottomessa, l'ultima della lista.

È così che vi ricatta emotivamente.

If he has troubles in his life, he will guilt you by saying you don’t love him or that you don’t give him enough of your time and that’s why he’s been failing. Not because he is incompetent, but because you don’t try hard enough.

He’s a control freak

He is obsessed with control. That’s why he has isolated you from the rest of the world.

He doesn’t want you to communicate with anybody but him, so he can feed you with his toxic thoughts and violent behavior.

Così pensi che non ci sia niente di meglio per te, ma solo quello che lui ti dà.

He also knows he can’t keep your attention. After you fall for him, he knows he has to do something to force you to stay.

To make this come true, he has mastered controlling any possible situation, so there won’t be any surprises. This makes you feel like a prisoner.

He’s a complete hypocrite

All'inizio sarà perfetto. Muoverà le montagne per voi e voi per lui. Ma, dopo qualche tempo, cambierà e diventerà sempre peggiore.

Vi tradirà, vi mentirà e vi manipolerà. Vi tratterà come se foste l'ultima delle sue priorità, perché in realtà lo siete.

And what’s hilarious is that you are supposed to remain perfect and flawless.

Devi fare attenzione al tuo comportamento e devi stare attenta a non ferirlo in nessun modo possibile mentre lui ti tratta da schifo.

Il mondo gira intorno a lui

Ha bisogno di essere al centro dell'attenzione e tutto il vostro mondo deve ruotare intorno a lui.

If you do something that doesn’t have to do anything with him, he’ll get insanely jealous and make you pay for that ‘mistake’ you made.

In fact, he doesn’t have an identity of his own. He needs you to boost his ego and to feed him with your approval which is sad when you look at it more closely.

He doesn’t respect your boundaries

This is again because he doesn’t respect you enough to care. We all have boundaries, we all draw the line when something is too much for us.

Abbiamo cose che tolleriamo e cose che disprezziamo.

Well, he doesn’t respect that. He thinks he has the right to set your boundaries for you.

And even if you remain firm and let him realize when it’s enough, he won’t respect it.

He will cross those boundaries every time he wants because he doesn’t care at all about what you need or think.

Mente perfettamente

È nato così. Praticamente tutto ciò che dice è una bugia. Mente in modo così perfetto che non si potrebbe mai dubitare di lui ed è coerente.

Non si perde mai nella confusione di bugie che crea. Anche se lo si sorprende a mentire, rimane calmo e tranquillo. E mentirà anche per uscire da quella situazione.

Vi consumerà lentamente

Vi userà e vi prosciugherà le energie. E continuerà a farlo finché ne avrà bisogno.

Anche quando si è completamente svuotati e non si ha più nulla da fare, vi lascerà per un po' di tempo per ricaricarsi e ritornare e banchettare con te ancora un po'.

Vi infetterà con la sua tossicità e vi impedirà di vedere quanto siete capaci, forti e belli.

Il suo obiettivo principale è quello di assicurarvi che siete un grande nulla senza di lui.

E per raggiungere questo obiettivo, gioca a tutti i tipi di giochi mentali emotiviper assicurarvi che lui è tutto ciò che potrete mai avere.

Se cercasse di trattenervi in altro modo, resterebbe solo per sempre.

You’re fighting with anxiety and you don’t know why

You’re anxious and you can’t figure out why. Well, it’s because your whole relationship is wrong.

He is wrong. It’s because you don’t feel good in your relationship and you feel he is being disrespectful and mean for no good reason.

Pensi che tutto sia colpa tua e ti incolpi perché lui ti inganna.

Si pensa di essere meno degni e si comincia a credere di essere fortunati ad avere una relazione.

You’re anxious because you overanalyze things which are so simple, only you can’t see them yet.

È estremamente scortese con le persone a cui non è interessato.

He was only kind to you and he only bothered to impress you. He doesn’t care about other people and is never kind to anyone.

On contrary, he is extremely rude and unpleasant. That’s because he doesn’t need anything from those people, so he doesn’t hide his real face and treats them like crap.

When he actually needs someone’s help, he turns on his full charm and of course gets what he wants.

Afterwards, you’re just another face in the crowd for him—completely irrelevant and non-existent.