15 segni molto chiari che vi stanno incastrando per farvi fallire
Lately, do you feel that your work environment has become toxic and that someone is trying to set you up? Does someone want to see you gone from your company, and they’re trying hard to make you fail?
Well, I’m going to help you figure out whether that is really true and who that person may be. What you need to expose them are these clear signs you are being set up to fail at work.
And don’t worry, even if it’s really true, even if someone wants to see you fired, è sufficiente mantenere alta la fiducia in se stessi e non permettere loro di avere il controllo su di voi.
15 brutti segni che vi stanno incastrando
Pay attention to these signs you are being set up, and if you notice most of them, confront the person who is trying to set you up and show them they can’t play with you.
1. You suddenly feel uncomfortable when they’re around
Avevate un buon rapporto con loro, ma ora vi sentite nervosi e a disagio ogni volta che si avvicinano a voi? Ogni volta che vi guardano negli occhi, vi spaventate a morte?
Well, your fear and nervousness aren’t definitely for nothing. Probabilmente avete la sensazione che stiano tramando qualcosa, e la vostra voce interiore vi dice che è bene starne alla larga.
2. Il loro comportamento danneggia la vostra autostima
When someone constantly tries to put you down or makes you feel unappreciated and disrespected, it’s normal for it to affect your self-confidence. However, you shouldn’t allow that because you know it’s not up to you.
You know you aren’t a bad worker because you know how hard you try, and you also don’t have sindrome da set-up-to-fail. Don’t ever allow anyone to make you feel like you are less than. Always be aware of your worth and everything you are.
3. Costanti cambiamenti nella cultura aziendale
If your boss or some of the higher-ups are constantly changing the company culture rules, your doubts are probably true… They’re trying to set you up, and they’re changing those rules just to confuse you or even so they can fire you easier.
Naturalmente, dovrete cercare di adattarvi a questi cambiamenti e di seguire le nuove regole.
Tuttavia, se in qualsiasi momento tutto questo diventa troppo opprimente per voi, dovreste esprimere il vostro disappunto al riguardo e persino lasciare il lavoro se inizia a influire sulla vostra salute mentale.
4. Cominciano a passare meno tempo con voi
They can’t be conspiring against you and, at the same time, hang out with you as if nothing is happening. Of course, some people are great actors, but no one can act forever.
They’ll start spending less and less time with you because they’ll be afraid that you might figure out their real intentions.
5. Oppure, iniziano a fare da micromanager
If you notice that someone is trying to micromanage you all of a sudden, even if it’s your boss or another higher-up, it could be because they are trying to sabotage you.
They’re supervising you closely either because they’re trying to find a mistake in your work or because they’re trying to figure out a way they can set you up. Either way, you shouldn’t allow them to.
Ci devono essere dei limiti in tutto, anche nel rapporto tra un capo e i suoi dipendenti.
6. Camminate costantemente su gusci d'uovo con loro
Because of their toxic behavior and constant whims, you aren’t sure how you should behave around them anymore. You don’t want to do something wrong that might cost you your job, and I completely get you.
However, what is the point in going to work every morning to a place where you don’t feel comfortable? Do you really think you’ll be able to endure it for too long?
If you feel like you need to be careful around them, then you’re probably aware that they’re plotting against you. The rest is up to you, whether you’ll allow them to set you up or you’ll pull yourself up and put an end to their lame games.
7. Si diffondono voci su possibili licenziamenti
Avete sentito voci sulla diminuzione della redditività dell'azienda e sul fatto che potrebbe causare dei licenziamenti? Tuttavia, quando chiedete agli altri colleghi, nessuno ha sentito parlare di possibili licenziamenti.
It’s possible that those rumors are only being told to you because you’re being set up. Ora, dovete smettere di diffonderle e continuare a fare il vostro lavoro in modo impeccabile, proprio come avete fatto fino a questo punto.
8. You’re being assigned work that you aren’t qualified for
If they’re trying to overwork you or give you assignments that are beyond your qualifications, it’s a clear sign you are being set up.
They want to give you those assignments or that workload because they’re waiting for you to make a mistake that will cost you losing your job. You need to talk to them or some of the other higher-ups and explain that you can’t keep doing those tasks.
Otherwise, you’ll get complete job burnout, or it’ll destroy your mental health.
9. Iniziate a ricevere cattive valutazioni delle prestazioni
Tutte le vostre valutazioni delle prestazioni sono state buone fino ad ora? Il vostro capo e i superiori vi hanno sempre elogiato prima?
Now, that’s changed, too, and you got a bad performance review all of a sudden. Il vostro capo vi ha dato un feedback negativo sul vostro lavoro, e voi sapete quanto lavorate e sapete che i vostri risultati sono sempre positivi.
They may even say that your work didn’t bring them any profit lately, which would be a clear sign that they’re preparing to fire you. Don’t let their feedback affect your self-confidence. Even if they do fire you, think of it as their loss and believe that you’ll find a new job where people will appreciate your contribution.
10. I loro continui capricci sono semplicemente intollerabili
Do you feel like they’re trying to drive you completely nuts with their whims and mood changes? Is it impossible to even assume what their next step will be, and you feel like you can’t deal with it anymore?
You’re probably right, and they probably want to drive you mad. Dovreste starne alla larga il più possibile. E se continuano a fare i loro capricci e voi iniziate a sentirvi in ansia per questo, dovete parlarne con loro.
If you can’t have healthy communication with them, then you’re working in a toxic environment, and you shouldn’t stay there for too long. Of course, that is if you want to keep your sanity.
11. Hanno superato tutti i vostri limiti molto tempo fa.
Come ho già detto, tutte le relazioni hanno bisogno di limiti se si vuole mantenerle sane. Anche il rapporto tra voi e il vostro capo.
If that person has crossed all of the boundaries that you have clearly set up, it’s also a red flag they’re sabotaging you. If they don’t respect your boundaries, they don’t even respect or love you in the first place, and they definitely don’t have a good opinion of you.
If you allow them to continue behaving like that, to continue disrespecting your boundaries, they’ll destroy your self-esteem completely. And they’ll never stop with their toxic behavior.
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12. La comunicazione con gli altri colleghi è bloccata.
Have you noticed they’re also trying to sabotage your relationships with your colleagues? Does it feel like they’ve been forbidden from working or hanging out with you?
It’s probably because they don’t want others to help you. Remember, they’re trying to sabotage you in every possible way, and that’s why they want to block your communication with your colleagues.
Don’t blame your co-workers or yourself because of that. They’re probably forced to behave like that, and it’s really not up to you – you know who’s really to blame.
13. You’re sure that someone has been going through your private stuff
Avete notato che qualcuno è entrato nel vostro ufficio? O forse stavano curiosando nel vostro telefono, computer o social media?
If you have, it’s also a big sign they’re trying to set you up for something. Be careful where you leave your private things and keep your office locked when you aren’t there – if that is possible, of course.
14. You’re being accused of mistakes you didn’t make
It doesn’t matter whether you made a mistake or if it was a co-worker who was working with you on a specific project, if someone wants to sabotage you, they’ll always blame you for those mistakes.
It’s not easy to deal with their constant blaming, but understand that it’s all part of their plan. Try to prove that it’s not your mistake and keep doing your work like you have been doing it.
15. Il vostro istinto vi sta semplicemente dicendo questo
Even though most people don’t quite trust their gut, in most cases, it turns out to be true. That’s why if il vostro istinto is telling you that you shouldn’t trust a co-worker or your boss even because they’re trying to sabotage you in a way, you should be careful around that person.
You’re probably trying to silence your inner feelings because maybe you have a good interpersonal relationship with that person, but don’t let it blind you. Follow the signs, and if you recognize them, it’s proof your gut feeling is right after all.
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Come capire se il vostro capo vi sta sabotando?
If you try really hard to prove your worth to your boss, but they still choose to remain blind to those attempts, it’s obvious that they’re trying to sabotage you. Also, if they’re always focused on finding mistakes in your work and never even think about giving you credit for your hard work, it’s a huge red flag.
Un altro segno che il vostro capo vi sta sabotando è se vi fa lavorare troppo. They do it because they think you won’t succeed in doing all the work they give you.
And one of the most obvious signs they’re sabotaging you is if they never invite you to some important meeting or never give you the praise or the credit you deserve for your contribution to their company.
If you’ve indeed noticed that your boss is sabotaging you, you should think about quitting your job because a toxic work environment can leave long-term consequences on your mental health.
Come superare un capo subdolo?
La prima cosa da fare è decidere se si vuole rimanere al lavoro attuale o licenziarsi e trovare un nuovo lavoro.
Se alla fine decidete di restare, dovete preparare un piano per affrontare il vostro capo e metterlo al suo posto una volta per tutte. All'inizio, dovete comportarvi normalmente, come se nulla fosse.
Nel frattempo, è necessario tenere traccia del loro comportamento nei confronti degli altri colleghi e registrare ogni loro errore.
Then, when you gather proof that they’re being unfair towards you, you should confront them. Let them know that you’ve decided to put an end to their toxic, bullying behavior. From that moment on, keep your interpersonal relationship plainly work-related.
Come si fa a sapere che il proprio capo è tossico?
The truth is, most of us know if our bosses are toxic but simply decide to ignore it because we are afraid we’ll end up without a job. Unfortunately, most of us are even forced to work in a toxic environment.
For those of you who still don’t know or are wondering whether your boss might be toxic, criticizing or undermining you all the time are the first segnali di avvertimento della loro tossicità.
If you constantly work very hard to prove yourself or to gain their trust, and they still clearly show a lack of trust, trust me, it’s up to them. Their toxicity simply won’t allow them to recognize you as a good worker.
Also, if you notice that they behave differently when other people are around than when you two are alone, you should see it as a red flag that you’re dealing with a toxic boss.
Affrontateli o lasciateli con grazia!
Now, if you’ve noticed these signs you are being set up to fail, you need to react immediately. Avete due possibilità: raccogliere le forze e affrontare la persona che vuole vedervi licenziati, anche se si tratta del vostro capo, oppure licenziarvi da soli.
Se scegliete la prima opzione, dovreste innanzitutto lavorare per migliorare la vostra autostima. Quindi, affrontate quella persona e ditele chiaramente che non dovrà mai più interferire con il vostro lavoro.
And if you think you can’t stay in that toxic environment anymore, you have every right to quit and find a new job. For a new and fresh start, write a new resume and cover letter, and hopefully, you’ll run into the right recruiter who will match you with a job in which you’ll feel more respected.
