Se avete bisogno di fare queste 7 cose per stare con lui, non ne vale la pena

Tutti noi abbiamo un'immagine nella nostra testa di come sarebbe una relazione perfetta, giusto? Ma in qualche modo ci dimentichiamo delle nostre idee e ci dedichiamo a compiacere il nostro partner.

Sometimes, the things that are needed in order for our partner to be happy are quite unusual, but we still do them, mistaking his needs for love. That’s the problem, you know?

Fare cose che non ci vanno bene solo perché il nostro partner resti al nostro fianco è la cosa peggiore che una donna possa fare. Se avete davvero bisogno di fare certe cose perché lui stia con voi, allora non ne vale la pena.

Soprattutto se queste cose sono contrarie a tutto ciò in cui credete.

1. Mantenere il silenzio

What does he tell you when you get angry and you try talking to him? Does he shut you up? If you are feeling upset for whatever reason and he doesn’t give you the freedom to talk about it, then he’s not worthy of you.

Questo vale anche se vi fa nascondere le lacrime. Dice che queste cose lo infastidiscono o che siete depressi semplicemente perché avete avuto una giornata difficile e lui la rende ancora peggiore non essendoci per voi. Andatevene e basta.

He doesn’t deserve you. It’s just who he is. He won’t change.

2. Fare sesso con lui

Your body is yours only and he doesn’t have the right to it. Ever. If he tells you that sex is the ultimate sign of love, he’s lying. You can give your body to whomever you want but you can also choose if you’ll give it to him.

If you refuse, he needs to respect your decision. Men think that they are entitled to our body, thinking that if we don’t give ourself to them, we don’t care enough.

3. Rinunciare ai propri sogni

If a guy wants you to give up your job, your dreams or everything you’re working for, then we have a problem. If he really loves you, he will be supportive of everything that you want to achieve in your life and he might even help if he sees that there’s a way he actually could.

But keeping you locked inside his own little world, never allowing you to grow? Well, that’s just messed up. You need to grow together and not let him convince you that he’s the only one who should be working or going to university. You deserve to follow your dreams as well!

4. Rinunciare agli amici

I know that it’s very common that we find ourselves in relationships with people who don’t really get along with our friends but that’s not as horrible as if he tries to make you give them up.

If he keeps on talking about them in a bad manner and doesn’t even want to meet them, then there’s a problem. He needs to love you for who you are and respect all your choices.

Your friends are one of your choices and if he wants you to give up on your friendships in order for him to stay in your life, then he’s simply not worth it.

5. Settle for something you’re not into

If he proposes an open sexual relationship and he tells you that it’s the only way he can function in a relationship but you simply don’t like the idea of it, what do you do? Do you tell him that you are not into that or do you not say anything because you’re too scared that you might lose him, so you still go with it?

If he makes you settle for this kind of thing, he isn’t in love with you and you shouldn’t let yourself accontentarsi di qualcosa di meno than you want or need. If you need him to be only yours and he still decides to leave, then it’s his loss. You just keep on being yourself.

6. Vestirsi in modo diverso

It’s cute when a guy gets jealous sometimes, right? It gives off the impression that he cares. But if he doesn’t allow you to wear certain pieces of clothing because other men might look at you, he’s just possessive.

If he makes you wear jeans to formal events where you would rather wear a dress, because he’s afraid that you might catch the attention of another man, he doesn’t trust you enough, so why bother?

7. Prendere l'iniziativa

I don’t mean that women shouldn’t take initiative in a relationship but if you’re always the one organizing dates and if you’re always the one who texts first, then sorry, he’s just not that into you.

He should be the one calling you and texting you, at least to see how you’re doing. But if he doesn’t do that and he keeps on waiting for you to take the lead and arrange a night out, then he’s not worth it.