7 segni che sei un monogamo seriale

Un monogamo seriale è una persona che salta da una relazione immediatamente ad un'altra.

They cannot stand to be alone and yet they have an issue with commitment that they’re not willing to admit.

It’s different from being promiscuous because they don’t mindlessly change their partners only for the sake of sex. 

They prefer to be in a traditional type of relationship but unfortunately they don’t take time to reflect on their previous relationships and so keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

They don’t try to work on their insecurities and problems but believe that engaging in a relationship with a new person will solve their problems.

Vi suona familiare? Vi siete mai sorpresi a fare la stessa cosa, saltando da una relazione all'altra solo per scoprire che la persona successiva era un ripiego?

Ecco 7 segnali che indicano che potresti essere un monogamo seriale:

1. Avvio di relazioni facile e veloce

Sembra che le relazioni di coppia vi vengano facili. Non hai problemi a trovare una persona con cui uscire e di solito ti impegni troppo presto.

Non avete ripensamenti nel chiamarli fidanzato o fidanzata.

Once you’re with them – you want to know everything. They become the center of your universe. You enjoy getting to know them and they don’t seem to mind that either.

2. You can’t remember the last time you were single for more than a few months

Every time your relationship ends, you don’t give yourself time to grieve and reflect on the things that led to the breakup.

Instead, you find yourself looking for someone new to take your mind off your previous relationship. Even if you don’t recognize that pattern immediately, looking back at the past you can see it clearly.

What was the longest period you’ve been single? Think about it.

3. You don’t really like the idea of dating

The whole concept of dating isn’t something you like. You want to be exclusive with one person and don’t like the idea of going on dates with more than one person.

Being committed and close to one person is the only thing you’re interested in. The problem is – it doesn’t last.

4. Subito dopo ogni rottura, si trova sempre qualcuno che piace e si finisce per avere una relazione.

Chi è abituato a vivere una relazione e ama impegnare la propria vita con un'altra persona fa fatica a essere single.

You’ve just happened to find another great person you like and decided to give it a go. Why not?

5. You’re romantic and idealistic

Il problema è che credete davvero che le cose saranno diverse con persone diverse. Molte persone amabili, romantiche e altamente idealiste hanno lo stesso problema.

They’re obsessed with love, but fail to acknowledge practical problems in a relationship or get disappointed easily.

It’s not that being with different people won’t be different and better, it’s just that for the relationship to work out you need to work on yourself first.

In other words, you need to reflect on everything that wasn’t good in your previous relationship and learn from this before you enter another one. You need to be responsible and self-critical.

6. You love being in a relationship, but you’re always scared to take the next big step

We’ve already mentioned the fact that you like being in a relationship, but something about making things very serious (for example getting married) doesn’t sit well with you.

You get nervous and start questioning your relationship – and this often comes from taking all of the steps too fast without giving yourself time to think and possibly heal.

7. Sometimes when you look back at your exes – you can’t understand why you liked them

When you look back at your history of exes, sometimes you wonder what the hell you saw in those guys? They’re all so different and looking from your current perspective you can’t recall why you liked them.

Sembra quasi che non siate mai stati innamorati di loro. Potrebbe essere vero?

Don’t be afraid to be single

If you recognize yourself in any of these signs – don’t be disappointed. This isn’t something you have no control over.

Quello che dovete fare è ammettere i vostri errori e cercare di essere più attenti. Prima di intraprendere una nuova relazione chiedetevi: siete pronti?

La maturità nasce dalla riflessione su se stessi e dalla maturità nasce l'amore vero e duraturo.