14 segni inequivocabili che tua moglie ti vuole lasciare
La verità è che, nella maggior parte dei casi, voi mariti siete gli ultimi a notare i segnali di vostra moglie che vuole lasciarvi.
You simply don’t want to see the facts and you’re lying to yourself that it’s nothing but a short term crisis in your marriage. However, there are times when, like it or not, the harsh reality must be faced.
Times when a husband has to accept that his marriage is coming to an end, that his wife no longer loves him, and that she’ll probably file for divorce soon.
So, if you are not sure whether you’re imagining things or there really is something to worry about in your marriage, we’re here to help.
Leggete l'elenco seguente dei segnali più comuni di una moglie che vuole lasciare il marito e vedete se vi riconoscete in qualcuno di essi.
1. She is always picking fights…
Tutte le coppie sposate litigano ed è inevitabile che a un certo punto anche voi e il vostro coniuge litighiate per alcune cose che poi si rivelano sciocche e poco importanti.
After all, I’m sure you’ve had disagreements since the first day of your relazione a lungo termine.
Tuttavia, ora tutto sembra essere diverso. Anzi, sembra che sua moglie non faccia altro che litigare, come se le piacesse discutere con lei.
She acts as if she waits for a perfect opportunity to fight about literally anything. Well, if this is the case, it’s definitely an alarming sign that she might be thinking about divorcing you.
However, there is a possibility that she doesn’t have a “strong” enough reason to leave.
This woman clearly doesn’t have the courage to tell you straightforwardly that she wants out of the marriage, so she is making up reasons to clear her conscience.
Of course, you’re always wrong in all of these arguments.
It’s actually pretty simple: for her, it’s easier to perceive you as the bad guy than admit that she is responsible for the breakup of your marriage.
She is doing her best to provoke you into saying things you don’t actually mean or doing something to prove that she is completely right for wanting to start the divorce process.
Inoltre, è evidente che ci sono questioni irrisolte tra voi due e bagaglio emotivo del passato che sta causando la tensione che entrambi sentite in questo momento.
Maybe you haven’t worked on your problems properly and have tried to sweep them under the carpet. Well, everything you’ve both tried to run away from has risen to the surface.
Potrebbe sembrare che voi e vostra moglie stiate litigando per ogni piccola cosa.
If your wife is constantly picking fights, she is clearly not satisfied with your marriage but she doesn’t have the bravery to tackle some of the more serious issues.
Consequently, that dissatisfaction shows in your everyday life and it results in this drama you’re going through right now.
2. …or she’s stopped arguing completely
This might sound odd but if you’re wondering how to tell if your wife wants to leave you, you should also pay attention to the way she avoids arguments.
La verità è che troppe battaglie non hanno mai fatto bene a nessuno. relazione sana any good. However, don’t think it’s a good sign if your partner doesn’t want to argue with you at all.
Fidatevi di me: finché una donna assilla, si prende cura di te. Potrebbe sembrare fastidiosa con tutte le sue richieste, ma questo è un segno che vi ama ancora e che sta ancora investendo su di voi.
Finché si lamenta di qualcosa nel vostro matrimonio, significa che sta cercando di cambiare le cose in meglio. Significa che ha la speranza di poter fare la differenza.
However, once a woman becomes silent on the storms that are happening between you, sadly she’s let you go and there is not much you can do.
Even though she hasn’t told you this directly, inside of her head, your marriage is pretty much over.
At first, you might enjoy this kind of environment in your relationship. Everything may seem to be going smoothly and it might appear that you’ve finally achieved peace.
Tuttavia, questo tipo di situazione può essere piuttosto allarmante.
This is especially the case if your wife suddenly changed her ways and shifted from being a drama queen to someone you can’t fight with, even if you want to.
Sadly, this means that she’s probably given up on your marriage.
Questa donna si è stancata di ripetersi e di discutere sulle stesse cose per anni e ritiene che ogni ulteriore conversazione sia completamente inutile.
She has no energy left to fight with you or to fight for your marriage. She literally doesn’t care what happens next.
Basically, this woman doesn’t want to work on your issues. She doesn’t care if you can’t find the middle ground and she is not interested in putting any effort into your marriage anymore.
She doesn’t care if you do things your way, if some things are left unsaid, or if you think that she is wrong about something.
In fact, the biggest problem is that it looks like she’s lost all of her emotions towards you. She doesn’t hate you but she doesn’t love you either.
This woman has absolutely no hope that your marriage can be saved. She’s just let it be and now she is focusing on rebuilding her life without you around.
3. Trattiene l'affetto
There is one thing you need to know about women: they’re very different to men when it comes to affection. No, this is not just something they want you to believe – in most cases, it’s the truth.
As a man, you can probably sleep with any girl you find attractive. Don’t worry, I’m not saying that you will fare una mossa on every female around you, especially if you’re taken or married.
And off course, you won’t try it on with your friends or coworkers either. After all, there are some social or moral norms which prevent you from hitting on literally every woman around you.
However, if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll admit that technically, you could sleep with everyone you physically like, if you’re given the opportunity.
It’s enough for you to think a woman is attractive. You don’t have to develop any deeper emotions for her and you can forget that she ever existed the next day.
Well, in most cases, women don’t function that way. In fact, they need to have a deeper emotional connection with a guy in order to engage in any kind of physical contact with him.
Therefore, if your wife is withholding affection, it’s time to ask yourself whether your marriage is coming to an end.
I’m not only talking about sleeping together here.
I’m also referring to the fact that she doesn’t hold your hand the way she did before, she doesn’t kiss you with the same passion, she avoids your hugs at all costs and has stopped telling you “Ti amo“.
I won’t lie to you: all of this can be an indicator that she’s fallen out of love with you.
Her body doesn’t have the need for your presence anymore and she simply can’t and doesn’t want to force herself into pretending she feels something she doesn’t.
Odio essere io a dirtelo, ma questo può anche essere un segno della sua infedeltà.
I’m not saying that she is actually involved with someone else but she might be emotionally attached to another man now and she simply can’t bring herself to kiss you, let alone do something more.
Naturally, this doesn’t have to be the only reason for her behavior. Maybe she is going through a rough period, just doesn’t feel her best, or has fallen out of the habit of saying “I love you” all the time.
That’s why you need to talk to your wife regarding this topic, before jumping to any conclusions.
If she gets all defensive and tries to convince you that you’re making things up, sadly, it’s probable that you were right about her reasons.
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4. She’s stopped talking to you
Ciò che molte coppie sposate non notano è l'importanza della comunicazione nel loro matrimonio.
In effetti, una comunicazione sana è così importante che la sua mancanza può essere il primo segno che la vostra unione coniugale sta per andare in frantumi.
At first glance, you might think this is something you don’t have any issues with. You assume that a lack of communication just means your wife is ignoring you or giving you the silent treatment.
Well, let me tell you that the problem is actually much deeper under the surface. It’s not enough for you two to have a little everyday small talk for your communication to be on point.
Dopo tutto, siete partner di vita e dovreste essere migliori amici. Significa che vostra moglie dovrebbe parlarvi letteralmente di tutto, comprese le piccole cose che infastidiscono la maggior parte dei mariti.
She should see you as her comforter – the one person in the world she can tell literally everything to, without the fear of being judged.
Dovreste essere la persona con cui condivide i suoi problemi e quella da cui viene a chiedere consiglio ogni volta che si trova in difficoltà.
Dovrebbe essere lei ad apprezzare di più la sua opinione e a condividere i suoi segreti più oscuri, le sue paure più profonde e i suoi sogni più sfrenati.
In quanto marito, dovreste essere la prima persona da cui corre per raccontarvi tutto ciò che di bello e di brutto le è accaduto.
However, you can’t relate any of these sentences to your marriage. In fact, somewhere along the way, your wife has stopped talking to you.
Yes, she talks about the weather or your kids but she’s stopped really communicating with you. If you think about it, you’ll see that you know nothing about this woman’s life or thoughts anymore.
She doesn’t talk to you about her day, about the things that are bothering her, or about those which are making her happy.
She doesn’t value your opinion anymore and she treats you like a stranger, instead of the man she plans on spending il resto della sua vita con.
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5. She loves it when you’re not around
When you’re at the beginning of a healthy relationship, you want to spend every moment of your free time with your new love.
You can’t get enough of this person and it seems like an eternity wouldn’t be enough for you two to spend it together.
However, after a while, it’s natural that this changes. The farfalle and the initial infatuation go and it’s time to keep this person around and to make them a part of your regular life.
Dopo tutto, avete altri obblighi oltre alla vostra relazione.
You have best friends you also enjoy spending a lot of time with, a family you love being around, a job you like doing, hobbies which fulfill you…
Pertanto, smettete di essere così ossessionati dalla persona amata. L'ultima cosa che volete è stancarvi l'uno dell'altro.
This continues when you get married, as well. Even if you could, you and your wife don’t want to spend every moment of every day next to each other.
Dopo tutto, solo perché si si è sposato, it doesn’t mean that suddenly you’ve become conjoined twins. You are still separate individuals with your own interests and lives outside of the marriage.
Besides, having enough personal space and time is good for your mental health and it’s beneficial for your relationship.
Vi dà la possibilità di sentirvi mancanti, il che rafforza la vostra connessione emotiva.
Therefore, if your wife asks for some time for herself, that shouldn’t be a problem. This is especially the case if she is burdened with kids, the house, and other everyday duties.
In that situation, it’s perfectly normal that she needs a break from the entire world, including you. So, please don’t be insulted over this.
Tuttavia, avete un problema se lei sembra essere più che felice ogni volta che riesce a passare del tempo lontano da voi.
In fact, she loves it when you’re not around and uses every opportunity to avoid spending time with you, especially if we’re talking about alone time.
Your wife doesn’t want to go out on dates anymore, she refuses your invitation for a romantic getaway together, and it’s like she arranges her schedule so she can see you as little as possible.
In fact, every time you come home, she can’t help but look disappointed to see you.
6. Non è interessata alla vostra vita
You know how we already discussed the fact that this woman doesn’t let you in her life, mind, and heart? How she’s grown distant from you and shut you off completely?
Well, your troubles sadly don’t end there. In fact, your wife is not interested in your life, either.
Even when she sees that you’re feeling down, she won’t ask you what’s wrong. She doesn’t care about your feelings and she is not there to help you out with your issues.
This woman has stopped listening to you. She no longer remembers little things about you, she has no idea what you’re telling her, and she completely ignores your complaints.
Your wife is not there to comfort you when you need a shoulder to cry on and she doesn’t put any effort into making you smile. She doesn’t share your sadness or happiness.
La verità è che ultimamente non sa nulla della vostra vita. Non è interessata ai tuoi amici, al tuo lavoro o ai tuoi hobby.
Whenever you try talking to her, you feel like you’re talking to a wall. There is absolutely no feedback on her behalf and it is evident that she can’t wait for you to be done.
Even when she acts as if she’s listening to you, you can’t help but notice how distant she actually is. She is not engaged in your life, issues, and dilemmas and couldn’t care less about helping you out with them.
The same goes for her jealousy. Don’t misunderstand me: I’m not saying that a good sign of her amore incondizionato per voi sarebbe un comportamento possessivo.
Tuttavia, è del tutto normale che una donna che vi ama e tiene al vostro matrimonio sia leggermente gelosa.
I’m not saying that it’s okay for her not to trust you but even if she is completely sure about you, she’ll be a little paura di perderti.
Nevertheless, your wife doesn’t behave like this. It seems that you could be flirting with another woman right in front of her eyes and she wouldn’t even notice.
In fact, she might even be happy that you’ve found a replacement because that would make it easier for her to abandon you with a clear conscience and to put all the blame for the break up of your marriage on you.
She is not concerned about your whereabouts, she doesn’t care who you spend your time with, and it looks like she couldn’t care less if you are unfaithful.
7. She’s become secretive
Un altro dei cattivi segnali che tua moglie vuole lasciarti è il suo improvviso comportamento di segretezza.
As already stated, just because you are married, it doesn’t mean that your spouse doesn’t have the right for some personal space and time.
Lo stesso vale per la sua privacy. Non ha il dovere di raccontarvi ogni minimo dettaglio della sua vita, né voi avete il diritto di curiosare nel suo telefono e nelle sue cose.
Tuttavia, il concetto di privacy cambia significativamente quando ci si sposa.
Dopo tutto, voi e il vostro partner condividete una vita insieme ed è perfettamente naturale che non abbiate grandi segreti.
È esattamente così che funzionavano le cose tra lei e sua moglie in passato. Avete condiviso quasi tutto e nessuno dei due ha nascosto nulla all'altro.
Nevertheless, that’s all changed lately. In fact, your wife has become secretive and you’ve even caught her lying a few times.
All of a sudden, you know nothing about her daily habits. You don’t know where she is, who she spends all of her free time with, and she tells you nothing about her new, changed schedule.
She works late without ever mentioning she got a promotion or a raise. Your wife starts hanging out with people you’ve never met before and know nothing about.
Not only that: she is also extremely secretive about her phone. You’ve never been in the habit of going through it but it was always right where you could see it.
Ora le cose sono cambiate. Porta con sé la borsa e il telefono ovunque vada e si assicura di non lasciarli mai incustoditi vicino a voi.
Non solo: ha anche notato che sua moglie ha ricevuto molte più telefonate e messaggi di testo.
She’s constantly texting someone in your presence and can’t help but smile whenever she is on her phone or laptop.
All of this points to just one thing: she is probably being unfaithful. Maybe she’s met someone or started seeing a collaboratore.
However, it doesn’t necessarily mean that sua moglie ha davvero una relazione. There is a possibility that she’s started to like someone new and she is only flirting with or texting him.
O sta solo pensando di mettersi in gioco? Forse vuole trovare una rete di sicurezza prima di lasciarti e sta esplorando le sue opzioni prima di andare dall'avvocato divorzista.
Potrebbe aver installato qualche app di incontri o incontrato qualcuno online. In ogni caso, questo tipo di comportamento è inaccettabile e rientra certamente nella categoria dell'infedeltà.
The worst part is that she gets all defensive when you try to confront her about all of this. She is trying to make you look like a fool and claims that you’re just imagining things.
For example, when you ask her who she’s been texting or where she spent her day, your wife starts arguing with you.
She accuses you of being overly possessive and tells you that you’re invading her privacy, without ever giving you a concrete answer to your question.
8. Tutto ciò che la riguarda la infastidisce
Quando ci si innamora di una persona all'inizio, ci piace tutto di lei, anche le parti della sua personalità che probabilmente non sono così attraenti per gli altri.
Tu amare i loro difetti because they make them who they are and you wouldn’t change a thing about your sweetheart.
Tuttavia, con il tempo, quando le farfalle volano via, è inevitabile che entrambi i partner si tolgano gli occhiali rosa.
You can’t help but see each other for who you really are and you stop idealizing your significant other.
Anche in questo caso, però, non avete alcuna intenzione di cambiare il partner. Li accettate completamente, comprese le loro imperfezioni.
Ebbene, è proprio così che funzionavano le cose nel vostro matrimonio. Purtroppo, con il tempo tutto è cambiato.
Ora sembra che tutto ciò che vi riguarda dia fastidio a vostra moglie. La cosa buffa è che le danno fastidio soprattutto le cose che amava di lei quando vi siete conosciuti.
Sembra che sia addirittura infastidita dal modo in cui svolge le sue funzioni di base.
All of a sudden, she can’t stand the way you snore at night so you’ve started sleeping in separate bedrooms.
She is freaked out by the way you chew your food too loudly, she doesn’t like the way you dress or cut your hair, she can’t stand the scent of your perfume…
At one point, you become scared that she’ll have something to say about the way you breathe.
Well, it’s one thing if this is just a phase that lasts a couple of days. Maybe your wife is just nervous about other things and is taking it out on you.
In that case, you either talk to her and tell her that you’re not her doormat or just let her be because she’ll stop with her nasty behavior soon enough.
However, if this has been going on for a while, you certainly have a problem. It’s a telltale sign that this woman can’t stand your presence and that she is sick and tired of you.
I know this sounds harsh but that’s exactly how things are. Don’t beat yourself up about this because it’s just the way your wife feels, regardless of how you behave.
In fact, you could be the best husband in the world but she probably wouldn’t change her mind about you.
If you become romantic, she’ll be sickened by it too, if you buy her presents, she won’t like it, and if you start courting her all over again, she’ll think of it as too cheesy.
Questo tipo di comportamento può anche essere un brutto segno di infedeltà da parte di lei.
Maybe she’s met someone new and now she is comparing the two of you and is bothered by the fact that you are no longer the man she is in love with.
9. Si concentra maggiormente sul suo aspetto
Non c'è assolutamente nulla di sbagliato in un donna sposata che si prende ancora cura del suo aspetto.
In fact, it’s a great thing and is much better than a woman who stops paying attention to her looks the moment she says “I do”.
Nevertheless, if your wife has suddenly put all of her focus on her appearance, despite the fact that it wasn’t so important to her in the past, she may be trying to impress some other man besides you.
She’s started exercising and has become obsessed with becoming fit overnight. She’s changed her diet and counts her calories, even though her weight has never concerned her much.
She’s changed her hairdo and her entire style.
She is constantly buying new clothes and she pays special attention to her laundry. She puts on a lot more makeup than she used to and she’s started using a different perfume.
In pratica, sua moglie sta facendo di tutto per tornare ad avere l'aspetto di una ragazzina. Passa ore e ore davanti allo specchio.
Suona familiare, vero? All'inizio potreste essere felici di vedere questo cambiamento.
Eravate felici che vostra moglie avesse iniziato a prestare più attenzione a se stessa e pensavate che lo facesse per essere più bella e attraente per voi.
Tuttavia, dopo un po', avete capito che questa trasformazione non ha nulla a che fare con il vostro matrimonio.
She still couldn’t care less how she looks when you two are home alone but puts all of her efforts into looking her best whenever she goes out without you.
Beh, mi dispiace essere io a dirtelo, ma è probabile che stia cercando di lasciare una buona impressione su qualche altro ragazzo.
Maybe she is not being unfaithful but she is definitely in love with some other man who she’s trying to seduce.
Sua moglie non ha alcun interesse a far rivivere la scintilla nel vostro matrimonio. She doesn’t see the need to win you over and she expects you to love her no matter how she looks.
However, she wants to be as beautiful as possible for her new crush. She always has enough energy and money to invest in her looks, since she knows it’s the first thing most men notice.
10. She’s told you she needs a break
Let’s be real: divorziare and actually visiting the divorce attorney is a huge step. Therefore, it’s completely normal that your wife doesn’t have the guts to tell you that she wants out of your marriage.
No, I’m not saying this woman fears you. However, she did promise to love and cherish you for as long as she breathes, and telling someone you’re leaving them is never easy.
That’s why many people do something different instead of immediately asking for a divorce: they ask their spouse for a break from their relationship.
In pratica, vogliono mettere alla prova il loro matrimonio. La coppia rimane comunque sposata, ma si prende un periodo di pausa per capire come stanno le cose.
This is exactly what your wife has been mentioning lately. She’s told you she needs a while for some introspection and to decide whether marrying you was a mistake.
Vuole capire se le mancherete e se ce la farà senza di voi. Vuole capire se il vostro matrimonio vale la pena di essere salvato or if it’s broken beyond repair.
Well, she wouldn’t have this break on her mind if you weren’t having some marriage problems, would she?
Pertanto, se sua moglie le ha suggerito di farlo, la prego di prenderla molto sul serio.
In fact, asking for a break is usually one of the warning signs your wife wants to leave you but doesn’t know how to do it.
Forse sta già frequentando un'altra persona e vuole provare la sua nuova relazione.
Nevertheless, she doesn’t want to cut all ties with you since she is not certain that things will work out with this new man.
D'altra parte, c'è anche la possibilità che sia davvero onesta nelle sue intenzioni.
Forse non è più sicura del vostro matrimonio e vuole che entrambi riflettiate da soli.
In ogni caso, se volete salvare la vostra relazione, this is a chance to work on it. Remember that she hasn’t said her final goodbye just yet so there might be a chance of fixing your marriage.
Just don’t let her play with you. Don’t make your wife think that she can go out there and do whatever she wants, while you patiently wait for her to change her mind and come back to you, no matter what.
Parlate con voi stessi e verificate se questa rottura è qualcosa che potete affrontare. Se la risposta è sì, accettate la sua proposta.
However, don’t forget to set up some basic terms.
First and foremost, set a date by which you’re both required to make a decision about whether you’ll get divorced or if you’ll give your marriage another chance.
Inoltre, siate precisi sul fatto di tornare a frequentare la gente.
Ricordate che esiste la possibilità di tornare insieme so don’t give her the green light to see other men if that will be an issue in your marriage in the future.
Another thing you should agree on during this break is the amount of contact you can have. Of course, if you have children together, you’ll have to stay in touch, whether you like it or not.
On the other hand, if it’s just the two of you, find a compromise. Will you go completely no contact so you can make a decision with a cold head or will you call each other occasionally?
11. You’re no longer her priority
Il tuo La moglie non è mai stata un tipo egoista. Anzi, ha fatto di tutto per dimostrarvi il suo amore e si è assicurata che sapeste sempre quanto ci teneva a voi.
Well, lately, she’s become a real narcissist and an ego-centric. She’s been putting her needs before yours and she’s been acting as if compromise is the last thing on her mind.
Whether you like to admit this or not, the truth is that you are no longer your wife’s priority.
It’s not a problem that she’s putting herself first or that she loves herself more than she loves you – that is also what you should be doing.
The issue is that she’s been putting everything and everyone in front of you. This woman is treating you like her second choice and last resort and not as the person she chose to share her life with.
La sua famiglia, i suoi migliori amici, i suoi colleghi, il suo lavoro, i suoi hobby e tutto il resto sembrano essere più importanti di voi.
Your needs and emotions come last and she acts like she couldn’t care less about how her behavior affects you.
Questo si vede anche nelle piccole cose.
She cancels the plans you two had whenever someone else calls her but she will never rearrange a get together with her friends just because you’ve asked her to.
Your wife forgets your birthday or anniversary date. She doesn’t put even the slightest effort into surprising you for
Valentine’s day or into being romantic on any other occasion.
She doesn’t take care of you and is no longer worried if you’re safe and sound. The worst part is that we’re talking about a woman who was always attentive.
Si preoccupava se dormivate bene, se mangiavate abbastanza e se eravate stanchi.
Don’t misunderstand me: I’m not telling you that your wife should act like your mother but behaving like this is also not acceptable.
Non fa più sacrifici per la vostra felicità. Tutto deve andare a modo suo e i vostri desideri sono del tutto irrilevanti.
This woman isn’t doing anything to please you or to make you happy. She is nowhere to be found when you need her the most and most of the time, you feel like you’re alone in this marriage.
12. Vuole diventare finanziariamente più indipendente
Even though you are married, some kind of financial independence between partners shouldn’t be a question.
In fact, even though one of you doesn’t have a job, you are still completely equal in your relationship and your wife shouldn’t be in a situation where she needs to beg you to give her some money.
This is especially true if she is a stay at home mom. Even though she doesn’t earn, she still contributes to your household and should in no way be subordinate to you.
Tuttavia, siete ancora una coppia e vivete sotto lo stesso tetto. Ciò significa che avete molte spese in comune e che anche la maggior parte delle vostre finanze dovrebbe essere comune.
Uno dei segni rivelatori che tua moglie vuole lasciarti è il fatto che all'improvviso vuole diventare più indipendente dal punto di vista finanziario.
Vedete, se ha intenzione di presentare un'istanza per divorzio, it means that she’ll have to live by herself. It also means that she needs some starting capital to do so.
After all, she probably plans on moving out and now she won’t have your finances to rely on. That is exactly why she is saving and wants to become completely independent when it comes to money.
Se non lavora, cercherà attivamente un lavoro, anche se voi ve la cavate benissimo senza un'entrata extra in casa.
On the other hand, if she has a job, she’ll become secretive about her financial situation. She’ll probably hide money from you or lie that her paycheck has been reduced.
The worst part is that she doesn’t have a concrete answer to your questions when you confront her about this problem. She is clearly hiding something or doing things behind your back.
Purtroppo, questo tipo di comportamento può essere un altro segnale d'allarme della sua infedeltà. Vivere una doppia vita costa!
13. She doesn’t include you in her future plans
Quando avete pronunciato le vostre promesse di matrimonio, sia voi che il vostro partner avete promesso di trascorrere la vostra vita insieme.
Avete deciso entrambi di voler invecchiare l'uno accanto all'altro e che un giorno solo la morte vi avrebbe separati.
Ciò significa che sua moglie vede un futuro accanto a lei. Pertanto, quando smette di includervi nei suoi progetti, è certamente una bandiera rossa di cui dovreste preoccuparvi.
She has probably already decided to leave you – she just hasn’t informed you about it yet.
When she looks ahead to her life a few years from now, she doesn’t see herself as a married woman; at least not married to you.
Of course, she doesn’t say this directly. However, you’re smart enough to notice the hints.
It’s like the pronoun “we” doesn’t exist in her dictionary anymore.
Parla solo delle cose che vuole fare, del modo in cui spera di organizzare la sua vita e dei progetti futuri che riguardano solo lei.
Tutto inizia con piccole cose. Organizza una cena senza nemmeno nominarvi, pianifica una vacanza con le amiche ma senza di voi, parla di andare via per un fine settimana e così via.
La cosa peggiore è che un giorno ha iniziato a fare progetti a lungo termine come se fosse completamente single.
Quando parla di cambiare carriera, di trasferirsi o di iniziare la sua vita in una nuova città, non ti consulta mai a riguardo.
The sad truth is that you’ve already been erased from this woman’s life and she hasn’t even had the decency to tell you about it.
14. Rifiuta la consulenza matrimoniale
Truth to be told, every long term relationship and marriage has its issues. What I’m trying to say is that not every marital crisis means the end has come.
Esistono infatti professionisti e consulenti matrimoniali che si occupano di questo tipo di problemi. Dopo tutto, questa potrebbe essere solo una fase che voi e vostra moglie supererete con successo.
Tuttavia, c'è solo una condizione per vincere questa sfida. Dovete essere entrambi disposti a lavorare sul vostro matrimonio e avere il desiderio di salvarlo.
Quando rifiuta la consulenza matrimoniale, è senza dubbio uno dei segni sicuri che vostra moglie vuole lasciarvi.
She is not interested in dealing with your marriage problems and she doesn’t want to put any effort into giving your marriage another shot.
According to her, everything between you two is pretty much over and she probably won’t change her mind. In that case, you should probably see this as a red flag that your divorce process is inevitable.
