Smettete di scendere a compromessi per farli restare

La vita è piena di compromessi, isn’t it?

And if life is full of compromises, the only thing that seems fair is to split those compromises, don’t you think?

Sì, gli appuntamenti sono disordinati, cercare di mantenere i legami in questo mondo folle e veloce richiede molta energia e a volte ci sono cose che non sono prioritarie e quindi si rinuncia a farle. 

That’s okay. 

Dovreste rinunciare alle cose che non sono importanti. 

But you have to be careful with what you’re giving up on. 

Please don’t ever put yourself in that basket. 

Don’t ever put yourself in the non prioritario cestino. 

Il modo in cui vi trattate crea un precedente per gli altri su come trattarvi. Loro imparano da voi.

You’re the one showing them what you’re willing to tolerate and what not. Don’t teach them that their choices are much more important than yours. 

Don’t teach them that their time is more valuable than yours. 

If you respond to their texts immediately and don’t keep them waiting, you should get just as much in return.

Don’t treat their 3 ore dopo reply as something normal. Don’t be happy they decided to text back at least. No. It’s not enough. 

Se si riorganizzano i propri piani per vederli e loro ti disdicono all'ultimo minuto, don’t be all thrilled and happy when they invite you out the next time.

If the pattern is constantly repeated, it’s not okay. Seeing them only on their terms is not okay.  No. It’s not enough. 

Voi siete importanti.

I vostri progetti sono importanti.

I vostri desideri sono importanti quanto i loro. 

Your job, your ambitions, desires, hobbies are as big and as important as anyone else’s. Don’t let them take that from you.

L'unica persona che dovete tenere nella vostra vita siete voi. 

The only person you’re supposed to hold on tightly to and not let go of is yourself. 

Trust me, you can live without them, but you can’t live without yourself, and you care about yourself the least. 

Le persone vanno e vengono. Gli amanti si separano. Gli amici scelgono strade diverse e si allontanano.

Those who swore to stay together forever suddenly change their minds and leave, and as sad as it may sound, it’s okay. It’s life.

Succede così. Con il tempo si perdono le persone. Ma per favore, non perdete mai voi stessi. 

You can’t force people to stay in your life. Staying is a choice, so be thankful for people who choose you.

You must’ve seen people leave a 5-10 year relationship, turn around and get married to someone they’ve known for 6 months, and do all the things their ex always begged them to do. Stop preaching to people. Stop compromising for them.

They hear you. They’re never going to be the people you want them to be because you’re not the one they want in their life.

Le persone cambiano per chi vogliono. È così semplice. 

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. 

You are supposed to love people and compromise but only to the point where you’re not choosing them over yourself, to the point where you’re not compromising your happiness for their presence.

Cercate di trovare un equilibrio tra il compromettere i vostri desideri e il rendere voi stessi una priorità. E fatelo solo con persone che sono disposte a fare lo stesso con voi. 

Essere innamorati in questa generazione è terrificante. La fedeltà è così rara e le persone sono pronte a scegliere un buon momento piuttosto che una buona cosa.

So I’ll make you a deal. Hear me out.

Stop letting them touch you and kiss you and take up your time if they don’t want anything serious.

Stop checking up on them if they’re not checking up on you. Stop rescheduling your life when they can’t fit you in their schedule at all. 

Smettere di rendersi infelici per renderli felici. Smettete di implorare la loro presenza. 

Turn the game around. Dedicate all the time you were wasting on people who don’t deserve it to yourself. Build yourself up. Talk nicely to yourself. Take yourself out. Treat yourself. Be your own privilege. 

E cosa succederà? 

All those you were ‘begging’ to stay will slowly start disappearing from your life.

Because the only person who was putting in the effort for that relationship will stop and then what’s left? 

Sarete voi, circondati da poche persone, ma poche degne del vostro tempo. Sarà come se un elefante vi avesse tolto una zampa dal petto.

There will be plenty of life’s battles to fight, but at least you’ll know who you can count on.