Saprò di aver trovato l'uomo giusto quando avrà superato queste caselle

The other day, I was talking to my grandma about relationships. You see, I’ve been single for a while now (and I had my share of crappy relationships before that) so you can assume that she’s worried.

You are probably thinking: “What could an old lady like her tell you about today’s dating?” After all, everything was very different back in her day.

Well, I promise you that she knows more than any of us. In fact, truth be told, I know literally nothing about the man I’m supposed to grow old with.

You see, for as long as I can remember, I either had too high expectations or no standards at all. Of course, when I’m crazy about a guy, he is basically allowed to treat me badly.

He doesn’t have to be ambitious or handsome. Are the butterflies in my stomach throwing a party every time he looks at me? Well, if they do, that should do it.

On the other hand, when I’m with a guy who doesn’t give me that tickling sensation, I’m bothered by everything he does. This is when my standards suddenly skyrocket and when nothing is good enough.

Well, my nana told me that I’ll know I’ve found the right man when he checks off all of these boxes. So, I’m just here sharing her wisdom.

È fedele

When you’re looking for your Mr. Perfect, you want him to stay faithful for the rest of your life. You don’t want him flirting with other girls or fooling around behind your back in any other way.

Questo dovrebbe essere uno standard di base in ogni relazione. Tuttavia, mia nonna dice che c'è qualcosa di più importante della fedeltà: la lealtà.

Quando un uomo è leale, è automaticamente anche fedele.

When he is loyal, he’ll never do anything to betray your trust, he’ll fight for the two of you with all of his strength and he never does anything that might endanger your relationship.

Ti fa sentire al sicuro

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When you’re with this man, you’ll know that he’s there for you and that he isn’t going anywhere, no matter what. You don’t live in a constant state of fear.

You’re not worried that he might leave the second a hotter girl walks past him. You don’t have to wait for him to leave you as soon as you gain some extra pounds or the moment your first wrinkles or gray hairs show up.

He isn’t threatened by you

Back in the old days, men couldn’t stand having a more educated or successful wife.

You probably think that this changed over the course of time. Well, I hate to be the one to burst your bubble but sadly, it hasn’t.

In fact, there are many guys who still feel threatened by their women; they’ve just gotten better at hiding their insecurities.

Ecco perché il vostro Mr. Right deve essere orgoglioso di tutto ciò che siete in grado di fare. Dovrebbe considerarsi fortunato ad avere una donna ambiziosa.

So, instead of holding you back, this man will push you forward. Only next to him will you achieve all those great things you’re destined to accomplish.

È il vostro migliore amico

Alla fine della giornata, tutto ciò che volete è il vostro migliore amico che vi tenga la mano dopo una lunga giornata di lavoro. Volete qualcuno che vi capisca e vi ami allo stesso modo, sia nel momento peggiore che in quello migliore.

Quindi, invece di cercare un amante, cercate anche un amico. Cercate qualcuno che vi faccia ridere e vi asciughi le lacrime.

Cercate la vostra persona, un uomo che sarà il rivestimento d'argento delle vostre nuvole. Un uomo che vi sarà accanto nella buona e nella cattiva sorte, in salute e in malattia, nei giorni belli e in quelli brutti.

Per concludere

Forget about the idea that you have to pick between a man who awakens the deepest emotions in you and the one you’re compatible with. Don’t think that this man won’t give you the butterflies you want.

Fidatevi di me, potete avere entrambe le cose!