Un vero uomo si scuserà perché tiene più a te che al suo orgoglio

Non vi stancate mai degli uomini che fanno finta di non sapere cosa hanno fatto di male?

What’s worse, they expect you to forget about it or ridicule your behavior and accuse you of being passive-aggressive.

I’m done with that. I refuse to waste my time on men who aren’t able to put their ego aside.

For how long do women just passively have to accept that men are ‘’like that’’ and keep living their life caged in someone’s fake sense of self?

A man who loves you will not want to make you feel like you’re less than him. He will hate to see you hurt or in pain.

He won’t put his pride or some silly fight above your love. When there’s love, there’s a way.

When we’re selfless, it’s easy to lasciar andare l'orgoglio e vedere oltre il problema superficiale.

Ma perché l'autoriflessione è così difficile per gli uomini in generale?

It doesn’t require any work, just objective thinking about their behavior. How hard is it to say two little words?

Why is it so hard to say I’m sorry? Well, there are a few reasons.

The first reason is they have a hard time admitting they’re wrong. Questo li fa apparire meno competenti e loro lo odiano.

If they say they’re sorry, it means you win – or that’s how they see it.

Needless to say – men don’t like to lose; they don’t like to feel weak.

Il secondo motivo è rispondere con un sì, ma aggiungere il piccolo, irritante ma subito dopo.

They play the blame game. I did this but you did that first. This doesn’t get you anywhere.

Il terzo motivo è la paura della vulnerabilità. Admitting you’re wrong is admitting you are a vulnerable being.

Unfortunately, many men are brainwashed into thinking they shouldn’t show their feelings, and sometimes this is the cost – a pointless obstacle in communication that could be resolved so quickly.

Nessuna di queste ragioni giustifica la mancanza di scuse, ma ne spiega solo le possibili ragioni.

If a man can’t apologize after doing something wrong – ti sta mancando di rispetto. It’s clear as day, no doubt about that.

It’s very easy to see that he doesn’t value your feelings. Why else would he prioritize his pride?

Why is something banal more important than love and his significant other’s feelings?

The truth is – women don’t really want that much. They just want a uomo maturo who can admit that he’s wrong when he’s wrong.

With a mature man – you can resolve any problem with a conversation. There are no unnecessary fights and silly pride.

There’s no jealousy and no mind games. He is responsible and careful with words. He doesn’t let his ego loose.

Un uomo maturo vi apprezzerà anche quando non siete d'accordo, perché sa che i disaccordi fanno parte della relazione.

Vi sosterrà con tutto il cuore nei vostri sforzi e vi amerà per quello che siete.

He won’t be afraid of saying those two words – in fact, he will encourage communication and problem-solving.

Un vero uomo cerca sempre di migliorare la situazione piuttosto che mantenerla stagnante. Quale obiettivo migliore potrebbe esserci per una relazione seria?

Per crescere, le cose devono evolversi e cambiare. Devono migliorare e diventare più saggi e non rimanere bloccati in un circolo vizioso di problemi e paure del passato.

Le relazioni sono l'arma definitiva contro l'orgoglio e ogni tipo di comportamento egoistico.

In a relationship you just can’t be selfish – otherwise, it’s a very dysfunctional relationship.

That’s why it’s always better to learn from the things that trigger us and make us feel the things we’d rather not feel.

Dobbiamo lottare contro le debolezze e questo include un ego fragile.

The funny thing is – it’s so easy to just admit something, let go, and learn from your mistake. But that would take a mature man.

If your man is ready to admit his wrongs – he has his priorities listed correctly.

If your man apologizes after being wrong – know that he’s a keeper.

That means that to him – your love comes first, sempre… and that’s what true love is about.