My Dear,
I know that you are giving your best to satisfy all those people around you. But in all that mess, you are forgetting to take care of yourself. So just stop for a second and breathe.
Your life mission is not to save the world, so don’t do it, okay? Take some time for yourself only and enjoy the things that you didn’t have time to do for a while. Listen to your favorite song or go to the movies with your friends. But don’t let other people’s problems affect you so badly.
You don’t need to save all of them.
If they want to, they can change their own lives. So, just leave them to handle their problems alone. Because you can’t carry all their problems on your shoulders. If you continue doing that, you will burn out. And then you won’t be good to yourself or to your friends.
Maybe you are doing all that to get away from your own problems.
Because it is much easier to give advice than to get it and to follow it in your own life. Maybe you are so focused on others that you forget your own problems and think that somehow, as if by magic, they will fade away.
Maybe that is just your way of dealing with all that stress accumulated inside of you.
No matter how much you want to save the world, you can’t do it.
You are not a hero who will save all those who suffer or take their pain away. Your heart is too small to store all those feelings. You will end up in tears, completely broken because you didn’t think about yourself in time.
Please, remember that some things can’t be fixed. The same is with people. Some of them don’t want to be fixed and some of them are simply not ready to do that yet. So let it go. It is okay to let it go and leave others to decide about their lives.
You set your expectations high, thinking that if you are goodie, others will feel the same way.
But in most cases that is not true. People are self-centered and selfish and most of them wouldn’t help you if they saw you suffering.
I know that you want to help everyone but there are times when you need to say, ‘No.’
You need to make yourself a priority and not an option. Because if you don’t do it, nobody else will. If you continue doing all this you will lose yourself in the chaos.
And once you lose yourself, it is difficult to be the old you again. So, be smart. Help people but don’t forget to help yourself in the first place. And every time you feel like not getting out of your home, stay there. You need yourself and others can wait.
What you have been doing is amazing and I just wish there were more people like you in this cruel place.
I wish that all those you helped so many times would take your hand and go through life with you when you are experiencing a bad phase of your life. I wish that others would be so careful and caring like you are.
You are worthy. You are amazing. And above all, your heart is made out of gold. I hope you will find a person who will be with you in better or worse, treating you like a queen, because that’s what you are – a queen.
I hope someone will see that brightness and honesty in your eyes and provide you with the same.
And I hope he will be worth the wait. So, continue doing what you are the best at – spreading the love and affection – but don’t forget to keep some of that for yourself.
The world is lucky to have a person like you!
With love,
One who has been there
