Failures and disappointments are a part of our life but it is important how people deal with them. Some people just ignore the problems they have, not thinking too much about them but others spend days thinking about what went wrong. And no matter how much you try to avoid it, there will be times in your life when people will disappoint you. You just need to decide if they are worthy of your tears and your pain. So, for all of you out there who have been beaten down by life and left at the mercy of other people, here are some helpful tips on how to get back on your feet again.
1. You should face the truth
Bad things won’t go away if you just close your eyes to them. That’s why you should face the truth and admit to yourself that you have had a rough time in your life. When people disappoint you, it is important to show them that no matter how much they try, they will never see you down. Whatever you do, don’t deny that the problem exists and try to solve it ASAP. If you take some time to think about it, it will be too late and you will forget what you wanted to say to the people who hurt you.
2. You should mourn for some time
If a problem comes along, you can’t just pretend that everything is okay. It is totally fine to cry and to ask the universe why the hell all those problems happened to you and why those people who pretended to be your friends disappointed you. If you skip this stage, you will never find the sense of your life. You will never be able to answer yourself why you didn’t defend yourself when people hurt you. In the end, you will be sad and mad at yourself for not doing something to change your life.
3. You shouldn’t feel like a victim
Okay, people hurt you, but so what? It won’t be the first or the last time someone does that. Screw them. Instead of playing the victim, get back on your feet and continue living your life. You can’t spend the rest of your life thinking about all those bad people around you who did you harm. The more time you devote to them, the worse you will feel. So just let it go, okay? It is true that something bad happened to you but at least now you know who your real friends are and who just pretended to be one just so they could get what they wanted.
4. Don’t forget to be kind to yourself
Whatever you do, don’t blame yourself for the bad things that happened to you. Maybe the reason for the fight with your best friend is not you but them and maybe it is not meant for the two of you to remain friends. You should know that once you lose something, there will be something much better waiting for you. So don’t look back and leave the past where it belongs. Only then will you find the peace you deserve.
5. Check if you are being realistic
Sometimes people think that they aren’t the problem in some fight or a bad situation that happened to them. But before you point the finger at someone else, first take some time and think about all the things you did in that situation. Think about if you put in enough effort to the things that mean a lot to you or if you just went with the flow, thinking that someone else would handle your problems. You see, life is a serious business and you need to be extra careful with what you say, what you do and sometimes what you think. Don’t forget that your actions can affect others and they can hurt them even if that wasn’t your intention.
6. Remember that every end is a fresh start
When people disappoint you, there are a lot of things that you can learn from it. For example, you could learn that you should never reveal your darkest secrets to someone you have just met or that you shouldn’t get attached so easily because people can hurt you. Some of them might be jealous of your life and they would do anything to make you feel miserable. So, when any kind of a relationship finishes, just look at it like a fresh start. Move on and start again from scratch. Only then will you be truly satisfied and you will know that you did everything in your power to be happy.
7. Give yourself a break
When someone disappoints you, don’t react immediately. Take some time to go through the problem and try to find a solution. And please, have a rest from all that you have been through all this time. Get away from people and familiar places and take some time just for yourself. When people are alone, they have more time to think about what they want in their lives. You don’t want to just please others and not know what you will do with your life. In order to love someone else or to help someone else, you first need to help yourself. And the best way to do that is to be left alone.
8. Create a distraction
If someone very special to you has disappointed you, try not to think about them. I know that is very difficult but that’s why you need to create a distraction. So, do something that you haven’t done for a while, something that makes you happy. Go out with your friends and enjoy life like there is no tomorrow. Life is too short to waste on unimportant people and the sooner you realize that the better your life will be. Once all those bad days pass and you can finally see the sky without clouds, you will be proud of yourself because you did something good for you when you most needed it. And in the end, that is what matters the most.