You are anything but a fool. You are an intelligent, independent, smart and self-sufficient woman. You know how much you deserve and you know your worth.
So, what exactly is the problem? Why do you keep letting the wrong people in and giving them your heart? Why do you keep wasting your time and energy on those who don’t deserve it?
Why do you allow others to exhaust you and to drain all of your positive energy? Why do you keep holding on to someone, when you know very well that you should let go?
I know that cutting off toxic people from your life isn’t easy. That breaking all ties with someone who’s been around for years means stepping out of your comfort zone. I know you are scared of doing all of this, even when you know it is the only option you have.
But I am here to tell you that it’s time for you to choose yourself over everyone else. And most of all, I am here to tell you that you are strong enough to do it, even if you don’t think so.
Please, understand that it’s time for you to stop caring for others more than they care for you. Remember that someone’s efforts are the only reflection of their love for you. If a guy acts like he doesn’t give a damn about you, it is probably the truth and you better start believing him.
And this goes for everyone else in your life as well. You are not everyone’s mother and making others feel good and rearranging their lives is not your duty.
Instead of trying to improve someone else, focus on becoming the best possible version of yourself. Work on making yourself happy because that is the only responsibility you have and that is something you owe to yourself.
Stop loving the wrong guys more than you love yourself. Actually, stop loving anyone more than you love yourself. Finally, put yourself first and stop prioritizing those who treat you like a second choice.
Instead, start appreciating your own time and efforts and everyone around you will follow. Start respecting yourself and give yourself the love you expect from others.
Stop chasing the wrong men and stop begging for their attention or love. The moment you see that a guy is playing mind games with you and the moment you see he is trying to make you go after him, understand that he isn’t worthy of your trouble.
Because the right man will give you all of his love, without you having to ask for it. He will give you all of his attention and he will never make you feel unwanted or unloved. And if your guy is not like this, just move on from him, as much as it hurts.
Stop trying to fix broken people who don’t want to heal. You need to understand that there are some people who are incapable of loving and it is not your job to ty to save them because you’ll never succeed in doing so. Instead, you’ll just end up being dragged into their darkness and they’ll end up damaging you.
Stop waiting for a change that will never come. You are a big girl now and you know that sadly, sometimes your love isn’t enough for those who are incapable of loving, regardless of its magnitude or depth.
So, stop making excuses and stop justifying someone mistreating you. He doesn’t love you in his own special way and he isn’t emotionally damaged—he is a jerk who keeps on breaking your heart and it’s about time you accept this.
Stop allowing others to infect you with their toxicity and negativity. Stop thinking about everyone else’s problems, especially when these people couldn’t care less about you.
Don’t get me wrong—I know that you are an empath who can’t stay immune to the misfortune of others. But you need to understand that you can’t be everyone’s shoulder to cry on and that you don’t have the ability to repair all the damage in this world.
I know you are strong but you are also only a human being. You are not this superwoman who can make everything right overnight.
So please, keep your energy for yourself. Because once you get into trouble, there won’t be anyone to give you a hand. There won’t be anyone you can count on and you’ll understand that you are on your own.
And that is when you’ll understand that you need all the inner strength you can get. When you’ll understand that you are the one who has to pick up the broken pieces of herself and that you are the one who has to put herself back together, without anyone’s help. That is when you’ll understand that you can’t rely on anyone but yourself.
I am an English Language and Literature teacher. I am a writer. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend… But most of all, I am a woman, just like you.
A woman who has experienced the same things you’ve been going through. A woman who’s been fighting battles similar to yours. A woman who wants you to learn from her mistakes and who wants to help you empower yourself.