Breaking up, going away, and coming back… That’s it. The main difference between lust and love, between being physically and emotionally attached to someone.

When someone truly loves you, they will never leave, no matter what. They chose to love you and they’ll keep choosing you for better or for worse forever.

You can’t be indecisive when it comes to loving someone. You shouldn’t feel insecure about loving someone. Even though people think that love is complicated, it is actually the most obvious and simple thing in the world.

Either you love someone or you don’t. There is nothing in between there. And if you do honestly love a person, you’ll do anything in this world for that love and you would never risk losing them.

No, love is never complicated. People are and they make it look that way. I know it’s hard, very hard. To admit the fact that the person you love the most doesn’t love you at all.

To admit the fact that the only person who you really want in your life doesn’t deserve to be in it at all.

I know it’s difficult for you to understand.

How can he say that he loves you in one moment and then leave you the next; but the fact is that you don’t have such a dark heart as he does and that’s why you’ll never be able to understand his awful little games.

You have to understand that he doesn’t keep coming back because he loves you, no.

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He does it only because you’re his safe harbor where he can hide from some storms of life and because he knows that you’ll be waiting for him every time.

The worst thing is that he’s aware of your unconditional love, he knows how much you love him and he uses it in the worst way possible. He uses it to emotionally manipulate you.

My dear girl, don’t you ever even dare to think that you might be the problem because that would definitely be your biggest mistake.

You can never be guilty of his leaving. Don’t you ever think that you’ll keep him in your life by changing yourself and loving him even harder (if it’s even possible to love him more). Because you won’t.

You can’t keep a man who doesn’t even want to stay.

You can never force anything in life. You can’t force people to stay by your side, nor their hearts to fall in love with you. It’s just not healthy.

However, you’re guilty of one thing. It’s your fault that he’s always leaving and coming back because you allow him to do so.

You’re hurting yourself only by welcoming him every time he decides to come back. You’re breaking your own heart piece by piece every time you allow him to enter your life again.

I know that it’s hard to turn your back on the person you love, even though you’re aware they don’t deserve you.

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But it’s really the best decision for your own well-being.

The next time he comes back knocking on your door, you shouldn’t open it. In fact, you should slam it in his face and show him what you really mean about his comeback.

Be strong. Direct all that love you feel for him toward yourself. Apologize to your heart for breaking it, then forgive yourself for being so naive.

No matter how much you love him, I know that you’re tired. Tired of his false promises and his little games.

I know that you’re tired of giving all of yourself to a man who has never proved to you that he’s worthy of you and all of that you do for him.

You already wasted so much time on him. It’s high time to put an end to all of that. It’s time to finally choose yourself for the first time.

In the end, always be grateful to God for all the people and experiences He gives you, the good ones as much as the bad ones.

He always does things for a reason, just like He sent you that man to teach you what true love should never look like.

You’ll definitely need some time but you’ll heal. You’ll leave it all in the past where it belongs indeed and you’ll turn to the future.

To your beautiful future where a man who’s never going to leave you is waiting for you patiently.