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No One Loves Me: Understanding And Dealing With This Feeling

No One Loves Me: Understanding And Dealing With This Feeling

We’ve all been there at some point in our lives: set alone in our rooms wondering “What if no one loves me?” It’s a horrible thought to have.

It’s a perfectly normal thought, though. We are all human beings and we have feelings.

It’s only natural we desire closeness, connection, and love and it’s natural that when we don’t have those things in our life we feel scared.

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At some point in our lives, each and every one of us feel lonely and that feeling consumes us, making us believe that no one loves us. That feeling eats us up inside and it affects our self-esteem.

What if no one loves me? For me, the most important thing is self-love and that I’m always aware of my self-worth.

It’s the only way I’ll feel comfortable in my own skin. I don’t care if no one else loves me.

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I am not changing for anyone. I know if I stay true to myself, someone will come along and love me no matter what.

That’s the most sincere love, when someone loves you for what you are.

I have to be honest with you, I didn’t think like this when I was younger. Then, I always wanted everyone to like me.

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I did things for my loved ones that I am not proud of. I didn’t think about my well-being at all.

Other people were more important to me and their happiness was always more important than my own.

Sadly, this is a common mistake of many teenagers who are coping with self-esteem issues.

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That’s why you should be more patient and understanding with them because we all know that puberty affects teenagers in many ways.

My family members and my close friends didn’t provide me with much support.

In those difficult times, when I needed them the most, I didn’t have anyone to talk with and who could understand me.

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My whole life I was the black sheep of my family. My brother played basketball and my sister played the guitar. They were both quite good at it.

I didn’t have a hobby. I didn’t like sports or music and I wasn’t good at them, either. History was my passion and I wanted to become an archaeologist.

My parents found it funny because I was only a kid, but for me it was my goal in life. I collected different stones and I would use Google to learn all about them.

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I even had my little notebooks where I would write everything about my research.

My so-called ‘friends’ called me ‘stone collector’ and I didn’t know what to think about it. Many people thought I was strange and creepy.

All this increased my feelings of self-doubt, loneliness – even self-hate. I thought that I would never find someone who would love me.

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Even though it hurt me so bad, I couldn’t give up on my dream. I cried almost every night because I felt like no one cared for me but I promised myself that I wouldn’t give up.

And I didn’t. I decided that I needed to become best friends with myself. I decided to work more on myself and my dreams.

I didn’t have time to bother with all those people who didn’t believe in me. I didn’t care who loved me or who didn’t, because I understood that self-love was enough for me.

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If I could go back, I wouldn’t change anything. I can say now that it all helped me. My past taught me that sometimes it’s okay to feel that no one cares for me.

It taught me that sometimes it’s okay if no one loves me because it means that I am different and being different is always better, right?

It helped me with my self-esteem. Now no one can hurt me because I am used to it and know that people won’t always love me.

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And I’m fine with that because I know one person who’ll never stop loving me.

A person who’ll believe in me and my dreams. A person who’ll always be there for me. Of course, that person is ME.

Today, I have a romantic relationship and many new friends but, from time to time, I like to be alone and sometimes I still feel like no one loves me.

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I think it’s okay to be alone from time to time. Being alone doesn’t mean that you are lonely. It doesn’t mean that no one cares for you or that no one will ever love you.

Sometimes you need to be alone to think about everything that’s happening in your life. Sometimes being alone can help you to find yourself, just like it helped me.

Trust me, it’s much worse when you are in a relationship but you feel lonely. It’s much worse when you are surrounded by people who make you feel unlovable.

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From my point of view, social media is also one of the culprits for these kinds of feelings that teenagers have.

These feelings are closely related to the feeling of depression and social media is the primary culprit for causing depression.

Young people post everything on social media and it has become more important for them than their real life. They compete for who has more friends, who have better clothes…

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Some teens feel like no one likes them because they don’t have enough friends or likes on Facebook or Instagram.

They don’t understand that those friends are actually fake and that those likes aren’t important.

All they can see is other people posting pictures with their ‘friends’ and getting hundreds of likes. Believe me, as you get older, it’ll become clearer to you.

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You can’t have that many friends in life. Actually, you should be happy if you have two honest friends.

Friends that truly love you and would never let you feel like no one loves you.

Don’t feel desperate if you haven’t found love, yet. It doesn’t mean that you’ll never find someone who will love you.

Trust God and the timing of your life.

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A lot of people will pass through your life and not all of them will like you. And that’s fine because not everyone will make it to your future.

Learn to enjoy your own company because you are the only person with whom you will definitely spend the rest of your life.

Say “I love you” to yourself every day and believe that it is the most important love. Self-love.

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You can’t build a strong relationship with another human being if you don’t manage to do it with yourself.

Look at it as a foundation for all other relationships in your life. If you can’t love yourself, how could someone else possibly love you?

Don’t try too hard to get people to love you. Sometimes you’ll only lose yourself and your dignity that way. And the sad part is that those people probably aren’t worth it.

No one loves me quotes

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Here are some famous inspirational quotes about being lonely that helped me deal with my feelings.

If you think that no one loves you, take a look at this list of quotes. I hope they will help you, too.

1. “A season of loneliness and isolation is when the caterpillar gets its wings. Remember that next time you feel alone.” – Mandy Hale

2. “People think being alone makes you lonely, but I don’t think that’s true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.” – Kim Culbertson

3. “Sometimes you need to be alone. Not to be lonely, but to enjoy your free time being yourself.” – Unknown

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4. “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” – Robin Williams

5. “Sometimes you need to take a break from everyone and spend time alone to experience, appreciate, and love yourself.” – Robert Tew

6. “Sometimes, you just need a break. In a beautiful place. Alone. To figure everything out.” – Unknown

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7. “Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

8. “A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he doesn’t love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.” – Arthur Schopenhauer

9. “It is better to be lonely than allow people who are not going anywhere keep you from your destiny.” – Joel Osteen

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10. “When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death – ourselves.” – Eda J. LeShan

11. “It takes a strong person to remain single in a world that is accustomed to settling with anything just to say they have something.” – Unknown

12. “I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore, in order to win me over, your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You’re not competing with another person, you’re competing with my comfort zones.” – Horacio Jones

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13. “There are worse things than feeling alone. Things like being with someone and still feeling alone.” – M.W Poetry

14. “Some people can’t stand being alone. I love solitude and silence. But when I come out of it, I’m a regular talking machine. It’s all or nothing for me.” – Celine Dion

15. “The best part about being alone is that you really don’t have to answer to anybody. You do what you want.” – Justin Timberlake

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16. “As I get older I’m more and more comfortable being alone.” – Sienna Miller

17. “Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.” –Douglas Coupland

18. “When I get lonely these days, I think: So be lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

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19. “What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be.” – Ellen Burstyn

20. “Sometimes I think that my own company is more suitable for me than if I were around others. Because of the person that I am.” – Kyle Labe

21. “Find company within yourself and you’ll never spend a day alone. Find love within yourself and you’ll never have a lonely day.” – Connor Chalfant

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22. “I’m fascinated with myself and love hearing the sound of my own voice. I’d like to hear what I have to say. A lot of people don’t like being alone because they truly don’t like themselves but I love me.” – Gene Simmons

23. “Lonely hours is the best time of life, because it’s the only time I share my deepest secrets with the most trusted person in the world, MYSELF.” – Unknown

24. “Never search your happiness in others, it will make you feel alone. Search it in yourself, you will feel happy even when you are left alone.” – Unknown

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25. “It is far better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” – George Washington

26. “In solitude, the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.” – Laurence Sterne

27. “It’s only natural to feel lonely after the enjoyable moments pass. But as you experience new joys those feelings of sorrow will start to fade.” – Mizu Sahara

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28. “Solitude is where one discovers one is not alone.” – Marty Rubin

29. “Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” – Unknown

30. “We need solitude, because when we’re alone, we’re free from obligations, we don’t need to put on a show, and we can hear our own thoughts.” – Tamim Ansary

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31. “Don’t fear solitude: If you are never alone, you cannot know yourself. But don’t get too attached to it – it may become an addiction.” – Paulo Coelho

32. “If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

33. “Even in the loneliest moments, I have been there for myself.” – Sanober Khan

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34. “I love to be alone. I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude.” – Henry David Thoreau

Don’t feel sorry for yourself because you think that no one loves you. Stand up and do something about it. Show all those people that it’s their loss, not yours.

Don’t let self-pity poison your life. I accepted the fact that no one loves me. But, it only encouraged me to work on myself and to pay more attention to my self-esteem and self-love.

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Never chase others. Put your hopes in God. Your soulmate is out there somewhere and he’s also waiting for you.

He’ll be your lover and your best friend. His love will be all you need. Just don’t stop hoping.

No One Loves Me Understanding And Dealing With This Feeling

Marjan

Tuesday 30th of November 2021

Thank you for your beautiful text. I needed a talk like that to appreciate my own self. And I'd like to give you a special thank because of those quots. It's good to know that even the most successful people had their lonely times and that they even stand up for it now.