8 Coisas Mais Comuns Que Ele Diz Se Está Te Manipulando
1. “It isn’t a big deal.”
Ele nunca percebe o motivo da confusão, porque é que está chateada ou porque é que as acções dele a magoaram. Tudo o que lhe interessa é aliviar-se da culpa de a ter tratado mal.
A verdade é que ninguém nos pode dizer como nos devemos sentir em determinados momentos. Se ele a magoou, devia pôr-se no seu lugar e pensar como se sentiria se as coisas fossem ao contrário.
2. “You are being too emotional.”
Your relationship should make you feel comfortable enough to express your emotions; however, he fails to realize that he made you upset or sad. He doesn’t want to see or hear you cry.
Ele procura um culpado e tem prazer em ver as suas emoções exageradas, em vez de encarar o facto de que ele é a razão que a faz sentir-se assim.
It’s easier than reassuring you that everything is OK, or – God forbid – apologize for something he has done.
3. “You must have heard it wrong, I never said that.”
He will basically make you question your sanity. He will deny his own words up to the point where you perhaps start to think “Maybe I actually heard it wrong.”
No, there’s nothing wrong with your hearing or your memory, you are simply emocionalmente exausto and are letting things slide because you can’t ponder over them forever.
Esta é a sua forma de manter o controlo sobre si e de distorcer a realidade. Só piora com o tempo!
4. “Why can’t you trust me for once?”
If he is the sole cause and responsible for your trust issues, if he lied, cheated or betrayed you in any way, why is he so surprised that you don’t trust him?
Broken trust is not something that can be mended overnight. To be honest, it’s difficult to ever repair it.
But he is not working on gaining your trust. It’s easier to shift the focus on you and your lack of trust, instead of putting in actual effort to prove and show you that he has changed.
5. “It seems like I can’t do anything right.”
Fazer-se de vítima é uma das tácticas de manipulação mais comuns utilizadas pelas pessoas tóxicas. Elas sabem que é empático e que, mais cedo ou mais tarde, vai começar a sentir pena delas.
Vai ouvir-se a pedir desculpa, mesmo quando sabe que tem razão, porque ele a fez sentir que não está a ser razoável e a fazê-lo sentir-se mal.
Nessas situações, ele fá-lo-á sentir-se uma pessoa má, enquanto ele é inocente em tudo isto.
6. “You did the same exact thing.”
When he does something he knows he never should – texting his ex, saying that he had been some place when he hadn’t or lie, he will remember that offense is the best defense.
Ele desempenhará um papel de jogo da culpa. Ele vai recordar e amplificar todos os seus erros do passado.
Ele vai equiparar o facto de o seu ex lhe desejar um feliz aniversário com o facto de ele ter enviado mensagens de texto à ex durante meses, ou a sua mentira branca com algumas das suas mentiras notórias.
7. “I didn’t lie, I just didn’t tell you. It must have slipped off my mind.”
Withholding the truth, especially when it’s something important is as good as telling lies.
He will defend himself by telling you that he told you all about a particular thing, when you asked and for him, it wasn’t so important and the matter slipped from his mind and so on.
The bottom line is if he hasn’t told you something that directly affects your relationship, he is to blame. He will attempt to manipulate you into thinking he isn’t.
8. “I’m going to bed.”
He has no problem falling asleep during the middle of an argument. You might be upset, crying or asking him questions – but he doesn’t care!
He knows very well that you won’t be able to fall asleep and twill probably think about all that has happened during the entire night.
You will be unable to function properly in the morning while he will be well-rested. He knows you won’t be able to spend more energy to continue an argument and that things will, in all probability, be left unresolved permanently.
O homem certo tranquilizá-la-ia e encontraria uma solução para o seu problema, em vez de passar para o outro lado e mostrar apenas o quão pouco ele se importa contigo.
