Si tu chico hace estas 10 cosas es un tóxico SOCIÓPATA
Esto es lo que me pasó a mí, así que sé de lo que hablo. Quiero compartir mi experiencia extremadamente dolorosa.
Quiero abrir mi corazón y volverme completamente vulnerable delante de todos vosotros.
I’m doing this in the hope that my story will help others break free from the hell they are going through like I broke free from mine.
It took me a long time to understand what kind of a monster I was married to—it took me 4 years. 4 years of tears, 4 years of crippling pain, 4 years of thinking it was all my fault.
After all that time, I’m not the same anymore. He took that part of me that made me who I am.
He stole it from me and turned me into something I didn’t want to be. Something he wanted me to be.
Something he could control—a mannequin disguised as a woman.
He was an infinite bastard. A heartless mother fucker. He didn’t care for a single soul in this world except for himself.
He didn’t care for his family or his friends. Actually, he didn’t even have any friends.
And he robbed me of mine, as well. It was so calculated, it was so sneaky and I didn’t get it.
I couldn’t leave just like that. Even when I started to realize what he was doing to me, I couldn’t just walk away.
It’s not as easy as it seems. I know people sometimes judge women who are being abused for still sticking to their abusers.
These abused women even defend their abusers and make excuses for them. Well, it’s easy to play the role of just an observer and judge those women.
Pero vivir ese escenario y levantarse cada mañana con el estómago lleno de miedo y con la decepción escrita en la cara es algo completamente distinto.
Estas mujeres tienen miedo to leave because they got used to the poor treatment they get. They don’t know any better.
It is insanely weird, because, to some extent, they have at least some kind of security, even if it’s living with an abuser. These hombres tóxicos saben cómo engañarte para que pienses que realmente se preocupan por ti.
Saben darte la atención justa para que te quedes.
And when they do, they turn into toxic sociopaths, their actual real selves, all over again, and the vicious circle goes on. That’s why you can’t leave.
Sigue dándote esperanzas de que cambiará.
Lo único que conocen estas mujeres es el maltrato. Cuando alguien te grita y arremete contra ti todos los días, se convierte en tu entorno natural.
After some time, those harsh loud insults don’t offend you as much.
His threats and his violent behavior don’t affect you as much. I mean it does affect you, but you swallow it all up.
You don’t shake anymore in front of him, but you go through hell inside of you.
Te da una dosis de sí mismo y te engancha.
It’s like you are a drug addict. He made you try it a few times and now, you can’t stop.
You need more and more and he keeps giving you something you think you need, something you think you can’t live without.
Cuando un drogadicto se pone sobrio, se da cuenta de lo que se estaba haciendo a sí mismo.
He realizes how much damage he has done to his precious mind and body and he realizes how stupid he was up to the point when he couldn’t have enough.
It’s either give up on drugs or die. It’s the same for you. Leave him or die from the inside.
If your guts are telling you something is wrong, and if you’re feeling like you’ve been imprisoned, if your true self is slowly starting to fade or if you have disappeared completely, then you are being maltratado emocionalmente.
All of the things I wrote are true, but most of the women who are living it can’t accept it or are afraid to.
If you’re still too scared to take the step to being ‘sober’, to abandon the sociopath that constantly feeds you with toxicity, remember this…
Love isn’t supposed to be that way. Love isn’t supposed to yell at you because it’s having a bad day.
Love isn’t supposed to emotionally blackmail you. Love isn’t supposed to make you feel less worthy.
Love isn’t supposed to break you.
Pero estos hombres son todo menos amor. Gritan, vociferan y faltan al respeto.
These men don’t know how to love. They know how to pretend to love you.
They use their villain manipulative power to gaslight you and make you completely oblivious to what’s happening.
They have the power to control you, but only until you wake up from the nightmare they’ve directed and realize you deserve and want way better than you have now.
Open your eyes to save yourself. See what he’s doing to you, and just like myself, run for your life.
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Te está engañando y haciéndote sentir que tú eres la loca.
It’s his favorite tactic, something he does best. He makes you believe things which are not true.
Aunque al principio dudes de él y le hagas frente, pondrá excusas tan poderosas y vívidas que la discusión durará días.
He will act like it’s not a big deal. Even if you caught him texting another woman who is clearly his mistress, he will make you believe it’s not true.
At first, you will insist on him explaining you the situation, but after some time of hearing the same excuses, you’ll start doubting yourself.
You will actually make yourself believe it’s all in your head, that you are pushing things too far.
That was his plan all along. To make you believe you’re the crazy one and that he never did anything wrong.
Te está haciendo creer que todo es culpa tuya.
He is totally guilt-tripping you. He makes you think you are the one to blame for literally anything—his and your mistakes.
Al fin y al cabo, él es el perfecto y es imposible que se equivoque. Tú eres la incapaz, la sumisa, la última de la lista.
Así es como te chantajea emocionalmente.
If he has troubles in his life, he will guilt you by saying you don’t love him or that you don’t give him enough of your time and that’s why he’s been failing. Not because he is incompetent, but because you don’t try hard enough.
He’s a control freak
He is obsessed with control. That’s why he has isolated you from the rest of the world.
He doesn’t want you to communicate with anybody but him, so he can feed you with his toxic thoughts and violent behavior.
Así que piensas que no hay nada mejor ahí fuera para ti, sólo lo que él te da.
He also knows he can’t keep your attention. After you fall for him, he knows he has to do something to force you to stay.
To make this come true, he has mastered controlling any possible situation, so there won’t be any surprises. This makes you feel like a prisoner.
He’s a complete hypocrite
Al principio, será perfecto. Moverá montañas por ti y tú por él. Pero, después de algún tiempo, cambiará y será cada vez peor.
Te engañará, te mentirá y te manipulará. Te tratará como si fueras la última en su lista de prioridades porque, de hecho, lo eres.
And what’s hilarious is that you are supposed to remain perfect and flawless.
Tienes que vigilar tu comportamiento y tienes que tener cuidado de no hacerle daño de ninguna manera posible mientras te trata como a una mierda.
El mundo gira a su alrededor
Necesita ser el centro de atención y todo tu mundo tiene que girar a su alrededor.
If you do something that doesn’t have to do anything with him, he’ll get insanely jealous and make you pay for that ‘mistake’ you made.
In fact, he doesn’t have an identity of his own. He needs you to boost his ego and to feed him with your approval which is sad when you look at it more closely.
He doesn’t respect your boundaries
This is again because he doesn’t respect you enough to care. We all have boundaries, we all draw the line when something is too much for us.
Tenemos cosas que toleramos y cosas que despreciamos.
Well, he doesn’t respect that. He thinks he has the right to set your boundaries for you.
And even if you remain firm and let him realize when it’s enough, he won’t respect it.
He will cross those boundaries every time he wants because he doesn’t care at all about what you need or think.
Miente perfectamente
Nació así. Casi todo lo que dice es mentira. Miente tan perfectamente que nunca dudarías de él y es coherente.
Nunca se pierde en ese lío de mentiras que crea. Incluso si le pillas mintiendo, mantendrá la calma y la compostura. Y también mentirá para salir de esa situación.
Te consumirá lentamente
Te utilizará y te dejará sin energía. Y esto seguirá y seguirá mientras él lo necesite.
Incluso cuando ya no te queda nada más, te dejará por un tiempo para recargar y volver y darte un festín más.
Te infectará con su toxicidad y te impedirá ver lo capaz, fuerte y hermosa que eres.
Su principal objetivo es asegurarte que eres una gran nada sin él.
Y para conseguirlo, toca todo tipo de juegos mentales emocionalesSólo para asegurarte que él es todo lo que puedes tener.
Si intentara retenerte de otro modo, se quedaría solo para siempre.
You’re fighting with anxiety and you don’t know why
You’re anxious and you can’t figure out why. Well, it’s because your whole relationship is wrong.
He is wrong. It’s because you don’t feel good in your relationship and you feel he is being disrespectful and mean for no good reason.
Crees que todo es culpa tuya, y te culpas porque él te engaña para que lo hagas.
Piensas que vales menos y empiezas a creer que tienes suerte de tener algún tipo de relación.
You’re anxious because you overanalyze things which are so simple, only you can’t see them yet.
Es extremadamente grosero con la gente que no le interesa
He was only kind to you and he only bothered to impress you. He doesn’t care about other people and is never kind to anyone.
On contrary, he is extremely rude and unpleasant. That’s because he doesn’t need anything from those people, so he doesn’t hide his real face and treats them like crap.
When he actually needs someone’s help, he turns on his full charm and of course gets what he wants.
Afterwards, you’re just another face in the crowd for him—completely irrelevant and non-existent.
