Sigma Male: 20 traços de personalidade e como lidar com ele
Quando pensamos nos tipos de personalidade na hierarquia sócio-sexual masculina, normalmente dividimos todos os homens que conhecemos em dois grupos contrastantes: Machos alfa e Machos beta. Well, a Sigma male doesn’t fit in any of these categories.
You don’t have to be an expert to know that these two social structure types are completely different: Alpha males are extroverts, leaders, and under the spotlight in all social situations, while Beta men live in the shadows, taking orders, following someone else, and going with the flow.
However, what happens when a man doesn’t belong to either of these two types? When you can’t put him in a box or characterize him as an Macho alfa ou Macho beta?
What if you happen to encounter a guy whose personality type doesn’t belong to this male hierarchy? A guy whose type you have trouble determining and who is somewhere in the middle of the spectrum of this social hierarchy?
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O que é uma personalidade Sigma?
Ter uma personalidade Sigma significa ser o lobo solitário. Significa ser introvertido um pensador com o seu próprio conjunto de valores e que se destaca sempre da multidão.
When you have a Sigma personality, you don’t follow social norms. You can’t be put in the box and you appreciate your independence over everything.
Definição de macho Sigma
O que é um macho Sigma? Bem, o termo foi cunhado pela primeira vez por um escritor americano, Theodore Robert Beale, conhecido como Vox Day. Ele mencionou Sigmas em 2010 no seu blogue pela primeira vez.
Em 2014, o autor John Alexander escreveu um livro de conselhos sobre relacionamentos chamado The Sigma Male: O que as mulheres realmente querem, que pode ser comprado na Amazon. Nos anos seguintes, este termo chegou aos podcasts, aos vídeos do YouTube e aos utilizadores do Twitter.
Para simplificar, o termo Sigma male significa de facto um macho Alfa introvertido que vive a sua vida à sua maneira.
Ele tem numerosas características de ambos os tipos e tem, de facto, as melhores características de um macho Alfa e de um macho Beta.
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A Sigma man tem muito mais para oferecer than it might appear at first glance—you just have to dig under the layers because this guy’s personality is way more complex than you might assume.
He doesn’t like being the center of attention, and that’s why you will never see a Sigma male aproximar-se primeiro de uma rapariga ou a fazer algo engraçado que faça com que todos olhem para ele.
At first, this might make you think he is boring and uninteresting, but later on, as you crush his walls one by one and as you keep on getting to know him better, you’ll see that this can’t be further from the truth.
This guy is very independent and self-sufficient, so he doesn’t really care about the opinions of the rest of them, and he tends to be the black sheep of men.
He goes around being his sexy self, not even looking to see if anyone is paying attention to him and not asking for anyone’s approval.
És um macho Sigma?
O teste Sigma masculino é bastante simples: basta seguir estas 20 características mencionadas abaixo e, se se identificar com mais de metade delas, não há dúvida: é um homem Sigma.
But if that is not enough, answer these questions. If you have 4 or more positive answers- you’re a Sigma male archetype.
- Está farto dos Alphas?
I’m not saying that you’re jealous of all those macho guys. After all, what is there to be jealous about?
It’s just that you’re sick and tired with everyone being so fascinated with them. You despise the fact that they’re so full of themselves- and usually without much reason.
You don’t envy their position in society. Instead, you simply can’t understand why would someone go through all that trouble just to climb up the social ladder.
- Despreza hierarquia social?
Naturalmente, odeia também o conceito de hierarquia socio-sexual. De facto, mesmo esta classificação em tipos de personalidade incomoda-o.
You don’t care who is an Alpha, a Beta, or a Sigma. You don’t care how people perceive you and the last thing you want is to be put in the box.
You don’t give a damn about your type of personality and you’re probably doing this test out of pure curiosity (or someone made you do it to prove to you that you’re a real Sigma).
- Quebra as regras frequentemente?
You’re not some kind of an outlaw or a criminal but the truth is that following the rules is not exactly your thing. When you think about it, it has been like that ever since you can remember.
Mesmo quando eras uma criança, eras um verdadeiro rebelde. Quando chegaste à adolescência, eras caracterizado como um menino mau.
You questioned every type of authority and you couldn’t stand anyone telling you what to do. Well, not much has changed until today, has it?
- Prefere estar sozinho a estar com um grupo de pessoas?
Se lhe fossem dadas duas opções: passar um fim de semana numa casa de campo só para si e para os seus pensamentos ou bilhetes para a festa mais louca da cidade no sábado à noite - qual seria? Aposto que sei a resposta.
The truth is that you enjoy your own company the most. You’ll always pick some time alone over any crowded place.
- Acredita em si próprio?
Algumas pessoas chamam-lhe arrogante ou demasiado confiante, mas a verdade é que só acreditar em si próprio. Because let’s face it, how can you hope to succeed if you’re not your own number one fan?
Whenever you set your mind to something, you know you’ll get it done. You’re perfectly aware of your abilities and your confidence is always on point. Besides, who needs humblebragging?
- Tem objectivos pessoais?
You have a set of goals you hope to achieve. Actually, you don’t only hope- you work hard to pursue them.
Often, these goals have nothing to do with the people you love. You don’t make plans this big with your closest ones.
Instead, this is YOUR five or ten-year plan. These are YOUR personal goals and you’ll be the one enjoying their fruits.
- Funciona melhor sozinho do que em equipa?
Team spirit, teamwork… for you, these are all blabberings. When you’re alone- you’re unstoppable. Most importantly: this is the setting in which you’re also the most productive.
On the other hand, you don’t function very well in a team since there is always someone holding you back. Besides, you’re not the biggest fan of compromise either.
Como ser um macho Sigma?
Se quiser tornar-se um Sigma, o mais importante é deixar de se preocupar com o que os outros possam pensar. Tens de deixar de agradar às pessoas e, em vez disso, concentrar-se completamente em si próprio.
This doesn’t include selfishness. Nevertheless, all Sigmas do put themselves first.
Apesar da opinião popular, a verdade é que é possível trabalhar em si próprio e reinventar o seu tipo de personalidade.
For example, you can be an Omega male but easily transform yourself into a Sigma man—just read these traits and try as hard as possible to adopt them into your own personality.
Como reconhecer um Sigma masculino?
Se quiser determinar se um homem pertence a este tipo, a primeira coisa a que deve prestar muita atenção é se ele segue as normas sociais ou se faz as suas próprias coisas.
You’ll recognize the male Sigma by the way he stands out of the crowd, even though he doesn’t do it to be noticed.
Um Sigma é aquele tipo misterioso sobre o qual não sabes nada, mas pelo qual te sentes incrivelmente atraído. Em poucas palavras, é o Alfa que se recusa a ser Alfa.
He doesn’t crave the spotlight but somehow always gets loads of attention. He is secretive, doesn’t talk much, and always leaves you wanting more.
Have you ever met a guy whose personality can be roughly described this way? In that case, you’ve got yourself a true Sigma.
20 características de um homem Sigma
Devido ao facto de ser um misterioso lobo solitário, muitas vezes é difícil perceber quem é realmente um macho Sigma.
São os homens que vivem a sua própria vida, longe dos círculos sociais; homens que dançam ao ritmo dos seus próprios tambores, sem nunca ouvirem os outros.
No entanto, existem alguns sinais que são comuns a todos os homens que pertencem a este tipo de personalidade.
Although they are very introverted and avoid every kind of communication with people they don’t like, some Sigmas might find you intriguing enough to let you see who they really are.
Independência
Se pensavas que ele se importava com a tua opinião ou que precisava de ti na vida dele, estavas enganada.
É tão dominante que se recusa a ser influenciado por qualquer pessoa ou coisa e faz sempre as coisas à sua maneira.
Os homens que pertencem a este tipo recusam-se a ficar presos à tradição e às expectativas dos outros.
Eles têm os seus coisa própria and aren’t bothered with hierarquia social.
They don’t care about fitting in with any social structures, don’t let anyone change them, and are everything but people pleasers.
Sigma men are loners who don’t need anyone to give their lives meaning.
A verdade é que este tipo é um lobo solitário que consegue safar-se sozinho, independentemente do que lhe aconteça.
Introspeção
Um homem Sigma conhece-se extremamente bem. Em vez de se misturar em diferentes círculos sociais, passa muito tempo a analisar a sua personalidade e o mundo que o rodeia, pelo que raramente toma uma decisão sem pensar muito bem nela.
Os homens deste tipo nunca se envolverão em dramas porque são pensadores excessivos que sabem como lidar com as situações.
Vivem a sua própria vida dentro das suas cabeças e trabalham sempre para se aperfeiçoarem.
Don’t get me wrong—this doesn’t mean that a Sigma man will never make the wrong choice because he is also a human being who makes mistakes.
However, the difference between him and everyone else is that a Sigma man always learns from his failures and doesn’t have the habit of repeating them over and over again.
Silêncio
These men are not big talkers, so they probably won’t impress you right away.
Um homem Sigma não é aquele que a vai encher de elogios, aquele que vai fazer muita conversa fiada, ou aquele que vai usar frases vazias só para manter a conversa.
However, this doesn’t mean he doesn’t have anything to say or that his communication skills are poor.
Sigma men are introverts, and they won’t talk just to fill the silence or to be noticed in the crowd.
No entanto, se este tipo começar a dirigir-se a si ou a falar de algo, prepare-se para ficar boquiaberto e lisonjeado, porque o intrigou definitivamente.
Cuidado com o facto de que tudo o que um homem Sigma lhe diz tem um significado mais profundo e não é sem razão.
Levem-no a sério porque ele nunca abre a boca só por abrir.
He will take his time to think through what he’s going to say next, so don’t rush him into speaking his mind, but be prepared for an awesome response.
Also, don’t ever confuse his silence with shyness—he simply couldn’t be bothered to talk.
Inteligência
Dois dos melhores traços de personalidade de um macho Sigma são o seu QI incrivelmente elevado e a sua inteligência, que advêm do seu constante desejo de auto-aperfeiçoamento.
Estas pessoas são normalmente educadas, bem informadas e naturalmente inteligentes.
São especialistas em analisar coisas, pessoas e experiências e em aprender com elas.
The Sigma male will most probably ask questions if he’s interested in a certain topic, and he won’t hesitate to find the answer to something he’s concerned about.
Aprendem depressa e estão sempre curiosos sobre o mundo que os rodeia.
A maioria dos machos Sigma tem o Tipo de personalidade INTJ and aren’t really popular for their social skills but rather for their brains.
Problemas
Embora o seu lado introvertido o possa fazer parecer assim, um homem Sigma não é o tipo simpático da esquina que vive a sua vida de acordo com as regras e faz tudo segundo as regras.
Em vez disso, ele é de facto um menino mau and a rebel in disguise who doesn’t follow the social hierarchy.
Estes homens estão normalmente do outro lado da escala de cinzentos moral e, por vezes, até do outro lado da lei.
They often get into trouble, and they don’t even see anything wrong with that.
The truth is that these appearing nice guys actually find it fun to challenge everyone’s moral principles.
In a Sigma male’s mind, no rules apply to him, and he is under no obligation whatsoever to respect and obey them.
Solitários
This guy doesn’t have the ambition to blend in, nor does he want to stand out in the crowd or be dominant in social situations.
He doesn’t follow trends and despises popularity.
Embora alguns possam pensar que um homem como ele não tem amigos íntimos, a verdade é outra.
He likes to socialize only with the ones who understand him, and he isn’t ready to waste his time, energy, and effort on friendships that have an expiration date.
Por muito amiga que seja deste homem e por muito importante que ele a considere, um homem Sigma valoriza a privacidade acima de tudo e precisa sempre de algum tempo longe do resto do mundo; tempo para organizar os seus pensamentos e sentimentos, sem que os outros interfiram.
Capacidade
Outro traço de personalidade da maioria dos homens Sigma é o facto de serem cuidadores e salvadores profissionais.
Estas são as pessoas com quem pode sempre contar, aconteça o que acontecer, e as pessoas que o vão tirar do seu pior pesadelo.
Para este tipo, tudo é possível. Não é um desistente e alguém que desiste após o primeiro obstáculo ou pequeno inconveniente.
Em vez disso, um homem Sigma conseguirá sempre realizar tudo o que se propuser.
Sabe tomar conta da sua família e de si próprio, porque é muito capaz.
He is the person you need to go to when you have had a bad day or when you don’t know how to fix a problem.
O tipo a quem se liga quando se tem dificuldade em organizar algo ou quando se precisa de arranjar alguma coisa em casa.
Um tipo cujos conselhos se querem ouvir e um tipo que acaba sempre por ter razão.
A guy who won’t leave you hanging even if you call him in the middle of the night because you have a flat tire, a family emergency, or need a loan.
He probably won’t be happy that you are disturbing him, but he will help you, no questions asked.
Carisma
Um dos traços mais apelativos da personalidade masculina sigma é, sem dúvida, o seu carisma.
This characteristic isn’t natural for a Sigma, but with time, his high intelligence has made him realize that his introverted side can’t help him learn more about people.
So he’s developed his social skills and his charisma to the point where he can hold the attention of a full room just by talking—when he wants to do it.
O seu carisma vem da sua confiança e da forma como se vê a si próprio.
Utiliza a empatia da sua personalidade introvertida para se relacionar com as pessoas a um nível mais elevado.
Confiança
Different from the Alpha male who is a dominant extrovert—making sure everyone knows how amazing he is—the Sigma male is a dominant introvert.
He doesn’t need to be loud and show everyone his power just to feel better about himself.
It’s enough for him to know how much worth he actually has.
O macho Sigma doesn’t feel the need to convince anyone of his abilities or prove to them that he will achieve his goals.
His self-esteem doesn’t come from social media, other people’s opinions, or approval.
De facto, o seu sentido de autoestima vem de dentro, o que torna a sua confiança quase inquebrável.
Sigma men only listen to the beat of their own drums, so you can’t take them down or make them feel like they’re not enough.
Atratividade
Cada um destes traços de personalidade de um homem Sigma torna-o extremamente capaz de atrair as mulheres.
A verdade é que a maioria das raparigas vê a sua natureza de bad boy, misteriosa e autossuficiente como um desafio.
Querem chegar ao fundo das suas personalidades e conhecer os verdadeiros homens que se escondem por detrás destas máscaras.
Nevertheless, Sigma men don’t jogar duro para conseguir—they really are hard to get. Actually, these guys hardly let anyone near them.
This man doesn’t chase women nor does he have the habit of jumping from one bed to another.
Em vez disso, na maior parte dos casos, são as raparigas que se aproximam dele, tentando descobri-lo.
Competências de liderança
When you think about leadership, you think about Alphas on the head of the wolf pack. Well, that’s where you’re wrong. Yes, Alphas are usually the ones who get most of the credit but trust me: Sigmas are the ones who get most of the job done.
This man is actually a born leader- he just doesn’t have the need to show this side of his to the rest of the world. It’s not something he craves being. Every Sigma has these inborn talents to always be the head of the crowd.
Além disso, o que é ainda mais importante é o facto de as pessoas terem tendência para o ouvir. Seguem a sua orientação sem fazer muitas perguntas.
Is this Sigma’s charisma? Or does everyone trust them because it’s more than obvious they know exactly what they’re doing?
I think it’s the combination of both. Either way, the bottom line is that a male Sigma is always a silent leader.
He doesn’t need others praising him nor does he enjoy the title of the chief. On the other hand, he is incapable of avoiding that reputation.
It’s like this with his friends, it happened back in school and is especially the case when it comes to his career. A Sigma hates taking orders and that’s why he doesn’t function very well as long as he has a boss telling him what to do.
Para evitar confrontos constantes (ou ter de sufocar a sua verdadeira natureza), Sigma torna-se normalmente trabalhador por conta própria.
Adaptabilidade
Some might call him a hypocrite who doesn’t stand his ground but a Sigma is everything except that. Nevertheless, the truth is that a guy like him is extremely adaptable.
But don’t see him as a chameleon who is ready to change his opinion or entire personality according to the situation. Instead, think of him like a cat with seven lives. Of course, let’s not forget that cats always land on their feet.
That’s what I’m talking about when I mention this Sigma’s trait. You can leave him by himself in the middle of nowhere but he’ll still find a way back home.
Tem uma capacidade espantosa de se adaptar a novas condições e situações. Além disso, consegue dar-se bem com diferentes tipos de pessoas.
Also, let’s not forget how versatile this guy is. He has numerous skills and that’s exactly what makes him this adaptable.
Dar prioridade a si próprio
People often accuse Sigmas of being ego-centric. Even though they might appear this way at first, when you get to know them, you see that they’re not selfish.
Um Sigma sempre coloca-se em primeiro lugar– that’s true. But when you come to think about it, this is actually a good thing, isn’t it?
Os seus o conforto e o bem-estar são uma prioridade. A Sigma won’t do something he doesn’t want just to please others nor will he hurt himself for someone else’s sake.
This guy isn’t ready to sacrifice his own happiness to make you feel better. Even if he loves you to the moon and back, he’ll always amar mais a si próprio.
Um Sigma valoriza todas as relações da sua vida, incluindo românticos. No entanto, também está perfeitamente consciente de que a relação mais importante é a que tem consigo próprio.
O seu próprio conjunto de valores
Once again, let’s not forget that this guy doesn’t follow anyone’s rules. He won’t consider something morally acceptable just because most people around him do.
Being extremely intelligent, a Sigma always questions everything, especially the attitudes imposed on them. Don’t expect to change his opinion regarding a certain matter without some strong arguments that back up your thesis.
We’re talking about a man who doesn’t need anyone’s validação. Therefore, he’ll stick to his opinion, even if he’s the only one defending it.
This is also one of the reasons why he has the reputation of a rebel. He doesn’t care about the law or authority. A Sigma is smart enough to differentiate right from wrong without anyone’s help.
Fiabilidade
If you’re friends with a Sigma guy, you can consider yourself lucky. He is one of those people who will never turn their backs on the ones they love.
You can bet on one thing: Sigma’s reliability. No matter what you do and what happens, this is someone you can count on.
This is especially true if he becomes your boyfriend. He is simply a “ride or die” kind of a guy who doesn’t leave people hanging. Besides, your darkest os segredos estarão a salvo com ele.
First of all, he’s struggling with his own demons and he’s made his share of mistakes. So he’s the last person to judge you for something you did wrong.
Além disso, é excecionalmente bom a guardar segredo, o que o torna extremamente fiável.
Assumir riscos
A Sigma is not a guy who plays it safe. Enjoying his comfort is one thing- that’s something he does. But being afraid to step out of his comfort zone is not a Sigma trait.
On the contrary, he is not a coward and doesn’t allow fear to lead him through life. This man is courageous and isn’t scared of taking risks.
When he believes that something is right, he’ll pursue it, no matter the possible consequences. You know how they say: “He who doesn’t risk, never gets to drink champagne”.
That is Sigma’s life motto. He prefers to regret his bad choices than the chances he lost.
Este homem é um lutador pela liberdade. Está pronto a fazer o que for preciso quando se trata de defender aquilo em que acredita.
Força de carácter
Tudo isto implica que cada Sigma tem uma incrível carácter forte. Don’t ever think of playing him around because if he cuts you out of his life- there is no coming back.
This doesn’t mean that he has no emotions. He has a big heart but just doesn’t allow his emotions to turn into a weakness.
Quando ele toma uma decisão, não há nada nem ninguém que o possa fazer mudar de ideias. Pode tentar implorar, manipular e outras tácticas diferentes, mas nada resultará.
Além disso, tenha em atenção que this man can’t be easily broken. He’s been through a lot but you can never tell that by his behavior.
His pride will never let him lament over his sad destiny, no matter what he goes through. You can break his heart but he’ll never show you his sadness.
Instead, he’ll always get up stronger after every defeat. He is one of those people who have the ability to go through hell and come back more powerful than ever.
This is a macho guy who considers crying and complaining humiliating. If you’re not one of his closest people, you’ll think that everything is going great in his life, even when he is falling apart from the inside.
Some might say that he bottles up his emotions and that wouldn’t be far from the truth. The fact is that he doesn’t appear as the most sensitive person on the planet.
Nevertheless, he doesn’t run away from his feelings and represses them- he just hides them from the rest of the world. Being too emotional simply doesn’t fit with his personality.
Auto-consciência
Um Sigma está sempre consciente de si próprio. Faz muita introspeção e autoanálise. Na verdade, a dada altura, exagera e pensa demais.
He dissects every word he says and every move he makes. But unlike beta males, that doesn’t torná-lo inseguro.
He just wants to know all of his weaknesses and strong points, so he can work on better himself. This guy is perfectly aware of all of his good qualities as well as his flaws- even if he probably won’t admit it to anyone.
But this awareness applies to the entire world around him, as well. It means that he’ll read right through you and see all of your good and bad sides also.
When this man is with you, he doesn’t fall in love with your potential. He doesn’t idealize you and there is no need for you to pretend to be someone you’re not.
He values honesty and truth over everything. He doesn’t look at life through rose-tinted glasses, so don’t think about lying to him “for his own good”.
Another thing you should avoid due to his self-awareness is giving him too many unrealistic compliments. Trust me- he’ll know that you’re lying and he’ll appreciate you less.
Persistência
It’s your choice whether you’ll call this man stubborn or persistent and whether you’ll see this quality of his as a good or bad side. Either way, the point is that he is not a fan of giving up.
He considers giving up a failure. If he’s put his mind onto something, he’ll get it done, no matter what.
This is an “all or nothing” kind of a guy. He keeps on going despite all the obstacles, which is another sign of his strength.
Está determinado a não mudar a sua atitude, mesmo que isso signifique ir contra a corrente - na verdade, especialmente se isso significar ir contra a corrente. Este não é o tipo de homem que vai na direção em que o vento sopra.
Boas maneiras
Finalmente, um Sigma é um verdadeiro cavalheiro. Tem boas maneiras e pode facilmente concluir-se que é bem educado.
He won’t flirt with you in a typical way. You can’t expect cheesy pick-up lines and especially not some dirty phrases and inappropriate humor.
Let’s not forget that he is not into modern dating, which means that he is quite old-fashioned. Trust me- when you meet him, you’ll be surprised by the way he stands out from all the other guys you’ve dated so far.
Instead of messaging you all the time, he prefers calling and talking to you. He wants to know that he is serious about you and that he isn’t playing mind games.
Instead of inviting you for Netflix and chill, he’ll rather ask you out on a proper dinner. He’ll come to pick you up, bring you flowers, hold your chair, ask you what you want to order, get the check, open the door for you and escort you to your front door.
With him, you’ll have the chance to feel like a real-life Princess and that’s exactly what makes him one of the rarest male archetypes.
I won’t lie to you: he is not some artista de engate but he won’t try making you a fool either. This man is interested in the whole package and his primary goal is not to get under your pants and never to call you again.
Hand in hand with his good manners goes his honor and dignity. He would never consciously do something that is against his moral values and breaking a woman’s heart in a deceptive way is one of those things.
Prós de ser um macho Sigma
Even though most people assume that Alphas are the real catch, the truth is that there are some incredible advantages of being a Sigma guy. They’re not as loud and noticeable as the Alphas but that doesn’t mean their worth should be questioned.
Não ser um Alfa é uma questão de escolha
You see, every Sigma could be an Alpha in a blink of an eye- if he wanted to. But he doesn’t crave the spotlight and he doesn’t ask for attention.
Pelo contrário, evita-o a todo o custo. Ele é introvertido who values his privacy over everything and that’s why taking over the dominance is not his thing.
But that doesn’t mean that he couldn’t take the crown off the Alpha’s head if he changed his mind. He’s as strong, as intelligent, as confident, and as capable and as an Alpha.
Ele trata toda a gente da mesma maneira
O facto de não se importar com a hierarquia sócio-sexual e de não se preocupar com a autoridade transformou Sigma num lutador pela igualdade. O respeito que ele tem por ti não tem nada a ver com o teu estatuto social, a tua educação ou o dinheiro que tens.
The only criteria he has is whether you’re a good person or not- according to his standards, of course. He treats everyone the same and has no role models.
He won’t treat a VIP any differently than a homeless guy asking for food.
Capacidade de escuta fantástica
We’ve already established one thing: a Sigma is not much of a talker. He doesn’t overshare and he keeps most of his private life, thoughts, and feelings for himself.
But that’s exactly what makes him a great listener. Don’t worry: I’m not talking about the fact that he’ll just keep quiet while you’re talking.
The point is that he’ll be invested in what you’re saying. He’ll really listen to you, get engaged in the conversation, and think about your problem.
Sendo tão consciente de si próprio, um Sigma é também realista. Tem uma capacidade espantosa de olhar para todas as situações de diferentes pontos de vista e de encontrar sempre a melhor solução.
He is not selfish when it comes to sharing his wisdom. If you ask him for advice, he’ll be more than happy to give it to you and to help you out.
This is one of the main reasons why so many people want to be friends with Sigmas. The truth is that they’re not so outgoing and they don’t usually hang out with everyone who crosses their path.
Nevertheless, when they consider you their friend, you’re under their protection. They’re ready to do whatever it takes for your well-being- even if that includes listening to you go on and on about the same problem all the time.
Acredite em mim: um Sigma nunca estará cansado ou demasiado ocupado para o ouvir. É a pessoa a quem se pode ligar a meio da noite quando se precisa de um ombro para chorar.
But you know what’s the best part? It’s the fact that he knows when to remain silent and when to give you a piece of his mind.
He’ll never impose his opinion on you- unless you ask him.
Autossuficiência
So, this is not the greatest news for the people in a Sigma’s life but it is one of the qualities that serve him the best. A Sigma guy is not only an independent lone wolf- he is also self-sufficient.
If you’re his friend or girlfriend, trust me that you’re next to him because he wants you there. This guy basically doesn’t need anyone.
Don’t get me wrong: this doesn’t mean that he is heartless and não tem capacidade de amar. Um Sigma é capaz de a amar, mas fá-lo-á sem ninguém, exceto ele próprio.
He is not emotionally or financially dependent. Actually, he never lets himself rely on anyone to the point where he can’t picture his life without them.
He is capable of providing for his own needs. That includes money, cooking, doing errands, spending his free time…
Yes, this means that a Sigma could kick you out of his life without much trouble. He’ll just move on as if you were never there.
But there is a good side to this quality of his. You should never question this guy’s motives for being with you.
Pode ter a certeza de que ele não anda consigo porque you’re convenient, that’s he’s marrying you because he needs someone to take care of him or because he is scared of dying alone, or that you two are friends because he has no one else to spend his time with.
If you’re a part of a Sigma’s life, you better consider yourself lucky. Trust me- it is a privilege.
Liberdade
Maybe the best thing about being a Sigma is the freedom these people possess. They cannot be put in the box or chained and that’s exactly what makes them so special.
A Sigma will never lose his true self. He doesn’t allow the world to change the essence of his personality.
Consequently, nobody can tell Sigma what to do. I don’t care how much ele ama-te, don’t ever think about ordering him around unless you want to be cut out of his life.
The same goes for limiting his freedom. The moment a Sigma sees that you’re tentar controlá-lo in any way possible, you’re out of the picture for good.
Contras de ser um homem Sigma
A revista Forbes afirma que “A sigma male is, essentially, an macho alfa introvertido, offering misguided men a chance to place themselves at the very top of this imaginary hierarchy, without the loud, boisterous personality that an “alpha” boasts.” Their article was inspired by a post one Twitter user wrote about the “made-up categories such as Homens Alpha, Beta, Sigma, Gamma e Omega.
Here, they claim that Sigmas don’t have extremely good reasoning and that they lack judgment skills. Basically, they’re lost boys who strive towards the Alpa position.
Apesar de eu discordar, a verdade é que os Sigmas têm algumas falhas de personalidade. Aqui estão os mais óbvios:
Más competências sociais
Despite being such an amazing listener and even better friend, the truth is that a Sigma could invest some time and effort into improving his social skills. But he’s not some insecure, rapaz tímido who doesn’t know how to act around people- he just doesn’t care about the way he’s perceived.
What matters to him is the opinion his closest people have of him. He couldn’t care less about the way their neighbors, coworkers, and acquaintances see him. This even goes for the family members he is not so tight with.
A Sigma doesn’t need anyone’s validation so the last thing he’ll do is waste energy on impressing some strangers he’ll probably never see again.
He doesn’t care about small and empty talk. Due to his good manners, he’ll never be rude to you but he’ll avoid any unnecessary communication.
O mesmo se aplica a conhecer pessoas novas. Ele não é uma borboleta social que se esforça por se integrar em todos os grupos.
Este tipo detesta formalidades e despreza eventos com um código de vestuário em que tem de apertar a mão e cumprimentar dezenas de pessoas com sorrisos falsos.
Even when he attends a get-together, he’s never the life of the party. He doesn’t care about being the center of attention, he doesn’t make people laugh, asking for their approval and he is not the one to get the mood up.
Passar pela vida sozinho
This is something that doesn’t affect other people in his life but it certainly does impact a Sigma guy himself. Due to his loner character, he is often destined to go through life alone.
Este é o tipo de homem que tem grandes hipóteses de nunca se casar and starting a family on his own. It’s not that women don’t want them (they’re actually quite attractive to the opposite sex)- it’s them who preferem a sua solidão sobre o companheirismo.
Além disso, já sabe que este tipo não é muito sociável. Isso significa que ele normalmente tem dificuldade em encontrar amigos.
This is especially the case with younger Sigmas. He doesn’t belong to any group in high school, he doesn’t join the fraternity at college and he doesn’t hang out with his coworkers after work hours.
Apesar de ser um grande amigo quando o conhecemos, um Sigma won’t let you in tão facilmente. Apenas as pessoas mais raras têm a oportunidade de entrar nas suas paredes.
This is a Sigma’s choice but sadly, it makes him miss out a lot in life.
Qual é a atração dos machos Sigma?
Os homens Sigma gostam de raparigas especiais que saibam o que querem e, mais importante, que tenham uma vida fora da sua relação. Eles querem uma mulher que dar-lhes espaço suficiente and who won’t display any clingy behaviour.
But that doesn’t mean that you don’t have to be loyal. In fact, fidelity, commitment and devotion are non-negotiable for these guys.
O empenhamento é uma prioridade
If you plan on having something casual and meaningless with this type of guy, think again because he’s not the man for you.
Apesar de terem a capacidade de atrair mulheres e poderem ter basicamente qualquer rapariga que queiram, a verdade é que os homens Sigma levam a sua vida amorosa muito a sério e são não gosta de encontros modernos práticas.
He doesn’t like games and mixed signals and considers them a waste of time and energy, so don’t play hard to get with him because that will definitely chase him away.
Ele não é o tipo de pessoa que vai tolerar este tipo de disparates, por muito que te ame.
For him, commitment is mandatory. He doesn’t jump from one relationship to another and he is not interested in girls who have that lifestyle.
Don’t get me wrong: he won’t judge you for your choices. It’s just his right to choose a serious girl who’ll be 100% dedicated to their romantic relationship.
He is not a jealous type in a typical way. He won’t make you a scene when you do something inappropriate nor will he fight for your attention.
But he will let you go, without making a fuss about it. You only get one mistake and there won’t be any second chances if you blew it.
For him, infidelity is not cheating only. It’s also texting other guys, flirting and being active on different online dating apps.
Don’t worry- he’s não possessivo. You’ll have your freedom and privacy (these are the things he requires for himself, as well)- he just wants respect and if you don’t give it to him, you’re out.
Ser único
Se quiser win this man’s heart and mind, don’t be like other girls. He is a kind of an outcast and he falls for special women who stand out of the crowd.
What a Sigma man wants is a unique girl who won’t blend into the masses and who will intrigue and challenge him. A woman who has the capacity to go through life on her own, without expecting him to save her and solve her problems.
Ele quer um rapariga que sabe o que quer—a girl who values true love, who knows how to be committed.
A girl who has her own thing and is not obsessed with superficial needs such as make-up, branded clothes, and social media; a girl who won’t allow others to interfere in her love life.
Don’t follow fashion trends blindly and don’t pretend you like something that you don’t just because it’s fashionable at the moment.
Always keep in mind that he never goes with the flow. He doesn’t fit in with society norms, so it’s natural that he is not into girls who do.
But don’t try being a unique, delicate flower just to impress him. Trust me: he’ll see right through it and he’ll think of you as ridiculous.
The best advice I can give you is to just be your true self. No acting, no false pretenses and no trying to be someone you’re not.
O comportamento carente é um grande desestímulo
A última coisa que um homem Sigma vai tolerar é ciúme e comportamento pegajoso.
Por muito que a ame, este homem nunca terá a necessidade de passar cada segundo do seu tempo livre consigo nem esperará que ignore a vida que tinha antes dele só porque ele passou a fazer parte dela.
A melhor maneira de afastar um Sigma é ser demasiado pegajoso. Ler tudo isto ajudou-te a conhecer melhor este tipo.
It’s not difficult to conclude that ele valoriza o seu espaço privado e tempo sobre tudo. Por isso, ter uma namorada que está sempre atrás dele e que requer uma atenção ininterrupta.
Exige sempre muito espaço pessoal, o que pode até fazer com que a sua parceira se sinta mal. emocionalmente negligenciada.
Don’t worry- he won’t emotionally neglect you. But don’t expect him to erase his entire life just because you came along.
Don’t take it personally when he tells you that he needs some time off. He is not cooling off and he certainly doesn’t have an affair. He is not tired of you- he is tired of all social interactions and cansado do mundo inteiro.
This doesn’t mean that you’re boring or that he thinks of breaking-up with you. He just needs to be alone for a while to recharge his batteries. This is something you’ll simply have to deal with, if you want a happy relationship with him.
The worst thing you can do when this happens is to cling to him even harder. I know that this will probably be your first impulse because you’re scared of losing him but trust me- you’ll only make things worse.
Em vez disso, aja como um adulto. Lembrem-se que vocês os dois são duas pessoas distintas, independentemente do vosso estado de relacionamento.
Mudá-lo está fora de questão
You’re already familiar with this guy’s persistency. Please, don’t enter his life expecting that your o amor mudá-lo-á because it won’t.
Ele não se está a fazer de difícil, nem está a fingir que é assim para a irritar - estas são as suas verdadeiras cores.
Pode aceitar este homem como ele realmente é ou afastar-se a tempo para evitar problemas a ambos.
Podes ser uma femme fatale e ele pode amar-te até à lua e voltar, mas nunca conseguirá mudar a essência da sua personalidade. Se tentar, será uma tarefa de Sísifo.
Famosos machos Sigma:
Se todas estas características não forem suficientes para si, aqui está uma lista dos Sigmas masculinos mais famosos do mundo. Vê se te identificas com algum deles!
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- Keanu Reeves (especialmente no seu papel de John Wick)
- Han Solo
- James Bond
- James Bourne
- Casanova
- Steve Jobs
- James Dean
- Harry Styles
Para terminar:
Um macho Sigma não é perfeito– you’ve already seen that. He has his share of flaws, just like the rest of us.
Mas ele também tem muitas qualidades extraordinárias. Só é preciso ir um pouco mais fundo para as encontrar.
Once you do, I promise you one thing: you’ll be delighted with everything you’ll discover. Winning his heart over is not the easiest task in the world.
Nevertheless, it’s vale a pena todo o trabalho porque este tipo vai amar-te como nenhum outro.
