13 sinais reveladores de culpa do marido traidor
Se está à procura de sinais de culpa de um marido traidor, está no sítio certo!
A batota é uma das comportamentos destrutivos mais frequentes of married couples and it’s really easy to miss all the red flags and warning signs that have literally been in front of you the entire time.
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E as redes sociais tornaram mais fácil para todos os batoteiros (leia-se cônjuges batoteiros) aperfeiçoar o seu jogo de batota.
So, given that you’re here looking for signs of guilt from your possibly cheating husband, I assume you’ve already imagined all the worst case scenarios in your head.
I suppose you’ve already imagined o processo de luto and horrible pain of realizing that you’ve been cheated by your loved one and now you’re here to finally face the real truth.
Now, I’ll be completely honest with you.
Se já tem aquele pressentimento que lhe diz que o seu marido está a traí-la e notou uma mudança súbita no seu comportamento, é provável que o seu marido seja realmente um traidor!
But, sometimes – and I really mean sometimes – our feelings can be deceiving, forcing us to imagine things and assume the worst.
Os traidores sentem culpa?
Normalmente, batoteiros feel guilt after some time but there are also those who don’t. It all depends on their type of personality and whether they still have feelings for you.
Let’s say that every cheating husband tends to exhibit signs of guilt at some point in marriage (if he has a soul, of course). So, the easiest way to find out what’s really up is by paying close attention to your husband’s behavior.
Perhaps your significant other is just going through a phase or has some problems that he simply doesn’t want to share with anyone.
Perhaps he has just locked himself in a “man cave” and needs some time to process his feelings and whatever he’s going through.
Now you’re probably wondering how the hell then you’re supposed to know what really is going on here.
Se notar algum dos sinais de culpa do marido traidor, talvez seja altura de ter uma conversa séria com o seu cônjuge, porque é provável que he’s a cheater in disguise!
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Como é que se pode saber se alguém é culpado de traição?
Um dos maiores sinais de que alguém é culpado de traição é o facto de evitar PDA (demonstrações públicas de afeto), atuação distanteO utilizador pode, por exemplo, ser demasiado protetor do seu telemóvel, evitar o contacto visual, etc.
Existem muitos outros sinais de que alguém é culpado de traição e a maioria deles inclui um comportamento reservado e mudanças drásticas no seu estilo de vida e vida sexual hábitos também.
Someone who is guilty of cheating will be super stressed or upset most of the time (if they feel like they’ve done something terrible).
If the person doesn’t feel remorse, chances are they will not exhibit signs of being stressed but they will only act distant. If you need more signs of cheating husband guilt, you’ll find them all below!
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Sinais de culpa do marido traidor
He’s acting weird or distant
O maior sinal de culpa de um marido traidor is a drastic change in his behavior – constantly acting weird or distant.
It’s because cheating partners have this tendency to cover up their sinful deeds and guilty conscience by avoiding eye contact, constantly being sad around you “for no reason,” and the like.
Todos estes sinais são a prova de que ele se sente culpado por se ter desviado para outro lado (se é que me entendem).
Ele a enganar, ignoring you, and acting weird are a part of his defense mechanism strategy – to avoid reality, admitting “the crime,” and dealing with the problem.
Ele (de repente) enche-a de elogios e presentes
Another common sign of a cheating husband’s guilt is him suddenly showering you with extra attention, tons of compliments, and presentes caros.
The only reason why he might be doing this out of the blue is because he feels guilty for doing things behind your back. He feels remorse for hiding the new relationship from his significant other – you.
E agora a sua consciência obriga-o a compensar o seu caso, sendo mais atencioso, não perdendo um dia para te dizer como és bonita e fazendo loucuras com o cartão de crédito.
Guilty people feel an internal pressure to treat their victims right, even though they know they’ve been acting like douchebags in secret. Strange, right?
He comes back home smelling fresh as a daisy after a “long day at work”
If your husband comes back home smelling fresh as a daisy, yet you know for a fact that he’s worked all day and after that kept sweating in a subway toward home, it’s a telltale sign that something’s really fishy.
Perhaps he decided to take a shower with his fellow coworker after some time they spent in a hotel because of “too much work” that couldn’t be delayed for another day.
Se ele prolonga constantemente o tempo de trabalho arranjar desculpas such as ‘he won’t make it because they have so much to finish and deadliness are killing them’, chances are he’s having an extramarital affair.
Also, that’s a perfect excuse for being unable to answer your phone calls.
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He’s overly jealous and accuses you of cheating
Quando alguém tem a consciência pesada, tem o impulso de acusar os outros dos mesmos crimes.
So, one of the biggest signs of cheating husband guilt is him accusing you of cheating on him, even though he’s the only one being unfaithful in the first place.
O motivo mais frequente porque é que as pessoas fazem batota é devido à sua baixa autoestima e à necessidade de se sentir mais digno, o que explica perfeitamente o seu comportamento ciumento e inseguro.
And when you combine this with the feeling of guilt, there you have it – a recipe for lunacy, where he’s desperately trying to convince himself of something that is completely untrue.
He’s constantly complaining about your habits or appearance
Queixar-se constantemente dos seus hábitos e aparência é outro sinal de que he’s seeing someone else e envolvidos numa situação de violência física ou caso emocional.
By doing this, he’s trying to make you feel guilty for his selfish choices and using your “flaws” to justify his physical or infidelidade emocional.
So, if you notice that he all of a sudden has serious problems with your words or actions, beware – he might be doing it just because he’s looking for vindication for his cheating nature.
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He’s suddenly obsessed with the gym
If you know that he’s never been the gym type of man – that whenever you tried to motivate him to be more active in the past, he would simply choose to ignore you – yet now he’s suddenly obsessed with the gym, this could be because of the following reasons:
a) Mudou realmente e começou a viver uma vida saudável.
b) He’s cheating on you e quer ter o melhor aspeto possível para o seu novo parceiro.
c) He’s cheating on you and because of that, he has the need to “sweat the guilt” in the gym.
Se tem a certeza de que a primeira razão é provavelmente impossível de ser verdadeira porque conhece o seu marido até ao fundo, então aí tem.
Ele dá-lhe mais atenção nas redes sociais
He likes your every post, comments how beautiful you are on every selfie, follows your every move on social media, and doesn’t seem to cease.
And when you go back to the past, you can’t remember the last time he liked anything on your profile, let alone left you a comment.
If this is happening to you, chances are your husband is feeling guilty for cheating on you and that’s the only reason why ele de repente dá-lhe mais atenção nas redes sociais.
He wants to make it up to you and make himself feel better about what he’s doing behind your back. (Lame, I know.)
He’s overly protective of his cell phone
O seu marido esconde a sua telemóvel like it’s something utterly confidential and you have no right to know what’s going on in his life?
Does he accuse you of overreacting every time you demand he tells what’s going on and why he keeps being so protective of his telemóvel?
If yes, your husband is probably involved in the cheating business and that’s why he can’t let you near his personal belongings, because he wouldn’t survive if you finally caught him in the act.
He wouldn’t be able to handle you knowing what he’s been doing behind your back all this time because he feels irreversibly guilty about it.
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He’s often unreachable and avoids spending time with you
If your husband is unreachable from time to time and always has a valid excuse for it, you shouldn’t really worry about it.
But, if he constantly refuses to answer your phone calls and most of the time you have no idea where he really is, he might be hiding things from you and that’s why he avoids spending time with you.
Todos os batoteiros são mestres em esconder o seu verdadeiro paradeiro porque têm de ter um álibi forte que cubra perfeitamente o seu infidelidade.
E todos os traidores também sabem que desligar o telemóvel e não estar contactável é uma das formas mais fáceis de evitar perguntas sobre o seu paradeiro.
They also know that turning off their cell phone is a perfect cover when they’re “in the middle of the action.”
De repente, ele deixa de dizer "amo-te
Quando foi a última vez que o seu marido expressou o seu amor por si dizendo estas três palavras? Eu amo-te? Está ativamente à procura de signs he doesn’t love you mais?
If you can’t remember the exact time, then it’s probably been a while since the last time he actually said it.
Este é um dos maiores sinais de culpa do marido infiel, porque os infractores normalmente deixam de dizer estas três palavras quando se sentem extremamente culpados por fazerem coisas nas suas costas.
If they said it, it would sound really wrong because their initial feelings for you are now scattered all over the place and they literally have no idea what they’re doing.
There’s a sudden change in your sex life
A mudança súbita pode incluir mais sexo do que o habitual ou não ter sexo de todo.
If your husband has a sudden thirst for making love with you and simply can’t get enough of it, it may be because outra mulher despertou a sua paixão.
Or perhaps he feels extremely guilty for what he’s doing to you and he’s trying to make it up to you in bed.
If this is the case with him, also pay attention to whether he’s suggesting new hot positions and other things that you haven’t done before – he’s probably doing it because he learned it elsewhere.
Also, if you can’t remember the last time you made love, chances are he’s never initiating it because he’s already doing it with someone else.
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Começa a adotar comportamentos pouco saudáveis
When we’re feeling guilty about doing something, it’s likely that we’ll start looking for pacifiers and something to help us cope with the feeling of confusion and guilty conscience.
So, if your husband has never been a fan of smoking, drinking, or consuming drugs, and now he’s doing it, the trigger for his unhealthy behavior could be guilt caused by him cheating on you.
Provavelmente, ele espera que este novo hábito pouco saudável o ajude a ultrapassar tudo isto sem sentir muitos remorsos, mas, no final, todos nós caímos quando enfrentamos a verdade real e as suas consequências.
Ameaça terminar a relação
This often happens during a fight, so pay close attention to whether he ever says it when you’re having a disagreement.
Se ele ameaçar terminar a relação, he probably can’t stand his guilty conscience any longer. However, it could also mean that he’s not afraid of you leaving him because he now has a replacement for you.
In most cases, it is a mix of both: being unable to stay in the current relationship because of guilt-ridden feelings, as well as feeling encouraged to end the relationship because he’s already safe – he already has someone else.
Por isso, se o seu marido nunca sugeriu acabar com a relação até agora, talvez seja melhor ter uma conversa séria com ele e perguntar-lhe o que se passa exatamente.
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Como é que os traidores agem quando são confrontados?
One of the most famous sayings by cheaters when confronted is the following: “You’re being paranoid.” If you confront a cheater, he will at first act like they have no idea what you’re talking about.
Eles negarão a existência de um caso e poderão também acusá-lo de ser demasiado inseguro e ciúmes numa relação.
Serial cheaters will do their best to successfully send you on a guilt trip. They will try to make you feel like you’re doing something bad just by suspecting their loyalty (even though you have every right to do so).
Nem todos os batoteiros reagem da mesma forma quando confrontados, mas aqui estão alguns ditados comuns que são populares entre os batoteiros:
- “I swear to you that it didn’t mean anything.”
- “I did it because you were acting distant all the time.”
- “I actually don’t know why I did it.”
- “It just happened.”
- “Wait, wait, it’s not what it looks like!”
- “It was just sex, I swear.”
- “I didn’t want to magoar-vos.”
- “He/she came to me!”
- “I’m not in love with you anymore.”
- “This happened a long time ago and it’s over now. I want you and not them.”
- “I’m not happy with you.”
Here’s my personal experience regarding cheaters. After my ex-boyfriend cheated on me, I’ve noticed that he’s experiencing severe alterações de humor a toda a hora.
Well, back then I didn’t suspect anything because I thought it was connected with his stressful job. After some time, I asked him openly to tell me if there’s something I should know.
Fiz isso porque comecei a notar outros sinais de traição, como o facto de proteger demasiado o telemóvel e coisas semelhantes. Ele negou todas as acusações, chamou-me paranoica e coisas do género.
But a few days later, the feelings of guilt took their toll on him and he admitted that he’s been having an affair for some time now. No, we’re no longer together.
Como saber se ele está com remorsos depois de o ter traído?
The easiest way to tell if your husband is remorseful after cheating is by observing his overall behavior. If he’s remorseful, he will take responsibility for his actions, be honest about what happened and give his best to rebuild trust again.
Here’s how you’ll know that he’s showing real remorse after cheating:
Ele será responsável pelos seus actos
You know he’s showing real remorse if he takes on the full responsibility for what happened. He will answer all your questions and he will not try to blame anyone for his actions.
Em vez disso, ele dir-lhe-á que o seu a decisão de fazer batota foi escolha dele and he’s truly sorry for that.
He will not try to accuse you of anything but he will show shame and he will let you know that it’s totally okay for you to be mad and disappointed in him.
Um homem que mostra remorsos tentará ver as coisas de uma perspetiva diferente. Colocar-se-á no seu lugar e compreenderá que tem todo o direito de sentir-se magoado e traído.
Ele será paciente convosco e compreensivo
He won’t tell you things like: You’re overreacting. It didn’t mean anything to me. He certainly won’t tell you to get over it because he understands the seriousness of his actions.
Instead, he will listen to you and tell you that he’s there for you. He will share the pain you feel and he will not force your recovery from this traumatic event and betrayal.
Ele será completamente honesto consigo
He will be completely honest about what happened. He won’t try to justify his behavior but he will tell you exactly how betrayal happened.
No, he won’t tell you that they were good friends and she needed support, so things went in the wrong direction. He also won’t tell you that he doesn’t know how it happened.
Em vez disso, ele dará respostas concisas e verdadeiras sobre o caso. Ele partilhará todos os pormenores e não terá de questionar a sua honestidade. You will see in his eyes that he’s telling the truth.
Ele fará um esforço para avançar
Ele não se limitará a contar-lhe os pormenores do caso, mas fará um esforço sério para seguir em frente. Poderá sugerir terapia de casal, aconselhamento, leitura de livros sobre relações, etc.
Acima de tudo, ele irá esforçar-se seriamente por si. He will not expect you to just get over it and leave him alone. You will not have to beg him to prove to you that he’s willing to make things right this time and compensate for his mistakes.
Ele não vai jogar o jogo da transferência de culpas
He won’t tell you that your lack of effort and attention motivated him to do such a stupid thing. He also won’t tell you that he felt neglected in a relationship and because of that decided to be with another woman.
He will know that he can’t find a valid excuse for his past behavior. If the problem was your relationship, he could have told you to talk about it and try to fix things together.
If the problem was a lack of effort and attention, he could have told you that he wasn’t happy and something needed to change. He didn’t do any of that but he chose to cheat on you.
Because of that, he doesn’t have the right to play o jogo da transferência de culpas. All he can do is accept the consequences for his actions and hope that one day you’ll be able to forgive him (assuming that he’s truly sorry for that and he’s trying hard to win your trust again).
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Ele será um livro aberto
Dado que a traição quebra a confiança, ele deve estar disposto a partilhar consigo coisas sobre o seu paradeiro e a sua vida quotidiana. Se um homem está verdadeiramente arrependido do que aconteceu, a partir de agora será um livro aberto para si.
Ele não jogar jogos ou deixar-te pensar demasiado nas coisas. Ele saberá que levará tempo para estabelecer confiança de novo e ser um livro aberto é a única forma de o fazer.
Pode também fornecer-lhe as palavras-passe das suas contas nos seus dispositivos para lhe provar que não tem nada a esconder e que pode confiar plenamente nele.
Not every man will do this, but if he does, then you can be one hundred percent sure that he’s showing real remorse after cheating.
He’ll openly express remorse for his actions
He won’t just tell you I’m sorrymas ele fará mais do que isso. Exprimirá o seu remorso de várias formas, desde ouvi-la até fazê-la sentir-se especial.
He will openly express that he’s terribly sorry for magoar-vos and betraying your trust and he will not say it only once. He’ll repeat it over and over again until you tell him to stop.
His actions will show you that he really means it. He will not solely rely on his words but he’ll make damn sure to do everything in his power to win your trust again.
That’s how you know that a man is truly sorry for his mistakes and that he’s determined to make things right this time.
Compensará (sempre que possível)
Feeling remorse doesn’t only mean saying I’m sorry e fingir que está tudo bem. Requer muita compreensão e aceitação do facto de que a traição é mais do que apenas perdas emocionais.
A perda de tempo também deve ser incluída na equação. Dado que desgosto can’t be reversed, the best way to compensate is to give you his time, patience, and a promise that he won’t give up winning your trust again.
He will know that he can’t mend your broken heart overnight but he can help you feel better and he can put an effort into improving your relationship. He will know that giving you his time is the least he can do right now.
Ele nunca exigirá a reconciliação
Quando um homem está verdadeiramente arrependido dos seus actos, a sua felicidade passa a ser a prioridade dele. Ele não será egoísta nem exigirá a reconciliação. Em vez disso, vai pedir-lhe perdão e esperar que você seja capaz de o perdoar, pelo menos parcialmente, por enquanto.
That is how you know that this time he doesn’t only think about himself. A man who feels remorse will never force you to forgive him.
He will give you enough time to recover from what happened and he will let you know that he’ll be there for you in case you want to talk to him.
A man who feels remorse will never demand reconciliation but will do his best to prove to you that he’s worthy of ter uma segunda oportunidade.
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Considerações finais
If the majority of the signs of cheating husband guilt ring true and you’re suspecting your husband is having an affair, please don’t do anything stupid or jump to conclusions yet before having a serious talk with him. After that, give yourself some time for recuperação de casos.
I know it’s hard to stay sane in the situation you’re in. It’s hard to prevent yourself from not bursting into tears.
But instead of doing all of that, it’s better to speak to your husband – tell him everything that’s on your heart and demand answers for his suspicious behavior.
Lembre-se de que, seja qual for o resultado, você ganha!
If he tells you that he is feeling off lately but has never cheated on you and apologizes to you for even making you think that, you’ll save yourself the agony of uncertainty and find a way to work things out.
If he admits that he’s been cheating on you, you will não perca nem mais um segundo em alguém que não é digno de estar consigo (a não ser que ele lhe prove o contrário).
And, remember, it’s all in the eyes! Pay attention to his body language, the way he’s expressing himself, and especially his eyes – they tell more than words could ever say! (I’ve learned all this the hard way.)
