Porque é que os maridos traidores continuam casados? 12 razões mais comuns

Quando um cônjuge trai o seu parceiro, o mais lógico e justo seria o divórcio, certo? Bem, há alguns cônjuges infiéis que permanecem casados apesar de terem quebrado os seus votos sagrados.

Right after the famous question ‘Why do men cheat?’ the next question all women would like to know is… Why do cheating husbands stay married? How can they keep living with a woman they have betrayed in the worst possible way?

The fact is that those men exist, and they have their own reasons they don’t get divorced after they have an extramarital affair.

In this article, I’ve gathered the most common (and definitely not so innocent) reasons why men stay married after they commit such treachery.

Porque é que os maridos traidores continuam casados? 13 razões

I’ve compiled this list of the most common reasons unfaithful men stay with their partners. And, of course, almost none of them are justified because the only reason you should be in a relationship with someone is LOVE.

1. Medo da solidão

Se um o homem tem baixa autoestima and is a validation seeker, he probably doesn’t know how to function on his own. He’s afraid of loneliness, and single life scares the hell out of him.

Ele mantém-se casado porque considera que é o seu lugar seguro. His wife provides him with the security and stability he longs for, and as long as he feels that way, he’ll stay in that marriage.

2. O namoro foi um erro que não tencionam voltar a repetir

Provavelmente foi uma colega de trabalho ou uma rapariga que conheceu nas redes sociais. Ele considera-a apenas uma aventura, uma aventura de uma noite, e já a terminou de vez.

He’s aware of the huge mistake he made, and ele arrepende-se sinceramente de a ter traído. Also, he knows it could cost him losing everything he has, and he doesn’t plan on repeating it ever again.

3. A outra mulher afirmou claramente que não quer uma relação

Se o seu affair partner doesn’t want to be with him, if he was only a one-night-stand, it could be the reason he stays married. He simply doesn’t want to be alone, and staying married is currently the only option for him.

He has a person who cooks and cleans for him, and that’s enough for him for now. However, if another woman shows up in his life and wants to be with him, then he’ll most definitely leave his wife.

4. Têm pena das suas mulheres

This is a very wrong reason to stay married to someone. You can’t be with someone simply because you feel sorry for them. I mean, you can, but it’ll never be a relação saudável.

It’s always better to be honest with your partner. The wife will be hurt, and she’ll suffer… That’s inevitable. Mas, a verdade é que ela sofreria ainda mais se descobrisse que o marido só está ao seu lado porque tem pena dela.

5. O divórcio pode custar-lhes muito caro

Estão conscientes de que o seu casamento acabou por causa do seu erro, o que significa que provavelmente terão de pagar por isso. E não se trata apenas de dinheiro.

Um divórcio pode também custar-lhes a perda de amigos e de alguns dos seus entes queridos. É provável que as pessoas à sua volta fiquem zangadas com eles por terem magoado o seu parceiro e traído o seu casamento.

Also, no one can guarantee that their affair partner will stay with them, which means they might lose her too and be left alone. If they have had kids, they might also worry the kids will be angry at them because of their actions, and that’s probably what they’re afraid of most.

6. As crianças

Esta é provavelmente a razão mais comum pela qual os traidores continuam casados. They don’t want to hurt their kids, or they’re afraid that they may lose custody in the divorce.

It’s very sad that most married couples don’t understand that, this way, they may only hurt their children even more. Their kids will have to listen to their fights, and this toxic environment may have very bad consequences for their mental health.

7. Tentam convencer-se a si próprios e a todos os que os rodeiam de que vão mudar

I need to admit something to you. I’m a proud ex-wife of an unfaithful narcisista disfarçado. Eu tinha 19 anos quando nos casámos e, na altura, pensei que ele nunca me magoaria porque me amava mais do que tudo no mundo.

Oh, meu Deus, como eu estava enganada! Estávamos casados há apenas dois anos quando descobri a traição dele. Continuei a ver muitos dos sinais de aviso e bandeiras vermelhas de que toda a gente nos avisa, mas recusei-me a acreditar.

I stayed with him even after he admitted his infidelity to me. I stayed with him because he was such a great manipulator who managed to make me and all of those close to us believe that he’d change.

Of course, as you may assume, that didn’t happen. After six months, he did it again, and at last, that was the final straw. After my processo de cura successfully ended, I met someone, and I’m still in a happy, relação de compromisso with that guy, and I honestly think he’s the one.

8. Tentar evitar ser apanhado

Cheaters may also stay in a relationship with their partners because they are so afraid and ashamed of getting caught. That way, if their partner ever starts doubting their fidelity, it’ll be easier for them to manipulate them and make them believe in their lies.

And don’t think they do it because they love you or because they’re afraid of losing you.

They only do it because they don’t want other people to think badly of them. If they love you the way you think they do, they would never do this to you in the first place.

9. Pode ser um narcisista disfarçado

Whether it’s uma esposa traidora or husband, if that person stays married even after they cheat on their partner, it may be because of their narcissistic personality. In other words, they don’t stay because of their partner but because of themselves – they know it’s the best option for them.

E infelizmente, they’ll probably continue to see a outra mulher, or they’ll find someone else. They’ll cheat on you and lie to you, and they won’t care at all how it’ll make you feel. Why? Because they’re married players.

They’ll stay with you as long as you allow them to. They’ll continue hurting your emotional and mental health until you’ve had enough of it and drive them out of your life.

10. Estão conscientes de que a sua mulher é melhor do que a outra

I think this one is pretty logical. In most cases, the cheating partner stays with their significant other because they’re aware they will never find someone better than them.

Uma batota marido mantém-se casado porque sabe que nenhuma outra mulher o amará, respeitará e tratará como a sua mulher o faz. And that’s what he’s afraid of losing more than anything else.

11. Querem trabalhar para ultrapassar os seus problemas conjugais

They’re aware they have made a mistake. However, they also think it happened because of some issues they had in their marriage, issues they didn’t talk about and didn’t solve in time.

That’s why they want to work on fixing those things and tornar o seu casamento novamente saudável. Estão felizes por terem tido uma segunda oportunidade e querem realmente aproveitá-la da melhor forma possível.

The truth is, married life isn’t always sunshine and roses. There are many issues and obstacles all married couples need to go through and wrestle with to save their marriage. However, looking for comfort in another person isn’t and should never be the answer.

12. In most cases, they aren’t obligated to make a choice

After years of marriage and everything they’ve been through, the wife will probably also want to give their marriage another chance. She won’t break up with her cheating husband because she is medo da solidão.

On the other hand, the other woman might continue seeing him casually, and in that way, he won’t be forced by anyone to make a choice.

Unfortunately, in the end, someone will get their heart broken, that’s for sure.

Ver também: 30 códigos de mensagens de texto de cônjuges traidores revelados

Os maridos que traem continuam a amar as suas mulheres?

Both men and women cheat for so many reasons, and yes, one of those reasons may be because they’ve stopped loving their partner. However, there are so many husbands who have cheated on their wives and then sworn they still love them despite the mistake they made.

In my opinion, you can’t love someone and hurt them in such an awful way. You can’t claim that you love and care about someone that much and then make them go through living hell.

Se participar numa caso emocional with someone else while you’re married, it’s a clear sign you don’t love your spouse the way you used to. Fullstop.

Okay, I agree that we all make stupid mistakes sometimes and that we aren’t aware of the possible consequences in those moments. However, betraying your partner in this way is a clear sign that what you two have is not amor verdadeiro.

Quanto tempo dura um casamento depois de uma infidelidade?

It really depends on so many factors. The most important is whether both partners are ready to forget about what happened and leave it in the past. If the other side can’t forget about their spouse’s affair, their marriage is doomed to fail.

Depende também do facto de o cônjuge infiel estar verdadeiramente arrependido dos seus actos. If they aren’t 100% sure that something like that will never happen again, their marriage probably won’t last long because they’ll cheat on their partner again.

Se ambos os cônjuges concordarem em trabalhar para ultrapassar tudo isto, esforçarem-se imenso para resolver o seu casamento, iniciarem uma terapia de casal.... Podem conseguir salvar o seu casamento. Nesse caso, o seu casamento durará até que Deus os separe.

Porque é que os homens casados traem se têm um casamento feliz?

The thing is that they aren’t happy. Well, at least not completely happy in all fields of their marriage and family life.

Podem amar o cônjuge, mas podem sentir-se emocional ou fisicamente insatisfeitos. Falta de intimidade física é provavelmente ainda uma das principais razões pelas quais as pessoas casadas traem os seus parceiros.

On the other hand, some men simply have an unfaithful nature, and they can’t go against it. They’re overly flirtatious, and no matter how much they love someone, they can never be fully committed to them.

Em conclusão

Então, o que é que acha? Porque é que os maridos traidores continuam casados? É porque se querem salvar ou porque querem manter a família unida?

Espero que a minha opinião esteja errada, mas penso que os maridos traidores permanecem casados pelas razões erradas. E infelizmente, dessa forma, continuam a magoar-se a si próprios e aos seus entes queridos.

Once someone commits such a betrayal to someone they vowed to be faithful to their entire life, they simply can’t continue walking through life with their partner. Sooner or later, and whether they like it or not, their paths will separate.