4 coisas de que te devias ter lembrado antes de lhe partires o coração

Quando magoamos alguém, não pensamos nas consequências dos nossos actos.

You don’t think about whether it’s the right thing to do and whether you should be a little more considerate in your words and deeds.

Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying you should remain in a loveless relationship just for the sake of the other person.

No entanto, há uma grande diferença entre acabar com o seu parceiro e partir-lhe o coração.

And that’s exactly what you did to your ex-girlfriend: esmagaste-lhe o coração num milhão de pedaços.

Escolheu ser um idiota egoísta who doesn’t give a damn about her feelings and only looks after his own well-being.

Basically, you planned that you’ll get out of all of this unharmed while her pain was none of your business.

Bem, foi aí que se enganou.

1. It won’t make you feel any better

One of the first things you should have kept in mind before you decided to hurt this girl is that causing someone else pain doesn’t heal yours.

It doesn’t make you a badass or a player, and it’s definitely not something you should be proud of.

Humiliating someone else won’t wipe out your insecurities and it won’t boost your fragile ego.

Thinking that you’re above this girl won’t make you think more of yourself and it certainly won’t give you the self-confidence you desperately try to build in all the wrong ways.

It won’t make you more appealing to other girls, nor will it cause envy in other guys.

Em vez disso, toda a gente o verá como o idiota que realmente é.

Most importantly – sooner or later, you’ll start seeing yourself as a selfish person who doesn’t care about other people’s feelings.

Before you know it, you’ll regret the fact that you were a jerk toward the last person who deserved it.

2. It’s your loss

Quando abandonaste esta rapariga, ela pensou que perder-te era a pior coisa que lhe podia acontecer.

She was convinced she’d never recover and the devastating pain would haunt her for as long as she breathes.

No entanto, é óbvio que ambos se esqueceram de que foste tu que perdeste tudo, enquanto ela ganhou muito.

After all, she lost a man who never cared for her for real – a man who didn’t deserve her unconditional love.

No entanto, perdeu o seu melhor amigo e amante, tudo num só.

You’re sentenced to a life without the only person you could trust, the only woman who was ready to make sacrifices for your sake, and the girl who amava-o mais do que a si própria.

Então, quem é o verdadeiro perdedor aqui?

Quem tem mais hipóteses de passar o resto dos seus dias a lamentar as suas escolhas e quem tem mais probabilidades de encontrar o seu "felizes para sempre"?

Um homem sem escrúpulos que é incapaz de amar?

Ou uma rapariga com um coração altruísta que sabe lutar por aquilo que ama?

3. You won’t break her

Despite all odds, when you crushed this girl’s heart, you didn’t manage to crush her entire being as well.

Em vez disso, só a tornaste mais forte e mais resistente.

Esta rapariga conseguiu reconstruir-se e colar o seu coração despedaçado.

Conseguiu sair desta dor mais poderosa do que nunca e utilizou-a em seu próprio benefício.

I know you hoped that she’d spend the rest of her life missing you and begging you to come back.

That she’d forever remain hurt, in tears, and never really get over you.

Well, you thought wrong. Obviously, you forgot everything she’s capable of and how much she can take.

And that is your biggest defeat: the fact that you’re completely forgotten and that you haven’t left a permanent mark on this girl, despite giving her a massive heartache.