Ele deixou de me enviar mensagens de texto - O que significa e o que fazer?

Ele deixou de me enviar mensagens! A sentence so simple but yet so painful. A sentence that carries so many lost hopes and dreams. Every girl’s worst nightmare.

Sabe como é.

Andas a sair com um rapaz e a enviar-lhe mensagens durante algum tempo. Ele responde, você dá seguimento e parece que tudo está a correr bem.

Depois, de repente, tudo pára. Ontem à noite, trocaste mensagens giras textos de boa noite but the next day, he simply didn’t respond to your good morning message.

Continua a olhar para o ecrã do seu telemóvel, à espera que o número de telefone dele apareça. Mas nada acontece.

Passam alguns dias e nada. Ao fim de duas semanas ou um mês, não tem outra alternativa senão admitir que ele a deixou pendurada.

You’ll survive- you know that. But it’s perfectly natural for you to wonder why he did this.

Fala com o seu melhor amigo, rebobina toda a conversa, mas a resposta não está em lado nenhum.

Well, that’s because you haven’t run into me before. I won’t just tell you why he stopped texting you all of a sudden- I’ll also give you some dating advice on how to react when this happens.

Not only that: you’ll also learn how to notice all the red flags that a guy might ghost you, so you can run for your life on time. All you have to do is lay back and read on!

O que é que significa quando um homem deixa de enviar mensagens de texto?

I’ll be 100% honest with you here: when a guy stops texting you, it usually means he doesn’t care about you. Or at least, he doesn’t care as much as you do. But that’s not the only possible reason for his change of behavior.

Maybe he is insecure or has been too busy lately. Maybe you two don’t want the same things or he is playing games.

The possibilities are endless. That’s why I’m bringing you the list of reasons behind this drop-off, explained in detail.

Ele está ocupado

Let’s not jump to conclusions and assume the worst-case scenario right away. I know how most women think: He stopped texting me so it must mean he’s não interessado mais.

I’ll be honest with you- this is a possibility, as well. But it’s not the only option.

For starters, why wouldn’t you give him the benefit of the doubt? Maybe he isn’t trying to ghost you or anything like that- maybe he just doesn’t have the time to text you.

I know what you must think right now: “If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way.” But please, keep in mind that the two of you are probably just at the beginning of your romance.

It means that he wants to give you his full attention whenever he’s talking to you. He prefers not to text you at all over iniciar uma conversa e depois enviar-lhe respostas de uma só palavra.

Se for esse o caso, deve ficar contente por ter este tipo de homem que é tudo ou nada.

Maybe he stopped texting you because he is super busy at work and he can’t take a break to talk to you.

You don’t need to panic right away but wait until the evening and then see what happens.

If he doesn’t reply after he has got home then you can text him to see what is happening.

I am sure he will have a reason good enough for not contacting you. Instead of asking him what he’s been up to, give him time to tell you where he’s been on his own.

This way, you won’t get perceived as too pushy. On the upside, he’ll think that you weren’t worried about ele a deixar-te pendurada. It will show him that you don’t need him.

And if he already showed you that he likes you, you don’t have anything to worry about.

Ele está a mentir-lhe?

A pergunta final: como é que se pode saber se he’s lying to you? He’ll come back into your life- there is no doubt about that.

And he’ll tell you he’s been busy. But how do you know if he’s being honest or just using this as an excuse?

The best way to get to the bottom of things is to check his social media activity. If a guy doesn’t have time to text you, he won’t have time to like other girls’ photos or to post a bunch of stories either.

On the other hand, if he’s been active on his social media accounts- he hasn’t been busy- he just chose not to text you.

Ele acha que é insistente

Some women can be very pushy, especially at the beginning of a relationship. And some guys really don’t like it.

Look, I don’t judge you for this behavior. Actually, I understand you perfectly.

Gostas de um tipo. Gostas muito dele. E parece que ele também gosta de si.

The first impulse you have is to keep him by your side forever. You don’t plan on letting this one get away.

Efeito contraproducente

Além disso, sente-se de novo aquelas borboletas há muito esquecidas. Naturalmente, quer passar cada segundo do seu tempo livre ao lado da pessoa que o faz sentir-se tão bem.

Of course, that’s utterly impossible since you both have your jobs, friends, hobbies.. you have separate lives.

Então, o que é que se faz no momento em que se tem saudades dele? (E, para ser sincera, estamos sempre com saudades dele)

Bem, envia-lhe um mensagem de texto. What do you do if you don’t get the text back?

Continua a enviar-lhe mensagens, independentemente de quem enviou a última mensagem.

I hate to break your bubble but he won’t find this cute. This type of behavior won’t make him fall in love with you more.

On the contrary, all of your texts will probably suffocate him. You’ll just chase him away with this comportamento pegajoso.

So, whatever you do, don’t smother him with texts. Let him make the first move.

Ele é que deve fazer um esforço se quiser conquistá-la. Faça-se de difícil durante algum tempo e, se vir que ele é um bom rapaz, dê-lhe uma oportunidade.

And yes, ‘smother’ him in person, I bet he will prefer that more.

Disse algo que o ofendeu

Most girls who think: “He stopped texting me out of nowhere” refuse to analyze the entire situation objectively.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that you are to blame for the way this guy te fantasiou but hey, it’s possible for you to carry a part of the responsibility.

Talvez tenha dito algo que não é mau de todo, mas que ofendeu o seu namorado e agora ele precisa de algum tempo para pensar sobre isso.

There are things that men and women don’t understand in the same way so don’t be too harsh on him.

Dê-lhe algum tempo e ele voltará a contactá-la. E quando o conhecer melhor, saberá de que coisas ele gosta e quais as que o podem irritar.

Pedir desculpa e depois deixá-lo em paz

Para começar, tente repetir as suas conversas na sua cabeça. Comece com o primeiro encontro e continue até este momento.

Quando é que ele mudou? Aconteceu alguma coisa fora do normal antes de ele desaparecer?

Esqueça as suas impressões e tente ver as coisas da perspetiva dele. Talvez estivessem apenas a brincar sobre algo tolo e aparentemente sem importância, mas ele levou-o a sério.

Tente descobrir se o tom de voz ou a linguagem corporal dele mudou em algum momento. As coisas pioraram a partir daí?

Once you understand what you said or did wrong, apologize. Don’t push him too hard and don’t write any essay-long texts.

Just say that you’ve realized your mistake and that you’re sorry. If he doesn’t respond, stop texting him.

Give him some time to process things. Trust me- he’ll get back to you.

É sempre o primeiro a entrar em contacto com ele

Compreendo que gostes desse tipo e que queiras falar com ele sem parar. Mas trava por um segundo e pensa como um homem.

Se ele vir que é sempre a primeira a enviar-lhe uma mensagem, ele pode perder o interesse em si.

Por isso, espere que ele lhe mande uma mensagem primeiro e mostre-lhe que tem uma vida boa, mesmo que ele não esteja presente.

Don’t let him see you are depressed when he is not around but behave totally normal, no matter how much you like him.

One of the common reasons why guys don’t text girls is actually pretty simple: they don’t have to.

Even if you don’t get a phone call or a text message from him for days, you’ll always be the first one to reach out.

Sadly, he’s gotten used to you doing all the work. I know this is the last thing you had on mind but somewhere along the way, you gave him a sign that he doesn’t have to put any effort around you.

It doesn’t matter whether he texts you or not- you’ll behave the same. You’re just being demasiado disponível. 

You’ll be the one initiating conversation, you’ll ask to see him face to face and you’ll keep this relationship alive, even if he doesn’t move an inch.

So, what inspires him to put in an effort? Nothing- that’s right. So, don’t text him and he will text you de certeza.

Tomar-te por garantido

Whether you’d like to admit this or not, the bitter truth is that this o homem está a tomar-te por garantida. He assumes that you’ll always be there, even if he doesn’t do anything to keep you around.

Why wouldn’t you do something about that? For a change, stop texting him so often.

I know what you must be thinking now: “He stopped texting me, I must send him a message before he forgets all about me.”

Wrong! Actually, that’s the worst thing you might do at this point.

Em vez disso, analise o seu comportamento. Volte às vossas conversas e veja quem enviou mais mensagens de texto e quem foi o iniciador das conversas.

Eu já sei a resposta, mas o objetivo é que a descubras.

He doesn’t want the same thing as you do

O sexo oposto nem sempre é tão fácil de compreender. Sabe como se diz - os homens são de Marte, as mulheres são de Vénus.

Por vezes, um tipo envia-nos tudo o que sinais de que ele quer rotular a vossa relação e tornar as coisas oficiais. Parece que ele a vê como material de namorada e esperas que ele leve a vossa relação para o próximo nível todos os dias.

Mas o que aconteceu em vez disso? Ele deixou-te como se nunca tivesse gostado de ti.

Bem, esta pode ser a forma de ele lhe dizer que interpretou mal as coisas. Ele não está à procura de uma relação e, por isso, não há necessidade de estarem sempre a falar.

This is not the guy who’ll be sending you good morning and good night texts. Instead, he’ll probably text you the next time you cross his mind or when he gets bored.

(Talvez tu queiras algo sério e, por outro lado, ele queira apenas algo casual.

Essa pode ser a razão pela qual ele deixa de lhe enviar mensagens, mesmo que as coisas estivessem bem entre vocês) izbrisati

Se nada mudar e vir que é a única a tentar, sente-se e fale abertamente com ele.

It is okay if the two of you have different expectations but it would be nice for him to admit that to you. You surely don’t deserve someone who will string you along and fazer de ti um tolo.

Tu és apenas o seu "booty call

Guys can be very sneaky and make you believe they really care about you when they’re actually só estou a tentar entrar nas tuas calças.

It’s not like he can tell you that he isn’t interested in anything besides sleeping with you. Well, technically he can but if he sees that you’re catching feelings, it’s easier to pretend he cares about you as well.

Portanto, se ele só lhe envia mensagens de texto a altas horas da noite e todas as mensagens têm um contexto sexual, então deve saber que tu és apenas o seu engate.

Talvez ele esteja a enviar mensagens a outras raparigas ao mesmo tempo e esteja à espera de respostas de todas vocês.

You shouldn’t put up with a guy like that, not even for a second, so tell him to back off and live your life in peace. Bear in mind that it is better to be alone than in bad company.

Partilhou demasiadas informações pessoais com ele

Once again, let’s not forget that in most cases, men think differently than women.

Let’s take this as an example. You meet a guy who tells you a lot about himself from the very start.

How do you react? Well, you’re probably delighted. You’re happy you’ve finally found a man who doesn’t have some imaginary walls built around his heart.

You’ve run into a guy who is open about his past and who has no trouble letting you in.

No entanto, quando ocorre a situação oposta - quando um homem conhece uma mulher que se abre de imediato - ele vê isso como uma partilha excessiva.

If you told him your life story and you don’t know him well, chances are that he might be scared and that is the main reason he doesn’t text you voltar.

That’s why you should never share anything important with a guy until you get to know him better.

Um homem fica com receio quando uma mulher de quem gosta se abre com ele porque pensa que ela quer casar imediatamente. Eu sei que eles pensam de uma forma estranha, mas é assim que eles são.

Ele já está numa relação

Tem a certeza de que este homem é solteiro? É possível que ele tenha deixado de lhe enviar mensagens porque a mulher ou a namorada regressou de uma viagem de negócios ou porque anda mais por perto?

You see, there are men who won’t commit actual adultery. But they don’t mind having an caso emocional e pensam que as mensagens de texto são inofensivas.

They’re married or in a relationship but that doesn’t stop them from being active on online dating sites. These men will call you on FaceTime but won’t ask to see you face to face in real life.

Instead, they’ll probably ask for your pics or engage in some sexting. Of course, they will only text you when their SO is not around.

No entanto, assim que as coisas começarem a ficar um pouco mais sérias, é provável que desapareçam.

If you suspect this has happened to you, try looking for this man’s other profiles on social media. Here is a pro tip: use someone else’s profile to look for him because he probably blocked you.

I’m sure you’ll find traces of his real life if you dig deep enough.

Ele usa-te como um impulso para o ego

It hurts but it is true—some guys will text you only to see if you will fall for them. And when that happens, they will totally play the ghost.

They will pretend that you don’t exist or they will figure out that you want a relationship with them.

Tipos como esse são verdadeiros idiotas, mas fazem-no com muitas mulheres apenas para aumentar o ego.

It is like a drug for them and they can’t control their behavior.

He doesn’t want to be too pushy

They hate to admit this but men get insecure as well. If you’re dealing with a rapaz tímido, he might stop texting you just because he’s afraid he’s being too pushy.

This is especially true if he’s been the one initiating most of your communication until now. He is giving you space to contact him because he doesn’t want to appear too needy.

This is actually a good thing because it’s a clear sign he’s a cultivar alguns sentimentos fortes para si.

Ele assustou-se

When you’re dealing with an emotionally unavailable guy who’s catching feelings for the first time in his life, it’s likely that he’ll chicken out. These emotions are something he doesn’t know how to handle and that’s why he’s hiding them.

On one hand, he’s perfectly aware he’s crazy about you. But at the same time, he’s scared of heartbreak.

He is terrified that you might leave him so he decides to do it first. He has the urge to escape this situation and that’s exactly what he does.

Of course, he doesn’t have the courage to tell you that he wants out. He knows that he would change his mind if he talked to you so instead, he decides to disappear from your life.

He’s just not that into you

You can be the prettiest, the funniest, and the smartest girl in the world. You can be girlfriend material and you can do everything by the book but even then, there will be men who won’t like you.

To be exact, there will be men who won’t like you enough to put some effort around you.

And that’s okay- we’re all human beings with our personal preferences. A guy doesn’t have to have a reason for not liking you enough.

No entanto, ele devia ter a decência de te dizer isto. Um bom rapaz deixar-te-ia seguir em frente em vez de o manter em espera.

He’s in a new relationship

If you two have been texting for a while but nothing real has happened, it’s possible that he found another girl in the meantime. He can be in a new relationship or he might just meet someone he liked more than you so he lost interest in texting you that much.

This shouldn’t ruin your self-esteem. Please, don’t comparar-se com esta nova rapariga.

Aceitem que não foram feitos um para o outro e sigam em frente.

Sim, ele devia ter tido a coragem de lhe dizer isto diretamente em vez de desaparecer. Mas confia em mim... evitou uma bala aqui. You don’t need this coward in your life!

Ele está a jogar um jogo

Finally, it’s possible that this is all a part of his game. You’re dealing with a homem tóxico que gosta de brincar consigo.

I’m not saying he doesn’t have feelings for you. But he wants you to fall in love with him even more and that’s why he’s using this hot and cold technique.

This is nothing but a game of power. He stops texting you for a couple of days just to see if you’ll fall into his trap and go crazier for him.

If you do this, you’re the loser. He sees that he’ll have you, no matter what he does.

In fact, the more he ignores you, the more you’ll love him.

É óbvio que se trata de um rapazinho imaturo que deliberadamente envia-lhe sinais contraditórios. I don’t even have to tell you that you don’t need him around and that you’re better off without him.

O caminho para vencê-lo no seu próprio jogo is to give him a taste of his own medicine. I promise you that he’ll contact you in no time. Well, that’s when you should give him a cold shower.

Show him that you’re not his toy and wish him good luck playing by himself.

Ele deixou de me enviar mensagens de texto - o que devo fazer?

Now that you’ve found out all the possible reasons for this guy’s disappearance, you’re probably wondering what you should do about it.

Deve enviar-lhe uma mensagem de texto? Ou ignorá-lo é uma ideia melhor?

Just follow this step-by-step guide and I assure you that you’ll make all the right moves.

Don’t keep on texting him

I know that you have the urge to contact him. If it were up to you, you would double or triple text him. You want answers so you’re ready to write him an essay long text, asking for an explanation.

Esse seria o pior erro que poderia cometer! Resista a este impulso o mais rapidamente possível.

I don’t care how you’ll do it but you MUST do it, this way or another. Put your phone down, give it to your best friend or keep yourself busy- whatever it takes.

If it’s necessary, picture him laughing at how pathetic you are every time you think about sending him a message. Picture him bloquear o seu número de telefone because you’re too annoying.

I’m not saying that this will happen- I just want you to use this scenario as a distraction from contacting him in any way.

Don’t blame yourself

O próximo passo é livrar-se da culpa. Mesmo que tenha feito alguma coisa para o afastar, o ghosting nunca é a resposta.

Ele é o único culpado desta situação. Independentemente do que aconteceu, ele devia ter tido a coragem de falar consigo e de acabar com as coisas como um verdadeiro homem.

Por isso, por favor, parem de tentar justificar o seu comportamento imaturo. Não há desculpa para este ato cobarde!

Dar-lhe algum espaço

Not texting your man won’t be enough. Instead, you should não entrar em contacto completamente. Dê-lhe algum espaço e um oportunidade de sentir a sua falta.

It would be great if you could downsize your social media activity. Let him wonder where you are and what you’ve been up to.

Don’t talk to your mutual friends about him. Don’t ask them if they’ve heard from him.

Don’t show up at places where you could run into him. Disappear from his life the same way he disappeared from your inbox!

Concentre-se na sua vida

O mais importante aqui é coloque-se em primeiro lugar. Em vez de passares os teus dias a chorar por causa deste idiota, começa a trabalhar em ti.

I know that this isn’t easy but please, do your best to stop thinking about him.

Tente conversar com outros rapazes, encontre uma forma de se manter ocupada, passeie com os amigos, comece a ver uma nova série de televisão; faça o que for preciso para não pensar nele.

In the meantime, make yourself happy. Trust me- he’ll reappear the moment you forget about him.

Contactar

After a while, it’s safe to reach out to him. Enough time has passed and you won’t look desperate for contacting him now.

But don’t sound too needy. Don’t tell him that you miss him and avoid huge romantic love declarations.

Just ask him what’s up or send him something that reminded you of him. If ainda o segues no Instagram, just reply to his story- that’s always a safe way to make the first move.

Wait and see how he’ll react. Will he keep the conversation going? Follow his lead and don’t push things too hard.

Pedir-lhe uma explicação

If you’re still so eager to get an explanation, just ask him. Don’t talk about your heartbreak and don’t act like him ghosting you was the end of the world.

Tente parecer o mais informal possível. Diga-lhe logo que estava a pensar porque é que ele tinha desaparecido daquela maneira da última vez. Pergunte-lhe se está tudo bem.

Mas, por favor, don’t let him play you for a fool. Make it clear that you’re not buying his lies and that you want the truth.

Seguir em frente

Now that you’ve got your closure (or at least, tentou obtê-lo), it’s time to move on with your life. You know you did your best and it’s clear that a man like him doesn’t deserve you.

I know it’s not easy. You have feelings for him and you just want things to go back to the way they used to be.

But hey, do you really want to live in fear, constantly expecting something like this to happen again? That’s what I thought.

Em vez de investir tempo neste idiota, redireccione essa energia e faça o seu melhor para o ultrapassar.

He Didn’t Text Me Today

When you’re crazy in love, it’s enough for a guy not to text you for a couple of hours for you to think of the worst. I can just imagine the drama going on inside your head if he hasn’t texted you an entire day.

You can’t eat, work or do anything else and all you do is stare at your phone screen. Sounds familiar? Well, I’ve got you covered- here is what it means and what you should do about it.

O que é que isso significa?

A man not texting you one day doesn’t have to be a big deal. If you’ve just started dating, maybe he wants to give you some space or he’s just been busy.

On the other hand, if you’re in a serious relationship and you’re used to hearing from each other all the time- this can be a bandeira vermelha.

O que é que devo fazer?

If this is happening for the first time, text him first. Don’t start a fight and just initiate a conversation.

On the other hand, if he has a habit of not messaging you for an entire day, maybe it’s time for some serious talk- especially if you’re in a serious relationship.

Diz-lhe que don’t plan on chasing him e que o seu comportamento é inaceitável. O mais importante aqui é não fazer ameaças vazias.

Don’t tell him that you’ll leave him the next time he disappears if you’re not ready to actually do it.

Either way, the bottom line is that he has to take you seriously. Make sure he knows you’re not playing and that you won’t tolerate this any longer.

Ele deixou de me enviar mensagens depois de termos dormido juntos

Every girl’s worst nightmare: a guy não telefonar nem enviar mensagens depois de ter dormido com ele. First of all, let me tell you that we’ve all been there and it’s not the end of the world (even though it seems that way now).

Será que ele vai voltar a enviar-te mensagens? Será que ele só queria dar uma queca?

Did he pretend to be something he’s not just to get in your pants? Were all the cute little things he did for you just a way to your bedroom?

Here is where you’ll find all of your answers.

O que é que isso significa?

Detesto ter de vos dizer isto, mas na maioria dos casos, the guy didn’t text you because he considers this meaningless sex. He wants to make it clear that this is not a relationship and that he’s interested in anything besides hooking up from time to time.

Of course, he doesn’t have the courage to tell you this face to face, so he expects you to figure things out by yourself.

Nevertheless, this doesn’t have to be the only reason for his disappearance. Maybe he is self-conscious about his performance and he is too ashamed to talk to you.

O que é que devo fazer?

I don’t care what century this is, you’re a lady and you should never contact the guy first after you spent the night together. Basically, there is nothing much you can do here except wait for his move.

But this doesn’t mean that you should take him back if he decides to reach out after two weeks or more. Give him a couple of days and if he doesn’t text you during that period- bloquear o seu número and forget that he’s ever been a part of your life.

Trust me- if he tries calling you after, it’s just another booty call.

Considerações finais

Sei o que devem estar a pensar neste momento: tudo isto é muito mais fácil de dizer do que de fazer. Bem, deixem-me contar-vos um pequeno segredo: em tempos, estive numa situação semelhante.

Estive a falar com um tipo durante algum tempo e, de repente, ele deixou de me enviar mensagens. Fiquei de coração partido.

Perguntei-me o que teria feito de errado e why I wasn’t enough. Ter alguém que me diga tudo o que acabei de dizer ajudar-me-ia muito.

Please, always be aware of your worth and never run after someone who doesn’t want you. Good luck!