8 Sinais assustadores de que ele é um manipulador emocional

O que é a manipulação emocional?

Hoje em dia, ouve-se este termo vezes sem conta, mas sabe exatamente o que significa? Sabe o que lhe acontece quando é emocionalmente manipulado?

Bem, a manipulação emocional é um comportamento que faz com que alguém mude a sua atitude e a sua forma de pensar métodos abusivos.

If you have ever found yourself in a situation where you did nothing wrong, but after the harsh discussion and harmful words you somehow find yourself apologizing to the person who did you wrong, you’ve been emotionally manipulated.

You’ve been a victim of psychological control.

You’ve all probably been emotionally manipulated at some point in your life, but don’t beat yourself up because it’s not your fault—you didn’t see it coming.

Most of us don’t because emotional manipulators are very cunning and they are so hard to spot. They hide behind their ‘good faces’ for as long as it suits them and once they have you sob o seu controlo, mostram a sua verdadeira face.

But, don’t worry, there is a way for you to try to stop anyone from doing this to you after all. Read these signs that will warn you he is a manipulator that wants to take control of your life:

No início, ele vai mostrar-lhe respeito

He will be delightful and charming. He will let you speak and talk about your life, about things you like and don’t like and he will listen to you very carefully, taking in every word that you say. This is the trick.

You think he’s listening to you because he cares. Actually, he is listening to you to absorb the pattern of your behavior and the way you think, so he can take advantage of that later on.

Ele vai ouvi-la porque precisa de saber como agir à sua volta para a poder controlar mais tarde.

Ele faz uma coisa e diz outra

Ele promete-vos uma coisa, mas nunca a cumpre. Dirá uma coisa e fará outra completamente diferente.

And when you face him for being an ass, he will assure you that whatever you’re asking from him is insane and impossible, so you’ll find yourself satisfied with his answer and maybe even apologizing to him for asking it in the first place.

É assim que ele quer minar a sua crença na sua sanidade e, quando conseguir, terá a sua confiança infinita porque perdeu a fé em si próprio.

Ele vai-te culpar

When you want to do something for yourself, for example: go out with your friends, he won’t object about that, but he will guilt trip you into staying at home.

He will be all sad and act like his world has fallen apart just because you’re doing something he isn’t a part of. Of course, the next thing you do is stay at home because you feel sorry for him. But, don’t be fooled.

Este é o seu favorito tática por te obrigar a fazer exatamente o que ele quer. Fazer com que ficasse em casa era o que ele sempre quis e manipulou-a para o fazer.

Ele é indireto

He doesn’t have the guts to face you, so he will talk behind your back. He will manipulate your friends and people you know into telling you things he actually wants to tell you.

He will never confront you because he doesn’t have the guts to do so. He will hide behind his manipulations because that is when he is the strongest.

Fará de conta que está a ajudar

He will turn on his charm and offer you to help you, but only when he is positive that you don’t need any help and you’re going to say no.

O que está realmente em causa é que ele só pensa em si próprio, é totalmente egoísta e vai manipulá-la, mais uma vez, para que faça o que ele quer.

Outro cenário é ele oferecer-se para mais trabalho, mas enquanto estiver a fazer o que lhe disse para fazer, mostrará que não está satisfeito com isso.

Mesmo assim, ele fá-lo-á na mesma e, quando lhe disser para parar, ele garante-lhe que quer mesmo fazê-lo e que, de alguma forma, o conseguirá à sua maneira.

Ele usará o humor para te magoar

He will use sarcasm or snarky comments to put you down. This is his way of making you insecure and less worthy. He will use every chance he’s got to make you feel bad.

Ao fazer-te parecer mal, ele está a revelar-se melhor do que tu e, passado algum tempo, começas a acreditar nisso também.

Ele julgar-vos-á constantemente

He will try to maintain his superiority by making you feel bad and making you feel like you are not good enough for anything. You’ll get the feeling that everything he does, he does better than you.

After a while, you won’t even bother trying to do anything because you will be sure you’ll fail. This is what he’ll manipulate you into thinking.

He’ll play the victim

O que quer que aconteça entre vocês os dois, ele vai encontrar uma forma de o culpar. Em todas as discussões que tiverem, ele será o único que é a vítima.

He will manipulate you into thinking that you made him feel bad and you’ve maybe crossed the line.

After a while you’ve completely forgotten what you were fighting about and you’ll find yourself apologizing to the man who attacked and cornered you in the beginning.