8 señales aterradoras de que es un manipulador emocional

¿Qué es la manipulación emocional?

Hoy en día oyes este término una y otra vez, pero ¿sabes exactamente lo que significa? ¿Sabes lo que te ocurre cuando te manipulan emocionalmente?

Pues bien, la manipulación emocional es un comportamiento que hace que alguien cambie su actitud y su forma de pensar a través de métodos abusivos.

If you have ever found yourself in a situation where you did nothing wrong, but after the harsh discussion and harmful words you somehow find yourself apologizing to the person who did you wrong, you’ve been emotionally manipulated.

You’ve been a victim of psychological control.

You’ve all probably been emotionally manipulated at some point in your life, but don’t beat yourself up because it’s not your fault—you didn’t see it coming.

Most of us don’t because emotional manipulators are very cunning and they are so hard to spot. They hide behind their ‘good faces’ for as long as it suits them and once they have you bajo su control, muestran sus verdaderos rostros.

But, don’t worry, there is a way for you to try to stop anyone from doing this to you after all. Read these signs that will warn you he is a manipulator that wants to take control of your life:

Al principio te mostrará respeto

He will be delightful and charming. He will let you speak and talk about your life, about things you like and don’t like and he will listen to you very carefully, taking in every word that you say. This is the trick.

You think he’s listening to you because he cares. Actually, he is listening to you to absorb the pattern of your behavior and the way you think, so he can take advantage of that later on.

Te escuchará porque necesita saber cómo actuar contigo para poder controlarte más adelante.

Hace una cosa y dice la otra

Te prometerá algo, pero nunca lo cumplirá. Dirá una cosa y hará completamente otra.

And when you face him for being an ass, he will assure you that whatever you’re asking from him is insane and impossible, so you’ll find yourself satisfied with his answer and maybe even apologizing to him for asking it in the first place.

Así es como quiere socavar tu creencia en tu cordura y, cuando lo consiga, tendrá tu confianza infinita porque has perdido la fe en ti mismo.

Te hará sentir culpable

When you want to do something for yourself, for example: go out with your friends, he won’t object about that, but he will guilt trip you into staying at home.

He will be all sad and act like his world has fallen apart just because you’re doing something he isn’t a part of. Of course, the next thing you do is stay at home because you feel sorry for him. But, don’t be fooled.

Este es su favorito táctica por obligarte a hacer exactamente lo que él quiere. Conseguir que te quedaras en casa era lo que él quería desde el principio, y te manipuló para que lo hicieras.

Es indirecto

He doesn’t have the guts to face you, so he will talk behind your back. He will manipulate your friends and people you know into telling you things he actually wants to tell you.

He will never confront you because he doesn’t have the guts to do so. He will hide behind his manipulations because that is when he is the strongest.

Fingirá ser útil

He will turn on his charm and offer you to help you, but only when he is positive that you don’t need any help and you’re going to say no.

Lo que en realidad está en juego es que sólo piensa en sí mismo, está siendo totalmente egoísta y te manipulará, una vez más para que hagas algo que él quiere.

Otro escenario es que se ofrezca voluntario para más trabajo, pero mientras hace lo que le has dicho que haga, mostrará que no está contento con ello.

Aun así, lo hará de todos modos y cuando le digas que pare, te asegurará que realmente quiere hacerlo y que de algún modo se saldrá con la suya.

Usará el humor para herirte

He will use sarcasm or snarky comments to put you down. This is his way of making you insecure and less worthy. He will use every chance he’s got to make you feel bad.

Haciéndote quedar mal, él resulta ser mejor que tú y al cabo de un tiempo tú también empiezas a creértelo.

Te juzgará constantemente

He will try to maintain his superiority by making you feel bad and making you feel like you are not good enough for anything. You’ll get the feeling that everything he does, he does better than you.

After a while, you won’t even bother trying to do anything because you will be sure you’ll fail. This is what he’ll manipulate you into thinking.

He’ll play the victim

Pase lo que pase entre vosotros, él encontrará la manera de echarte la culpa a ti. En cada discusión que tengáis, será él quien la víctima.

He will manipulate you into thinking that you made him feel bad and you’ve maybe crossed the line.

After a while you’ve completely forgotten what you were fighting about and you’ll find yourself apologizing to the man who attacked and cornered you in the beginning.