9 dicas sobre como detetar o abuso narcisista

By now, I think we all know what a narcissist is, right? It’s the type of person who only cares about themself (to say the least). They are so self-absorbed that they lack the basic human trait of empathy.

Without empathy you’re left with a shell of a human being, not being able to feel the pain of others, so they are very likely people who use the emotions of others to manipulate them.

That’s why we have the term ‘abuso narcísico’, as it refers to the way narcissists manipulate someone’s emotions, to make them feel worthless and to make them think that no one other than the narcissist themself matters.

The worst part about being abused is the way we’re not even aware of it. That’s why I’ve summed up all the small and big signs you’re being abused by a narcissist.

Manipulação

It’s the art of making someone do the things that benefit the manipulator. Sometimes it can even be seen as aggression.

If you’ve experienced manipulation while growing up you might not see it as such.

Por vezes, a manipulação pode até ser constituída por palavras de bondade e elogios utilizados como forma de a levar a fazer o que ele quer.

I think you’ve already pictured a typical situation in your mind: all those times he told you to give him a BJ just because you’re, “The best at it,” or something along those lines.

Agressões verbais

Verbal abuse is the one that leaves us with the biggest wounds, isn’t it? It includes yelling, assuming, bullying, demanding you to do something or ordering you around.

It can also be the use of sarcasm. And keep in mind that criticism isn’t the same as giving feedback!

He might even be calling you names and telling you that you’re not good enough.

Mentir

He’s constantly lying to you, telling you how he was out with his friends watching the game but you found pictures of him and some girl making out at a party.

O que é que ele te diz? Mentiras para o fazer parecer bem e para não te irritar.

Pode até estar a mentir sobre pequenas coisas, como por exemplo, onde pôs uma coisa, só para a ver procurar durante todo o dia, enquanto ele sabe onde ela está.

These are just little examples of what your abuser might be doing. Keep in mind that their ultimate lie is, “I love you.”

Chantagem emocional

This can include warnings that he will leave you if you don’t do what he wants and if you still refuse he might burst out in anger just to make you feel fear and obligation toward him.

You may even feel guilty for making him angry even though you could’ve saved yourself the trouble by doing it the first time he told you to.

Violência física

From pulling your hair to blocking your path, it’s all violence, dear. If you disobey him, he might throw your things around and destroy the most precious items you have.

He doesn’t have to hit you for it to be called physical abuse.

Esgotar as suas finanças

It’s also referred to as financial abuse. If you’re financially above your narcissistic abuser he won’t like it, so he’ll try to make it all even by gambling with the money he took from you or even selling your stuff.

Por muito duro que pareça, isto acontece de facto. Ele pode até roubar-lhe dinheiro se se recusar a dar-lho.

Isolamento

Quer que fiques em casa a todo o custo. Isola-o dos seus amigos e da sua família, não o deixando sair de casa.

Ele pode até usar a força para o manter dentro de casa.

Even verbal abuse to isolate you is common – for example, telling you that no one misses you and that you should stay home anyway.

Sabotagem

He interferes with your relationships with friends and family, maybe even your work environment, to make you remember who has the ‘upper hand’ or for the purpose of revenge.

Isn’t this a huge bandeira vermelha para fugires?