Sei que estás destroçado, mas concentra-te na lição, não na desilusão

Aposto que não há uma pessoa neste mundo que não tenha cometido erros na sua vida.

There isn’t a human being alive who hasn’t made some wrong choices they regret now.

It doesn’t matter if you let some wrong people in, if you made a lousy judgment regarding your career, or if you would now change some decisions you made in the past.

O que importa é que, de alguma forma, acabaste por ficar com o coração partido.

Talvez tenham brincado consigo.

Talvez alguém em quem confiava plenamente o tenha apunhalado pelas costas ou o tenha abandonado quando mais precisava dele.

Maybe you feel like you’ve wasted your entire life until now. Maybe you ended up with your heart broken and shattered into pieces.

Seja o que for, há uma verdade simples: tudo isso faz parte da vida.

Whether you like it or not, pain, resentment, and regret are all things you’ll experience on your journey.

Detesto ter de vos dizer isto, mas não há nada que possam fazer para evitar que a vida aconteça.

As pessoas continuarão a desiludir-nos e a magoar-nos e o nosso coração continuará a ficar partido, por mais que o tentemos evitar.

No entanto, há também algumas boas notícias. You’re the only one who can control how you react to the things going on around you.

You don’t have any control whatsoever over other people’s actions. However, you do have full control over your thoughts and feelings.

Basicamente, what I’m trying to say is that it’s up to you to decide what to focus on: the disappointment or a lição que o teu desgosto te ensinou.

If you keep on focusing on the pain, you’ll just produce more pain.

You’ll produce more anger, resentment, grudges, and the desire for revenge.

Nenhuma destas emoções negativas fará mal a quem o magoou. Não os afectarão nem os farão arrepender-se.

So, at the end of the day, when you focus on the bad things, you only do bad to yourself. It’s as simple as that.

Por outro lado, if you choose to focus on the lessons you’ve learned thanks to all of these negative experiences, you’ll do yourself a favor.

You’ll continue to grow until you finally become the person you were meant to be.

You’ll always find obstacles along your path. There will always be unexpected challenges and hardships.

No entanto, a forma como reage a todas elas é o que determina o curso da sua vida.

É ela que determina a sua saúde mental e emocional.

Let’s try a little experiment.

Se alguém aparecesse com uma varinha mágica e lhe desse a oportunidade de apagar todos os seus erros e escolhas erradas, o que faria?

What would you do if you had the chance to erase each one of the tears you’ve cried, all of your mágoas, and all the traumas you’ve had to endure?

Aposto que aceitaria de imediato a oferta, sem pensar muito no assunto.

Afinal de contas, quem perderia a oportunidade de anular tudo o que de mau lhe aconteceu na vida?

However, I’m asking you to stop right there and consider this: what kind of person would you be today if it weren’t for this heartbreak?

What would happen to all the difficult but extremely valuable lessons you’ve learned? They would also be erased, wouldn’t they?

Por isso, continuarias a não ter qualquer noção da vida.

You wouldn’t have the wisdom, discernment, perspicacity, and clairvoyance that you have today.

You wouldn’t know half the things you know now.

You wouldn’t be able to determine what’s good for you or to read people, and your intuition wouldn’t be as developed.

Most importantly: if it weren’t for this heartbreak, you wouldn’t have the strength you possess today.

You wouldn’t know how to appreciate all the good things happening to you.

All the smiles you experience now would be worthless if you couldn’t compare them with tears.

All the happiness wouldn’t have the same meaning if you couldn’t compare it to the sadness you went through.

You wouldn’t see the value of the love in your life if it weren’t for all the hatred you previously experienced.

Por isso, acho que todos os o inferno por que passaste valeu a pena, afinal.