Não quero uma química forçada, quero uma ligação direta

Is it really chemistry if it’s forced? I thought to myself while I was revisiting the last conversation with the guy I liked… or I thought I liked.

It’s not that there was something wrong with him, it’s just that it didn’t feel genuine.

You know, he didn’t make me uncontrollably think about him.

He didn’t make me daydream of our potential dates or forget about that banana bread in the oven.

Não havia nada que me fizesse querer imaginar a nossa futuro em conjunto ou pensar nos nomes dos nossos filhos que não existem. E, sinceramente, isso incomodava-me.

I know I’m not 18 anymore and I know life isn’t a fairytale – I’m not being hysterical here – but knowing how unglamorous life is, IS the reason I want something extraordinary.

I’m not talking about a perfect life, but genuine connection.

Uma verdadeira compreensão, uma obsessão por ir ao fundo de alguém que amamos porque nos fascina muito.

Quero estudá-los como um livro religioso. Quero aprender a minha pessoa de cor.

I’m talking about the decisão not to get bored with someone because boredom only means you’ve tomar algo como garantidoseja uma pessoa ou um dia pouco inspirador.

If you’re bored, it means you’re not paying attention.

I witnessed some very magical things in my life and I know love is real, and that’s why I will never give up, which brings me back to that something that bothered me in my last quase relação.

What bugged me most was probably the fact that I just didn’t feel comfortable enough around him. It still bugs me.

That doesn’t mean one of us had done something wrong, just that there probably was no deeper connection.

I believe my intuition wouldn’t lie to me when it comes to this kind of stuff.

Até o meu cérebro estava a fazer perguntas como: Queres mesmo passar um número desconhecido de anos da tua vida a sentir-te assim?

My immediate answer was no. No, I don’t want to feel like a half-finished painting. I don’t want to feel like I’m missing out.

E sim, eu sei que o medo de ficar de fora é uma doença dos dias de hoje, mas oiçam-me.

If I’m about to share my life and my body with someone for the rest of my life, I want that connection to be raw.

Sem filtros. Sem edição, sem tabus, sem censura, sem vidro fosco.

Quero que ele me veja como eu sou. Quero sentir-me suficientemente segura para agir de forma selvagem ou para ser completamente vulnerável.

Of course, there’s that one part of me that tells me I need to lower my expectations, but then there’s another that yells at me saying: Don’t settle for less than YOU think you deserve.

Afinal de contas, só temos uma vida, e embora esta afirmação por vezes pareça uma pressão, outras vezes é uma revelação.

No, I don’t want forced chemistry. I don’t want something that’s going to disappear after the fase de lua de mel.

I don’t want to constantly remind myself that “things could’ve been worse.”

I want things to be “worse” and still feel completely content with my decision. I want to go through “worse” with the pessoa certa.

The raw connection is felt on the soul level. It’s not calculated by how comfortable your life will be with someone.

De facto, o conforto é provavelmente o caminho mais rápido para os sentimentos de insatisfação numa relação.

Without challenges and growth, there’s no real freedom – and freedom is love.

Para sermos felizes, precisamos de experimentar o amor que desejamos. Para experimentar o amor que desejamos, temos de ser autênticos.

Por outras palavras, é preciso agir por si próprio para atrair quem o amará por isso.

That’s a raw connection.

That’s something you deserve and why you shouldn’t stop saying to yourself: Don’t settle for less.