Porque é que os homens voltam meses depois (19 razões comuns)
Perguntamo-nos porque é que os homens voltam meses depois? Que força os levou a escrever aquela mensagem ou a fazer aquele telefonema? Será que isso significa alguma coisa ou está apenas a pensar demais?
Bem, uma coisa é certa: significa de facto alguma coisa.
Your man’s reasons could either be selfish or he genuinely wants to be with you. However, even these two categories have too many subcategories.
And, it varies from man to man, so it’s up to you to analyze your situation with the help of this article.
Porque é que os homens voltam meses depois: 19 razões
If you’re interested in knowing why exes come back into your life, consider the following reasons:
1. You’re the perfect woman.
It’s very simple. Your guy could come back because nobody else comes close. Maybe the connection he has with you is something he never experienced again.
So, he returns to your life because he feels like you’re the only one who understands him… his soulmate. He’s eager to show his real self to someone without being judged.
Overall, he feels like you’re the mulher de elevado valor que ele sempre procurou.
He left because he tried to find it elsewhere.. until he realized he’s had it all along.
2. Ele sabe que ainda o amas.
Sim, por vezes os homens voltam simplesmente porque podem. Provavelmente, o teu homem sabe o que sentes por ele, mas mesmo assim toma-o por garantido.
Sempre que ele precisa de um aumento do ego, he’s back at your door. And, since you allow it to happen, he might do it repeatedly.
Este tipo de homem é demasiado imaturo para uma relação, and doesn’t care if he’s hurting you.
All he knows is that you will always welcome him with open arms. He likes being loved by you, but doesn’t love you back.
3. Ele só quer sexo.
It’s sad, but possible. He either can’t find a sexual partner or is bored with the chase. So, what does he do?
He comes back to the person who’ll definitely give him what he wants.
And, since you’re a woman, naturally, you overthink. Quer que o sexo tenha significado, por isso convence-se de que ele está a ser guiado pelas suas emoções.
But, trust me… if he wanted something more than sex, he would let you know. He’s just não está preparado para uma relação.
Romance doesn’t exist. You just made it up. And, you deserve more than a made-up story.
4. As memórias perseguem-no.
Talvez o seu ex-namorado tenha visto uma fotografia sua nas redes sociais ou um meme que o fez recordar os bons velhos tempos. Talvez ele se tenha lembrado de uma piada que disseste uma vez e isso desencadeou todo um processo de pensamento.
Ele era lutar contra os seus sentimentos por ti and just HAD TO experience what you had together again. Not talking to you was something he couldn’t stand. He was ready for his fix.
But, that’s the problem. All you are to him is a fix.
Mesmo que, no fundo, ele goste mesmo de si, assim que tiver a sua quota-parte de satisfação, voltará a desaparecer porque he doesn’t want a relationship convosco.
5. You’re a challenge.
A lot of the time, a man will come rushing back to you because he knows he can’t have you.
Todos sabemos que os homens são louco por mulheres difíceis que continuam a rejeitá-los.
If he has already tried hooking up with you, but you didn’t want him or gave him mixed signals, he’ll want to try again.
He can’t stand rejection, but at the same time, he’s incredibly atraído por si.
He loves that you’re difícil de obter. E, na sua mente, nada o faria sentir-se melhor do que conquistar o coração de uma mulher assim.
6. Ultrapassaste-o.
This is one of the most common reasons why men come back months later – THEY JUST CAN’T STAND THAT YOU MOVED ON!
If your guy sees what a perfect little life you’ve created for yourself in his absence, he will hate that he’s not a part of it.
So, of course, he will gravitate towards you again, disrupting your peace. He’s not even a sério sobre si. This kind of man can’t stand being forgotten.
He comes back to remind you of his existence… to show you, or rather himself, that he’s worthy of being remembered.
7. Ele quer-te de volta.
That’s right. Maybe his return isn’t any kind of self-serving game. Maybe he’s genuinely a homem bom que quer voltar a juntar-se.
Ele tinha dúvidas da primeira vez, mas a regra de não contacto fê-lo perceber que ele ama-te.
Notou algum sinal de que ele ainda te ama? Sente que ele quer reatar a vossa antiga relação?
If you’re not sure about the answers, that’s fine. But, I’ll tell you one thing:
Confie sempre na sua intuição.
Francamente, se o seguíssemos mais vezes, estaríamos melhor.
8. Os seus amigos encorajaram-no.
Ah, you can never be fully immune to the opinions of other people. So, it’s quite possible your guy was told that leaving you was the biggest mistake he has ever made.
Driven by guilt, he reaches out again. But, that guilt doesn’t even come from him.
It’s all just someone else’s deed. He doesn’t think you’re the one for him – they do.
You know your guy the best. If he’s easily influenced, this might just be the reason why he came back to you.
9. His relationship isn’t fulfilling.
This one’s truly a classic. If he already has a girlfriend, but still reaches out to you, that means he isn’t quite as happy as he seems.
That’s a common reason why men come back months later.
There is something missing in his relationship… something his girlfriend can’t offer him, but you can. That may be emotional support or teasing.
Seja o que for, é importante para ele e ele precisa de si para satisfazer as suas necessidades. Assim que ele o fizer, ou romper com a namorada or leave you… again.
10. Being a player doesn’t cut it for him.
Some men are afraid of love. They don’t like letting someone in because that means they might end up hurt.
So, they choose the easier option – casual flings that don’t mean anything.
Maybe your guy decided to hook up with random women from dating apps because he’s medo do compromisso.
All he wanted was to have fun with one, and then move on to the next…
Se ele voltou para si, provavelmente teve uma epifania.
Apercebeu-se de que ser mulherengo didn’t make him as happy as he thought it would. He wants something meaningful after all.
Ele sabe que é uma mulher de grande valor e está finalmente pronto para lhe dar o seu coração.
11. He’s confused.
Men don’t always know what they want. Yours could genuinely be confuso sobre a forma como se sente sobre si.
Maybe he isn’t even aware of his struggle, but something just pulls him towards you. He finds himself by your side without understanding what it really means.
Mas, para começar, porque é que ele está confuso?
Well, he probably thinks he doesn’t have a chance, but is still tempted to talk to you.
O objetivo dele pode ou não ser uma relação consigo, mas uma coisa é certa: ele gosta muito de si.
12. Arrepende-se.
You just can’t live without regretting certain choices, can you? That’s why men come back months later sometimes. They regret breaking up.
Talvez o seu homem tenha acabado de se aperceber de como a relação dele consigo era óptima e agora queira consertar as coisas. Quer mostrar-lhe o grande erro que cometeu.
You’ll know that this is his goal if he puts in a lot of effort to regain what he lost. The amount of effort equals his love for you.
Estaria pronto para lhe dar outra oportunidade?
13. He’s just bored.
Well, isn’t that just peachy?! A man reaching out to you because he is too lazy to start a new relationship! Imagine being nothing but someone’s entertainment.
That probably hurts a lot, especially if you care about him. But, unfortunately, you’re going to have to care about yourself more.
No matter how much you love him, realize that you are nothing to him but a way to kill his boredom. He doesn’t value what you have to offer. He just doesn’t know where else to look.
Do you really want to be someone’s option? Will you accept a guy who only gives you the mínimo indispensável?
14. He doesn’t have anybody else.
It just gets sadder, doesn’t it? The reason why men come back months later could also be a lack of female company.
He probably doesn’t have a girlfriend nor did he meet anyone new who intrigued him. So, what does he do? He goes back to someone he will surely enjoy – you.
I know a part of you is flattered, but it really shouldn’t be. This guy isn’t serious about you. He’s just using you because he doesn’t like the single life.
He left you because he didn’t care enough about you in the first place, and it’s unlikely he will care this time.
This doesn’t mean you are flawed and undeserving of him. On the contrary, he is undeserving of YOU.
Só deves aceitar um homem que vem ter contigo porque mais ninguém se pode comparar; um homem que te faz a sua prioridade.
15. He’s finally ready to be with you.
Just because you want a great love life doesn’t mean you’re ready for it. Sometimes, you need a second time.
The sad truth is that you can’t be in a relação saudável unless you’re at peace with yourself. I mean, you can, but it will be very difficult.
Talvez o seu ente querido tenha precisado de muito tempo para se encontrar primeiro. Talvez ele estivesse demasiado emocionalmente desequilibrado, which didn’t allow him to be with you at the beginning.
Provavelmente, ele pensou que seria melhor seguirem caminhos separados até ele se tornar uma pessoa melhor.
E, agora que cresceu, é finalmente capaz de a amar da forma que sempre quis.
16. Alguém estava a falar de si.
It’s always a pain when someone randomly mentions a person you once loved and lost. And, sometimes the heartbreak is so great that you decide to reach out to them.
This could be the reason why your guy couldn’t resist talking to you again. Todas as memórias voltaram à sua mente, e ele queria sentir o que um dia sentiu contigo.
Se ele faz isto, é porque gosta muito de si. Não há tempo ou distância que a tire da cabeça dele. Basta uma palavra para ele voltar a enviar-lhe mensagens ou telefonar-lhe.
Still, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he will stay. Chances ARE high if he has done it this one time, but if he keeps coming back, that’s a major red flag.
Perhaps he loves you… just not in the way you deserve.
17. A sua relação falhou.
When your relationship ends, it’s natural to seek comfort. People do it by talking to friends, drinking a bit too much… or simply going back to their ex-girlfriend who will always have them.
I know this isn’t the answer you were looking for, but you might just be his consolation prize.
He probably lost the one he wanted and didn’t know where else to go. The only one who came to mind was you.
Trust me, you deserve so much more than being with someone who comes to you because you’re the only one available.
No matter how much you care about him, have enough self-control not to be there for him. Even if you’re dying to have a chat, be stronger than your desire.
He doesn’t deserve even five minutes of your time. Devote it to someone who will be with you because they can’t imagine being with anyone else.
18. He’s going through a guilt trip.
Ele magoou-a da última vez que falaram? Estava a traí-la?
Se a vossa relação acabou mal, é possível que ele ainda se culpe a si próprio. Por isso, para aliviar a sua consciência, procura-a.
Pode pensar que o seu ex quer estar consigo novamente, mas se ele voltou apenas para acalmar os seus pensamentos, os seus motivos são, na verdade, egoístas.
He doesn’t care about how you feel. He just can’t stand that he feels bad over what he did to you.
If he did care, he wouldn’t be in your life again because he knows his return might ruin the peace you have created without him.
But, your peace isn’t on his priority list, even though he might convince himself that it is.
Coming back into someone’s life on a whim is never the right thing to do.
19. He’s just checking up on you.
No, the reason why men come back months later isn’t always that deep. Even if he wants to talk to you, that doesn’t necessarily mean that he holds any value to those conversations.
Maybe it just occurred to him: ”Oh, I haven’t talked to her in a while! I’ll see what she’s up to.”
Of course, there’s nothing bad with checking up on people. But, if it hurts you every time he comes back, don’t allow it to happen again.
A sua saúde mental está em primeiro lugar.
Considerações finais
Hopefully, it has become much clearer to you why men come back months later. Every man is different, and it’s up to you to realize the motives of your ex.
However, it’s very important to be honest with yourself. Don’t paint the picture prettier than it is. Don’t mistake his attention for love.
Todos os especialistas em relações dizem-lhe a mesma coisa:
Even if it’s killing you inside, you deserve to be treated like a queen. If you’re not his priority, don’t let him be in your life any longer.
A forma como ele a trata é muito mais importante do que o que sente por ele.
