Quando sabes que sabes: 20 sinais à prova de bala de que encontraste a pessoa certa
Quando se sabe, sabe-se. This is a phrase I’ve heard so many times in my life, often unsure of what exactly it’s supposed to mean. How do you know exactly?
Isto incomodou-me durante algum tempo, por isso decidi fazer alguma investigação. Tal como muitos de vós, sou um apaixonado pelo amor.
Este facto levou-me a ir mais fundo e a descobrir o fundo deste enigmático ditado.
Turns out there’s a lot to be said about this. As we’re all aware, amor verdadeiro requer trabalho contínuo, esforço e compreensão.
It isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. There’s a gray area in-between that ultimately makes or breaks you.
During conversations with different people, I was most curious to find out how you can be sure that you’ve found someone who’s worth all the sacrifices.
How do you know for sure that this is the right person who’ll show you what true love really is? And what I found out truly opened my eyes.
Depois de várias conversas com o meu melhores amigos e família, consegui finalmente compreender um pouco melhor este ditado.
If you care to find out whether what you have is just infatuation or a healthy relationship in the making, I’ve got the answers you’re looking for.
It’s difficult to guarantee perfect compatibility in your new relationship but these 20 good signs will show whether what you have is the real thing or a passing fling.
O verdadeiro significado de Quando se sabe que se sabe
Fairy tales aren’t real but when you finally feel that click with someone, you stop caring about perfection.
When you’re with the right person, you roll with the punches, knowing you’ve got the best companion along for the ride. And according to my research, this is how you know you’ve found them.
You don’t feel a compulsion to hide any part of you
Talvez pela primeira vez, sente-se livre para ser o seu verdadeiro e autêntico eu.
You no longer feel any need to hide a part of you that might scare them away. Why? Because this person doesn’t scare easily.
Adoram a tua peculiaridade, a tua personalidade tagarela, a tua incapacidade de ficar calado quando estás chateado e até as tuas mudanças repentinas de humor.
Com eles, sente-se completamente livre para sê quem tu és when you are alone together. And that is the ultimate sign that you’ve found yourself a keeper.
Gostam de passar tempo juntos, mas valorizam igualmente o tempo que passam separados
O que todos os especialistas dizem ser uma regra fundamental para uma relação romântica é a capacidade de desfrutar de um tempo à parte.
Sim, esta pessoa é a sua alma gémea, mas continua a alimentar a vida que tem fora da sua relação.
You are both perfectly okay with the other one spending time with friends and family. After all, you are the one they’re coming back home to.
You’re on the same page when it comes to your future
It’s important that all couples are able to discuss their future.
It’s not a good sign if you secretly know that your visions clash so you avoid talking about it altogether. For this to work, you need to be on the same page.
Naturally, this isn’t something you’ll discuss on your first date. But eventually, the topic should arise and you need to be able to handle it maturely.
This is the rest of your life you’re talking about.
Don’t you deserve someone who feels the same way as you about how to spend it? And if you’ve found it, that is how you know.
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Os vossos combates são raros mas sempre justos
You know that it’s not about winning. A fight is about finding a common resolution that will benefit you both.
Nobody should come out victorious as it’s all about you and them against the issue.
São poucos os casais que o conseguem, mas os que o conseguem têm mais hipóteses de ir mais longe.
When you fight fairly, you know that you’ve got each other’s best interests at heart.
Sometimes, during fights, you’ll think to yourself: I don’t even know who you are but even then, you’d never think to say something you know you’ll regret. Eventually, it all works out.
You take each other’s opinions into account about everything
Quando se sabe, sabe-se, e este é um dos melhores exemplos. O seu parceiro pede a sua opinião e tem-na em conta, tal como você.
You will never do stuff without checking with them first, as you know that it’s not how it works.
You’re a united front and you value each other’s input on every subject that concerns your relationship.
You’ve felt an uncanny sense of closeness from the get-go
Ever since high school or college (or whenever you met), you’ve felt an unusual sense of closeness. Something you’d never felt before.
Isto deu-lhe o empurrão de que precisava para prosseguir com esta história de amor. E quem diria?
It turned out to be one for the ages. The feeling you’ve been immersed in since day one has only gotten stronger.
Hoje, ama-os mais do que alguma vez pensou ser possível.
E o mais engraçado é que nunca acreditou que pudesse amá-los mais do que na altura, mas a vida provou que estava enganado.
Ambos se esforçam de bom grado para que tudo funcione
A maior pedra angular de um relação romântica é o esforço que ambos os parceiros têm de fazer e esta é uma via de dois sentidos.
If you are the only one trying hard to push through the dark times and they couldn’t be bothered, it will never survive.
However, when you’re with the right person, the effort is real on both sides. It’s always fifty-fifty.
Heck, on days when you feel low, it’s eighty-twenty because they’re always there to take the burden off your shoulders when you need it.
Fazem questão de nunca passar muito tempo sem se verem
Mesmo que a vossa relação tenha de sobreviver a uma distância tão grande como entre Nova Iorque e Los Angeles, fazem questão de se verem regularmente.
If it’s been two weeks, one of you is hopping on the first flight for some much-needed quality time. Why?
Porque quando se sabe, sabe-se!
Some people are worth the distance. And it’s never crossed your mind to let something like that affect your relationship. Your love trumps all the miles between you.
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You never flake on each other – your commitment to them beats everything else
Nada diz Eu amo-te como estar sempre presente. Mas não porque se sente obrigado, mas porque quer mesmo estar.
No matter what your day is like, you’re always going to make an effort to keep to the plans you made.
Sure, some days, it really just can’t be done (and they get it) but you’ll always have them in the back of your mind.
To me, that’s what real love is all about. There are no silly excuses as to why you won’t be able to make it. Why?
Com o único objetivo de querer genuinamente fazê-lo!
Nunca se sente nostalgia da sua solteirice
You don’t miss being a single person one bit!
Por vezes, navega-se por as suas redes sociais fotos dos seus dias de solteiro e sente-se aliviado por já não ser assim.
You’ve never really felt that way before.
No passado, lembrava-nos sempre de coisas mais simples e mais feliz times but now, you just feel so utterly blessed that you don’t ever have to walk through life alone again.
You’ve met each other’s families and friends (and you all get along great)
De I don’t even know who you are para O que é que eu faria sem ti? (e da tua família)!
Who’d have thought that you’d meet someone whose family would genuinely feel like your family?
A few years ago, you didn’t even know they existed and now, you have so many people who you care about on their side. And that’s a sign that you’ve met the one.
You don’t find it burdensome to visit their folks. Quite the contrary!
You’ve developed a really unique bond with their siblings and their parents adore you.
You’re comfortable letting your vulnerability show and vice versa
Por mais vulnerável que seja ao pé do seu parceiro, ele nunca irá ferir a sua autoestima.
It’s okay to be broken and it’s okay to feel lost. They encourage you to let it all out.
The right person will never make you feel like you’re being annoying for being sad.
They understand that it’s not always going to be smooth sailing and they’re always your shoulder to cry on.
You don’t feel the need to fill every silence with words
Isto é a vida real, não a terra da fantasia. E adivinha?
You’re not always going to have something to say but that’s the beauty of it. You won’t even feel the need to.
As pessoas que partilham uma forte ligação emocional e mental compreendem que podem desfrutar da convivência sem terem de estar sempre a falar.
O silêncio é tão confortável como uma conversa animada.
When you get to a place where this is perfectly normal, comfortable even, there’s no question whether you’re with the right person. The quiet says it all.
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There’s an emotional, mental and physical connection
There’s a ligação genuína between you. When you’re with them, it’s as if you can read each other’s mind.
When they’re sad, you’re sad. And the thing is, they don’t even have to say it. You feel it every time.
They’re your best friend on Earth and you can feel it in your bones that you’d be crushed if something ever happened to them.
É provavelmente a única pessoa no mundo que o compreende completamente.
A lot of people think they do but your partner is the only one who knows you inside out. It’s scary, daunting and simply marvelous.
Confiam um no outro para tudo
You’d trust them with your life; that’s never even in question.
If you were in a grave situation and had only one phone call, you’d call them because you know they’d pick up.
Somehow, you just feel that you’re always safest in their hands. And the thing is, it’s hard to pinpoint why.
Embora existam muitas razões, nenhuma delas consegue resumir corretamente a situação.
Aceita e abraça os seus defeitos e imperfeições
Don’t you know that there’s no such thing as perfection? No matter how hard you try, you’ll never find a perfect partner.
There will always be that one annoying habit that they just won’t be able to break or a silly catchphrase you’ll wish they’d stop throwing around.
When you realize that you can’t change a person, that’s when you get what true love is.
O amor é estar lá para eles apesar de todas as suas falhas e imperfeições. O amor é estar ao seu lado mesmo quando queremos estrangulá-lo (mas não a sério).
Love is messed up but when it’s real, you just don’t care.
A sua simples presença faz-nos sentir felizes e realizados
It’s the little things that make all the difference. You don’t need grand gestures or constant proclamations of love.
You just need them to physically be there. That’s it.
When they’re by your side, you feel whole. There’s nothing you need, want or crave.
Their presence is all you’ll ever need to be happy in life. It might sound silly or even cheesy but when you know you saber.
Also, when you’re not together, you notice those sinais de que alguém está a pensar em si e sabemos que esse alguém são eles.
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Fazem rir um ao outro mais do que qualquer outra pessoa
Vocês fazem-se rir um ao outro sem sequer tentarem. Para mim, o humor é uma das partes mais importantes de uma relação saudável.
You can’t always be serious. Who’s going to cheer you up when life gets you down?
Quando se precisa de um estímulo instantâneo, sabe-se a quem ligar. E com eles, o riso é tão fácil.
That’s because they know you so well. They know what makes you tick and what will fazer xixi nas calças risonho.
The most boring things are super exciting when you’re together
Uma coisa simples como uma ida à mercearia de repente parece tão divertida e isto é algo que eu defendo totalmente.
When you’re with the right person, you’ll have fun no matter what you’re doing.
Dar um passeio à beira-rio, ir buscar a roupa à lavandaria ou fazer as compras da semana.
It’s fun all around. You don’t even have to say anything, you’ll just giggle knowing what they’re thinking.
During times like these, when you’re happy doing absolutely nothing, it becomes crystal clear why this person is tailor-made for you.
A felicidade deles é a vossa felicidade
When they’re sad, you’re sad. When they’re happy, you’re over the moon.
A alegria deles faz-nos mais felizes do que a nossa própria alegria e isso é um sinal de amor na sua forma mais verdadeira.
You don’t need constant signs of affection or material stuff. All you need is your best friend in tow, and you’re the happiest clam there is.
No one’s happiness has ever mattered as much as theirs.
Quando se sabe que se sabe Citações
Desfrute destas citações inspiradoras que reflectem o que é o verdadeiro amor para diferentes pessoas.
Se se encontrar em alguma delas, partilhe-as com a sua cara-metade e orgulhe-se do que tem.
1. “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”―Brené Brown
2. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”―Unknown
3. “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”―Pablo Neruda
4. “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”―John Joseph Powell
5. “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”―Neil Gaiman
6. “Love is not a maybe thing, you know when you love someone.”―Lauren Conrad
7. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”―Unknown
8. “Everyone always wants to know how you can tell when it’s true love, and the answer is this: when the pain doesn’t fade and the scars don’t heal, and it’s too damned late.”―Jonathan Tropper
9. “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”―Sarah Dessen
10. “Love, like everything else in life, should be a discovery, an adventure, and like most adventures, you don’t know you’re having one until you’re right in the middle of it.”―E.A. Bucchianeri
11. “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”―Jodi Picoult
12. “I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”―Steve Maraboli
13. “True love isn’t expressed in passionately whispered words, an intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.”―Joshua Harris
14. “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”―Robert Fulghum
15. “When forever becomes a place… when forever ceases to be just a word… when it ceases to be just a measurement of time… but instead becomes a place where soul mates can dance to the song in their hearts… that is a reflection of true love.”―Steve Maraboli
16. “When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.”―Jess C. Scott
17. “True love is taking the risk that it won’t be a happily-ever-after. True love is joining hands with the man who loves you for who you are, and saying, ‘I’m not afraid to believe in you.’”―Cara Lockwood
18. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”―1 Corinthians 13:4-8
19. “I’m done. I don’t need anything more out of life. I have you, and that’s enough.”―Alessandra Torre
20. “My point is that when you fall in love it’s with a real person with flaws. Not with a perfect character from a fairy tale.”―Mette Ivie Harrison
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When you know you know. There’s no second-guessing.
Just a click you’ve never felt before and everything that went wrong in your previous relationships is now on the right track.
The words can’t quite do it justice. While the above signs perfectly explain what real love is, you just have to feel it.
E se o fizer, parabéns! Desfrute-o, alimente-o e escolha-o todos os dias.
