Quando sai di sapere: 20 segnali a prova di bomba che hai trovato l'uomo giusto
Quando si sa di sapere, si sa. This is a phrase I’ve heard so many times in my life, often unsure of what exactly it’s supposed to mean. How do you know exactly?
Questa cosa mi ha infastidito per un po', così ho deciso di fare qualche ricerca. Come molti di voi, sono un amante dell'amore.
Questo mi ha spinto a scavare più a fondo e ad andare a fondo di questo detto enigmatico.
Turns out there’s a lot to be said about this. As we’re all aware, amore vero richiede un lavoro, uno sforzo e una comprensione continui.
It isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. There’s a gray area in-between that ultimately makes or breaks you.
During conversations with different people, I was most curious to find out how you can be sure that you’ve found someone who’s worth all the sacrifices.
How do you know for sure that this is the right person who’ll show you what true love really is? And what I found out truly opened my eyes.
Dopo numerosi colloqui con il mio migliori amici e la famiglia, sono finalmente riuscito a capire un po' meglio questo detto.
If you care to find out whether what you have is just infatuation or a healthy relationship in the making, I’ve got the answers you’re looking for.
It’s difficult to guarantee perfect compatibility in your new relationship but these 20 good signs will show whether what you have is the real thing or a passing fling.
Il vero significato di Quando sai di sapere
Fairy tales aren’t real but when you finally feel that click with someone, you stop caring about perfection.
When you’re with the right person, you roll with the punches, knowing you’ve got the best companion along for the ride. And according to my research, this is how you know you’ve found them.
You don’t feel a compulsion to hide any part of you
Forse per la prima volta in assoluto, vi sentite liberi di essere il vostro vero, autentico io.
You no longer feel any need to hide a part of you that might scare them away. Why? Because this person doesn’t scare easily.
Amano la tua eccentricità, la tua personalità da chiacchierone, la tua incapacità di stare zitto quando sei arrabbiato e persino i tuoi improvvisi sbalzi d'umore.
Con loro, vi sentite completamente liberi di essere ciò che si è when you are alone together. And that is the ultimate sign that you’ve found yourself a keeper.
Vi piace passare del tempo insieme, ma apprezzate anche il tempo trascorso da soli.
Una regola fondamentale per una relazione sentimentale, secondo tutti gli esperti, è la capacità di godersi il tempo da soli.
Sì, questa persona è la vostra anima gemella, ma continuate a coltivare la vita che avete al di fuori della vostra relazione.
You are both perfectly okay with the other one spending time with friends and family. After all, you are the one they’re coming back home to.
You’re on the same page when it comes to your future
It’s important that all couples are able to discuss their future.
It’s not a good sign if you secretly know that your visions clash so you avoid talking about it altogether. For this to work, you need to be on the same page.
Naturally, this isn’t something you’ll discuss on your first date. But eventually, the topic should arise and you need to be able to handle it maturely.
This is the rest of your life you’re talking about.
Don’t you deserve someone who feels the same way as you about how to spend it? And if you’ve found it, that is how you know.
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I vostri scontri sono rari ma sempre equi
You know that it’s not about winning. A fight is about finding a common resolution that will benefit you both.
Nobody should come out victorious as it’s all about you and them against the issue.
Poche coppie lo capiscono davvero, ma quelle che lo fanno hanno le migliori possibilità di andare avanti.
When you fight fairly, you know that you’ve got each other’s best interests at heart.
Sometimes, during fights, you’ll think to yourself: I don’t even know who you are but even then, you’d never think to say something you know you’ll regret. Eventually, it all works out.
You take each other’s opinions into account about everything
Quando si sa di sapere, e questo è uno degli esempi migliori. Il vostro partner chiede la vostra opinione e ne tiene conto, così come voi.
You will never do stuff without checking with them first, as you know that it’s not how it works.
You’re a united front and you value each other’s input on every subject that concerns your relationship.
You’ve felt an uncanny sense of closeness from the get-go
Ever since high school or college (or whenever you met), you’ve felt an unusual sense of closeness. Something you’d never felt before.
Questo vi ha dato la spinta necessaria per portare avanti questa storia d'amore. E che ne sa lei?
It turned out to be one for the ages. The feeling you’ve been immersed in since day one has only gotten stronger.
Oggi li amate più di quanto abbiate mai pensato.
E la cosa buffa è che non avete mai creduto di poterli amare più di allora, ma la vita vi ha dimostrato che vi sbagliavate.
Entrambi vi impegnate volentieri per far funzionare le cose.
La più grande pietra miliare di un relazione romantica è l'impegno che entrambi i partner devono profondere e si tratta di una strada a doppio senso.
If you are the only one trying hard to push through the dark times and they couldn’t be bothered, it will never survive.
However, when you’re with the right person, the effort is real on both sides. It’s always fifty-fifty.
Heck, on days when you feel low, it’s eighty-twenty because they’re always there to take the burden off your shoulders when you need it.
Fate in modo di non stare mai troppo tempo senza vedervi.
Anche se la vostra relazione deve superare una distanza come quella tra New York e Los Angeles, fate in modo di vedervi regolarmente.
If it’s been two weeks, one of you is hopping on the first flight for some much-needed quality time. Why?
Perché quando si sa si sa!
Some people are worth the distance. And it’s never crossed your mind to let something like that affect your relationship. Your love trumps all the miles between you.
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You never flake on each other – your commitment to them beats everything else
Niente dice Ti amo come essere sempre presenti. Ma non perché vi sentite obbligati, bensì perché lo volete davvero.
No matter what your day is like, you’re always going to make an effort to keep to the plans you made.
Sure, some days, it really just can’t be done (and they get it) but you’ll always have them in the back of your mind.
To me, that’s what real love is all about. There are no silly excuses as to why you won’t be able to make it. Why?
Al solo scopo di volerlo veramente fare!
Non si sente mai la nostalgia della propria condizione di single
You don’t miss being a single person one bit!
A volte, si sfoglia il i vostri social media foto dei vostri giorni da single e provate un senso di sollievo per il fatto che non è più così.
You’ve never really felt that way before.
In passato, vi ha sempre ricordato una vita più semplice e più felice times but now, you just feel so utterly blessed that you don’t ever have to walk through life alone again.
You’ve met each other’s families and friends (and you all get along great)
Da I don’t even know who you are a Cosa farei senza di te (e la tua famiglia)!
Who’d have thought that you’d meet someone whose family would genuinely feel like your family?
A few years ago, you didn’t even know they existed and now, you have so many people who you care about on their side. And that’s a sign that you’ve met the one.
You don’t find it burdensome to visit their folks. Quite the contrary!
You’ve developed a really unique bond with their siblings and their parents adore you.
You’re comfortable letting your vulnerability show and vice versa
Non importa quanto siate vulnerabili con il vostro partner, lui non ferirà mai la vostra autostima.
It’s okay to be broken and it’s okay to feel lost. They encourage you to let it all out.
The right person will never make you feel like you’re being annoying for being sad.
They understand that it’s not always going to be smooth sailing and they’re always your shoulder to cry on.
You don’t feel the need to fill every silence with words
Questa è la vita reale, non la terra della fantasia. E indovinate un po'?
You’re not always going to have something to say but that’s the beauty of it. You won’t even feel the need to.
Le persone che condividono un forte legame emotivo e mentale capiscono che si può godere dello stare insieme senza bisogno di parlare tutto il tempo.
La tranquillità è altrettanto confortevole di una conversazione avvincente.
When you get to a place where this is perfectly normal, comfortable even, there’s no question whether you’re with the right person. The quiet says it all.
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There’s an emotional, mental and physical connection
There’s a connessione autentica between you. When you’re with them, it’s as if you can read each other’s mind.
When they’re sad, you’re sad. And the thing is, they don’t even have to say it. You feel it every time.
They’re your best friend on Earth and you can feel it in your bones that you’d be crushed if something ever happened to them.
Probabilmente è l'unica persona al mondo che vi capisce completamente.
A lot of people think they do but your partner is the only one who knows you inside out. It’s scary, daunting and simply marvelous.
Vi fidate l'uno dell'altro per ogni cosa
You’d trust them with your life; that’s never even in question.
If you were in a grave situation and had only one phone call, you’d call them because you know they’d pick up.
Somehow, you just feel that you’re always safest in their hands. And the thing is, it’s hard to pinpoint why.
Le ragioni sono tante, ma in qualche modo nessuna di esse riesce a racchiuderle nel modo giusto.
Accettate e abbracciate i loro difetti e le loro imperfezioni.
Don’t you know that there’s no such thing as perfection? No matter how hard you try, you’ll never find a perfect partner.
There will always be that one annoying habit that they just won’t be able to break or a silly catchphrase you’ll wish they’d stop throwing around.
When you realize that you can’t change a person, that’s when you get what true love is.
L'amore è esserci per loro nonostante tutti i loro difetti e le loro imperfezioni. L'amore è stare al loro fianco anche quando vorreste strangolarli (ma non proprio).
Love is messed up but when it’s real, you just don’t care.
La loro sola presenza vi fa sentire felici e appagati.
It’s the little things that make all the difference. You don’t need grand gestures or constant proclamations of love.
You just need them to physically be there. That’s it.
When they’re by your side, you feel whole. There’s nothing you need, want or crave.
Their presence is all you’ll ever need to be happy in life. It might sound silly or even cheesy but when you know you sapere.
Also, when you’re not together, you notice those segnali che qualcuno sta pensando a voi e si sa che quel qualcuno è loro.
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Vi fate ridere a vicenda più di chiunque altro.
Vi fate ridere a vicenda senza nemmeno provarci. Per me, l'umorismo è una delle parti più importanti di una relazione sana.
You can’t always be serious. Who’s going to cheer you up when life gets you down?
Quando si ha bisogno di un'iniezione di energia immediata, si sa chi chiamare. E con loro, le risate arrivano facilmente.
That’s because they know you so well. They know what makes you tick and what will ti fanno pisciare addosso ridere.
The most boring things are super exciting when you’re together
Una cosa semplice come una gita al supermercato sembra improvvisamente così divertente e questo è un aspetto che condivido pienamente.
When you’re with the right person, you’ll have fun no matter what you’re doing.
Passeggiare sul lungofiume, ritirare i panni in tintoria o fare la spesa settimanale.
It’s fun all around. You don’t even have to say anything, you’ll just giggle knowing what they’re thinking.
During times like these, when you’re happy doing absolutely nothing, it becomes crystal clear why this person is tailor-made for you.
La loro felicità è la vostra felicità
When they’re sad, you’re sad. When they’re happy, you’re over the moon.
La loro gioia vi rende più felici della vostra e questo è un segno di amore nella sua forma più vera.
You don’t need constant signs of affection or material stuff. All you need is your best friend in tow, and you’re the happiest clam there is.
No one’s happiness has ever mattered as much as theirs.
Quando sai di sapere citazioni
Godetevi queste citazioni ispiratrici che riflettono cosa sia il vero amore per persone diverse.
Se vi trovate in una di queste situazioni, condividetele con la vostra dolce metà e siate orgogliosi di ciò che avete.
1. “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”―Brené Brown
2. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”―Unknown
3. “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”―Pablo Neruda
4. “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”―John Joseph Powell
5. “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up.”―Neil Gaiman
6. “Love is not a maybe thing, you know when you love someone.”―Lauren Conrad
7. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”―Unknown
8. “Everyone always wants to know how you can tell when it’s true love, and the answer is this: when the pain doesn’t fade and the scars don’t heal, and it’s too damned late.”―Jonathan Tropper
9. “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”―Sarah Dessen
10. “Love, like everything else in life, should be a discovery, an adventure, and like most adventures, you don’t know you’re having one until you’re right in the middle of it.”―E.A. Bucchianeri
11. “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”―Jodi Picoult
12. “I believe in the immeasurable power of love; that true love can endure any circumstance and reach across any distance.”―Steve Maraboli
13. “True love isn’t expressed in passionately whispered words, an intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.”―Joshua Harris
14. “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”―Robert Fulghum
15. “When forever becomes a place… when forever ceases to be just a word… when it ceases to be just a measurement of time… but instead becomes a place where soul mates can dance to the song in their hearts… that is a reflection of true love.”―Steve Maraboli
16. “When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.”―Jess C. Scott
17. “True love is taking the risk that it won’t be a happily-ever-after. True love is joining hands with the man who loves you for who you are, and saying, ‘I’m not afraid to believe in you.’”―Cara Lockwood
18. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”―1 Corinthians 13:4-8
19. “I’m done. I don’t need anything more out of life. I have you, and that’s enough.”―Alessandra Torre
20. “My point is that when you fall in love it’s with a real person with flaws. Not with a perfect character from a fairy tale.”―Mette Ivie Harrison
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When you know you know. There’s no second-guessing.
Just a click you’ve never felt before and everything that went wrong in your previous relationships is now on the right track.
The words can’t quite do it justice. While the above signs perfectly explain what real love is, you just have to feel it.
E se lo fate, congratulazioni! Godetevela, coltivatela e sceglietela ogni giorno.
