Quanto tempo depois de uma separação é que os homens começam a sentir a tua falta?
“I wonder, o meu ex sente a minha falta depois da separação? Será que ele se vai arrepender de me ter perdido? He probably misses me… He can’t move on that fast. Or, can he? I don’t know what to do.
I wish I could ask him what’s going on inside his head, but I shouldn’t contact him. He might think of me as desperate. I wonder if we’ll ever get back together…”
Como mulher que sou e mestre em pensar demais, posso dizer-vos uma coisa: The more you overthink, the less you’re sure of anything (even the things you certainly know). So, stop doing it.
I’m aware that this is easier said than done, but it was an attempt to help you stop worrying about ele sentir a tua falta. I know it was a failed attempt, and I’ll try to make it up to you in the following paragraphs.
Então, quando é que os rapazes começam a sentir a sua falta depois de uma separação? Sentem a sua falta quando não há contacto? Do they ever miss you at all? Hmm…
There’s nothing I would rather do at the moment than tell you that every single man on earth is bound to start missing you after a breakup, but I would be lying both to myself and to you. So, here’s the thing, my dear ladies:
Sim, alguns os homens começam a sentir a tua falta depois de uma separaçãoMas isso depende muito de cada relação individual.
Permitam-me que me explique melhor.
If he cheated on you, chances are he won’t miss you (unless he starts feeling really sorry about it and decides to change).
If you didn’t have any major relationship problems, chances are high that ele vai sentir a tua falta depois de uma separação (partindo do princípio que ele ainda sente algo por ti).
Então, quando ele finalmente (e se ele) começar a sentir a sua falta, QUANDO é que pode esperar que isso aconteça?
Another factor that greatly affects a guy’s ability to miss his ex is his character. Every single guy is different with a unique mindset and set of skills.
Some of them are artistic, shy, introverted, extroverted, (players?), you name it. Still, don’t let these things confuse you. The majority of men can be categorized into the following sections after a breakup.
Esta categorização vai ajudá-la a perceber quando e se o seu ex-namorado vai começar a sentir a sua falta:
• Independent
Independent guys lead interesting lives, they have not one passion, but a few. They discover new interests every day, and their hobbies are a synonym for a man cave. Independent (read: confident) types of men don’t seek validation from others.
Actually, they don’t give a damn about what others think of them as long as they have high value for themselves.
Estes homens são emocionalmente fortes e só sentirão a sua falta depois de uma separação se perceberem que ainda estão apaixonados por si.
Independent men won’t start missing you just because they’re feeling lonely, but they will miss you only if they still have feelings for you. I’ll give you some time to absorb this and then we can switch to the next one.
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• Insecure
Insecure men don’t sound like the type of men women are crazy about, but they have their own unique qualities as well. Such men only feel complete when they are in a relationship.
They are always on the lookout for things that will make them feel self-worthy, and they do care about seeking other people’s validation. So, let’s say that you break up with an insecure man. What can you expect to happen?
Bem, pode esperar o seguinte cenário:
É provável que comece logo a sentir a sua falta.
The problem with that is the fact that you will not know whether he genuinely misses you because he still loves you or he’s just missing the relationship and how it made him feel about himself.
Quando um homem inseguro perde algo que o faz sentir-se seguro, ele vai querer recuperá-lo apenas para se sentir completo novamente. Mas, afinal, ele alguma vez foi completo? Essa é a questão.
• Indecisive
De longe, este tipo de homem é o meu preferido (a brincar). Os indecisos não são nem independentes nem inseguros. Estão algures na zona cinzenta, o que os torna ainda mais complexos do que realmente são.
O maior problema com este tipo de homem é que ele pensa sempre que a relva é mais verde do outro lado da vedação. Por outras palavras, ele quer tanto estar consigo como estar com outras mulheres.
Actually, he doesn’t really know what exactly it is that he wants, and that’s why he wants to experience it all (if that even makes sense). If not, then read again.
Quando se acaba com um homem indeciso, é provável que ele comece a sair com outras logo após a separação, só para ver o que quer exatamente.
Depois disso, é muito provável que ele venha ter consigo a implorar-lhe que lhe dê uma segunda oportunidade.
He will realize that you were the only one he ever wanted, but sometimes, he will realize it when it’s already too late. Por isso, este tipo de homem começará provavelmente a sentir a sua falta após algumas semanas ou meses.
Quando isso acontece, há duas opções:
- If you don’t intend on reuniting, you can tell him that it’s too late for apologies, and you don’t have time to deal with indecisive men.
- Pode obrigá-lo a esforçar-se para ganhar a sua confiança novamente. Se ele não conseguir ser o namorado que merece, pode facilmente mudar de ideias e seguir em frente. De qualquer forma, você ganha (de certa forma).
Então, quando ele finalmente (e se ele) começar a sentir a sua falta, COMO é que o vai saber?
This is a tricky question, I know. It would be great if we had a device that would tell us when our exes start missing us, but I’m afraid we’re not that advanced yet.
As a matter of fact, you don’t need any magical devices or other thingamajigs in order to know when your ex starts missing you. All you need to do is pay attention to all those little clues and his overall behavior.
Um dos os maiores sinais de que o teu ex ainda gosta de ti e sente a tua falta é se ele ainda segue todas as suas redes sociais. Agora, pergunte a si mesmo porque é que ele faria isso se estivesse cem por cento pronto para seguir em frente com a sua vida e aplicar o regra de não contacto?
Deixem-me contar-vos um pequeno segredo: Quando um homem decide que quer seguir em frente, apaga tudo o que diz respeito a si (se puder, claro).
Há coisas que ele não pode apagar, como as recordações que tem de si, e vai demorar algum tempo a processar tudo isso.
But, he can surely unfollow you / block you or whatever you can do on these social networks nowadays. When guys decide that it’s over, they don’t look back. They do everything in their power to move on as fast as possible.
This means that he can’t allow himself to still check your profiles ten times a day because he wants to forget you (no matter how harsh it sounds).
So, if a guy still has you on his social media accounts, this is a good sign. It means he’s not ready to say goodbye to you yet, and he still wants to be a part of your life in a passive way for the time being.
You can be sure that he probably checks your profile a few times a day because he’s still interested in what is going on in your life. It’s only a matter of time when he will tell you that he misses you.
What if he misses you badly, but won’t admit it?
This is one of the most confusing things that can happen to you. Sometimes, guys are so proud about themselves that they won’t admit it to you even if their life depended on it.
Nesse caso, tem novamente duas opções:
- Ignora-o e segue em frente.
- Pode prestar atenção ao seguinte clear signs he misses you badly, but won’t admit it.
If you choose the former option, there’s nothing I can do about it.
But, if you choose the latter option, here are some things you need to pay attention to because they are true indicators that he genuinely misses you (even if he doesn’t want to admit it), accompanied with my humble comments in the brackets:
- Ele deixa comentários e gostos nas suas redes sociais. (Hello? We’re no longer together. Why would you keep liking my pictures and reading my posts? I know why… because you miss me. That’s right.)
- Ele liga-te bêbado.(Seriously? Why would you drunk-dial me when it’s obvious that we’re no longer together? Am I constantly on your mind, and the only time you gather the courage to admit it is when you’re drunk? Well, ‘In vino veritas’, my friend.)
- Ele fala de si aos seus amigos. (Hey, you’re no longer a part of my social circle. Stop hanging out with my friends and stop talking to them about me.
Além disso, pára de falar de mim aos teus amigos. Espera, isso quer dizer que ele sente mesmo a minha falta? Aposto que sim, ha!)
If a man truly misses you, trust me, you’ll know it. And, if he doesn’t, don’t worry about it
When a man misses you, he becomes a little bit jealous, he drunk-dials you, and after some time, he decides to contact you. If he doesn’t miss you, then he doesn’t do any of that. It’s as simple as that.
So, if he doesn’t miss you, don’t panic. You deserve so much better, girl. If he doesn’t miss you, then he’s not worthy of being with you. Ponto final. Não tenho mais nada a dizer.
