7 Sinais de alerta de que pode haver outra mulher na vida dele

Já alguma vez sentiu aquela sensação terrível no estômago quando algo lhe diz para ter cuidado? O seu parceiro fica subitamente frio e distante, esconde o telemóvel e isso traz-lhe os piores pensamentos à cabeça.

“Is he cheating on me? Have I done something wrong?” – we all asked ourselves these questions at some point. But what if he’s not cheating physically? That kind of betrayal is usually easier to spot on but qualquer tipo de caso deixa uma dor permanente e problemas de confiança. 

As someone who has dealt with emotional infidelity, unfortunately, I’ve had a chance to learn how to recognize it easily. If you doubt your man even for a bit, don’t brush that feeling offE deixem-me que vos diga que sinais é que os meus parceiros sempre me denunciaram!

1. He’s glued to his phone

We’ve all been there, endlessly scrolling through social media not even realizing how much time had passed. However, he’s busy on his phone all the time. There’s no way TikTok is more interesting than spending time with you!

Já alguma vez tentou tirar-lhe o telemóvel por um segundo para ver algo aleatório como as horas e ele agiu como uma criança quando lhe tiramos o seu brinquedo favorito? Oh girl, that’s an obvious sign!

A minha amiga Jenna descobriu que o marido andava a enviar mensagens de texto para a sua antiga ligação porque ele começou a levar o telemóvel para a casa de banho! E, à noite, escondia-o debaixo da almofada! Por isso, se isto lhe soa familiar, tenha cuidado.

2. Desculpas, desculpas e mais desculpas

Do you feel like he always gives you excuses for everything? If he only gave you a dollar every time he had an excuse for something, you’d be on Forbes’s list of the top richest people in the world!

All of a sudden his company is thriving so he stays up late working, and every weekend there’s another friend he hasn’t seen in years he needs to catch up with.

Não importa o que aconteça, ele tenta sempre justificar-se. If his excuses are piling up quicker than dirty dishes, you’re right for having doubts.

3. Ele tornou-se um estranho no quarto

There might be more reasons for physical intimacy slowly fading away but he doesn’t even acknowledge it. Although you live together it feels like you’re college roommates and not life partners!

Men are usually not the ones to run away from playing under the sheets, so if they start to do that and do it often, something’s not right!

A minha amiga contou-me que uma das primeiras razões pelas quais começou a questionar o marido foi quando ele evitava qualquer tipo de intimidade física e passava mais tempo ao telemóvel. Afinal, ele estava a conversar com o seu “work wife” todas as noites!

4. He’s more mysterious than Sherlock Holmes

I remember when my boyfriend began his little adventure. Although I didn’t know anything about it yet, I noticed he started acting differently. On top of that, you could see guilt was written all over his face!

As soon as he starts giving you lame answers when you ask him where he’s been or he fica na defensiva when you ask him where he’s going, just know something’s fishy. When they don’t have anything to hide, they also don’t have a problem to be honest.

Sometimes they’re a bit more discrete and will just start developing new hobbies which isn’t something you would find sketchy at first. But if he never includes you in his “fun activities”, better be sure his hobby might look like a tall blonde woman.

5. Crítico apenas quando se trata de si

Lembro-me de quando toda a gente no prédio falava da Mary e do seu marido. Eram um casal de idosos adorável, mas depois algo mudou.

Era frequente ouvi-los discutir ou, para ser mais claro, ouvia-se o Henry a gritar sobre tudo. Desde a forma como ela lavava a loiça, à forma como cozinhava ou mudava as especiarias para outro armário da cozinha, ele criticava todos os seus movimentos.

Isto acontece frequentemente quando se sentem culpados e want to find something you’re doing wrong so they can justify themselves. Pode também acontecer que existam alguns problemas no paraíso na sua outra relação, por isso descarrega as suas frustrações em si.

6. Inacessível e frio como o gelo

He would always update you throughout the day on his whereabouts but now he can’t even answer what he wants for dinner? Yeah, that sounds like something I’ve experienced.

It’s not even just texting and ghosting, he’s always so cold and there’s no emotional connection anymore.

When you’re having a conversation you might as well speak to the wall, it would feel the same. And even if he listens, it seems like he doesn’t care about anything going on in your life. 

7. A tua intuição avisa-te

Thank God he gifted us our lovely sixth sense – intuition. So what are you waiting for? Use it, woman!

Este pode até ser o maior sinal, porque deixem-me dizer-vos, o meu instinto nunca me mentiu! Só precisa de aprender a confiar nele. Pode ser uma boa ideia falar com ele sobre quaisquer dúvidas que possa ter especialmente se tiver problemas de confiança de relações passadas.

His reaction will be a good answer to your question. If he calms you down, reassures you, and explains there’s nothing wrong then maybe there really isn’t. However, se ele ficar na defensiva e zangado, isso deve levantar alguns sinais de alerta. 

I know an emotional affair can be as hurtful as a physical one, but it doesn’t necessarily mean an end to your relationship. If both sides are willing to talk about it honestly, you can slowly reconstruir a confiança e tornar a vossa relação mais forte do que nunca.