Eu só quero ser amado: 11 razões surpreendentes para desejar o amor
Eu só quero ser amado. At first glance, there’s nothing unusual about this notion. But when you take a second look, a lot can be uncovered.
Nem toda a gente tem a oportunidade de viver um conto de fadas vida amorosa. Para alguns, o amor romântico deixa muito a desejar. E este artigo é para todos aqueles que têm dificuldade em encontrar aquela pessoa com quem passar a sua vida para sempre.
The first thing I want you to know is that there’s nothing wrong with being desperate for love. At the end of the day, isn’t that the entire purpose of our existence?
No matter what anyone tells you, don’t beat yourself up for being a little bit lost. Just because you find yourself thinking: Eu só quero ser amado quite often, doesn’t mean you’ll never find it.
At this point, you’re probably done wasting time on social media, dating sites, scrolling through lovey-dovey Tumblr memes, and listening to podcasts that just won’t shut up about encontrar a pessoa certa.
It seems like all your close friends and family members have their love lives figured out. But let me tell you something…
There are lots of terrible things in this world, but not having a loved one isn’t one of them. Trata-se apenas de um contratempo temporário que pode ser facilmente corrigido.
There are numerous possible reasons why you’re feeling particularly impatient for that all-encompassing love right now.
Below, I’ll reveal all about them and how you can open your heart to finding the kind of love you deserve.
É por isto que tens tanta vontade de amar
Já se perguntou porque é que às vezes se sente tão ansioso e desesperado por amor e afeto? As razões podem surpreendê-lo.
You’ve set the bar way too high
Don’t beat yourself up about this. We all expect a lot from love, even though it doesn’t always work out the way we envisage it.
What’s important to take away from this is the following: By having your bar set so high, you chase away all the potential love interests that might be good for you.
You’re not going to find a person who checks all your boxes. That’s just not real life. Mas é possível encontrar alguém que se esforça todos os dias, apesar de ter defeitos (tal como todos nós).
You’re feeling super anxious and desperate for love right now because you haven’t given yourself a chance to experience it. Lower the bar (just a little bit) and see what’s out there.
Estar solteiro durante um minuto fez com que não se sentisse amado
Não ter tido um parceiro durante algum tempo foi arruinar a sua saúde mental. It has made you feel as if there’s something about you that screams ‘unlovable.’
Tira esta ideia da cabeça. A quantidade de tempo que passa solteiro ou tomado não tem nada a ver com o facto de não ser amável.
Sometimes, things just pan out that way. But you can’t let this affect your view of yourself. You’re most probably a great person with a stroke of bad luck. That’s all.
Ver também: 9 estereótipos sobre mulheres solteiras que precisam de parar imediatamente
Passa tempo com pessoas que não o amam
Estar rodeado de narcisismo pode fazer-nos sentir em baixo. Já alguma vez parou e olhou à sua volta?
As pessoas que nos rodeiam afectam-nos mais do que imaginamos. Não deixes que pessoas narcisistas e tóxicas se aproximem de ti e encham a tua cabeça com a sua lógica distorcida.
Só deves passar tempo com pessoas que te apreciam, encorajam e amam tal como és. As restantes merecem ser despedidas.
Ver filmes românticos deu-lhe expectativas irrealistas
Ever since you were a little girl, you’ve been dreaming about that seemingly perfect movie love. But movies are not real life.
While it’s understandable that a young girl would idealize and romanticize love, it’s time to face reality as a grown-up.
You’re not going to find your Prince Charming, who’ll knock you off your feet and take you to his kingdom where you’ll live happily-ever-after.
Os filmes são um ótimo escape da vida real, não um substituto para um. Apanhar-se a pensar desesperadamente: Eu só quero ser amado pode ter algo a ver com esta ilusão auto-infligida.
You’re jealous of the “perfect” social media couples
The first time you see the #couplegoals hashtag (and others like this trend), naturally, you’re going to start feeling jealous.
But with time, hopefully, you’ll understand that redes sociais is just that. It’s not anyone’s reality. Sure, those couples might be genuinely happy at that moment in time.
Mas acha, sinceramente, que as coisas são sempre perfeitas? Longe disso. As pessoas só publicam o que querem que se veja.
You can’t shake the feeling of desperation and hopelessness
I get it. There were times when I was single for a bit where I’d think to myself: I just want to use your love tonight…
And when I’d realize that it’s not going to happen, I’d just fall into a bottomless pit of hopelessness and desperation. While it can be discouraging at times, it’s important to know how to pick yourself up.
Encorajo-vos a ler diariamente palavras de força, se necessário. Falem com alguém que saiba o vosso valor.
Boy George gets you too (If you’re not familiar, play his bop ‘I just wanna be loved,’ ASAP). All joking aside, you’re not going to feel like this forever. Remind yourself of this.
Uma rutura recente fez com que questionasse a sua autoestima
Your ex has filled your mind with self-doubt. That’s what bad break-ups can do to a person. I’ve been there myself.
Para se ajudar a esquecer, vai às compras na Amazon e participa nos seus brindes, como se os retalhistas pudessem ajudar de alguma forma (já lá estive, já fiz isso).
But an awesome purchase won’t help you get your self-esteem back. Do you know what will? Realizing that this uma pessoa NÃO tem o direito de o estragar desta maneira.
You’re so much more than what your ex has to say about you. There’s a reason why they’re no longer in your life.
Ver também: O que fazer quando se está a recuperar de uma separação: Regra dos 90 dias sem contacto
Todos à sua volta estão demasiado ocupados com as suas próprias vidas
Parece que os seus amigos mais próximos estão todos a fazer o que gostam e os seus familiares têm as suas próprias coisas.
Para além disso, a maior parte delas estão completamente situadas nas suas vidas amorosas. Naturalmente, isto pode fazer com que se sinta sozinho e alienado.
There’s nothing like watching your loved ones living their lives to the max, and you’re standing on the sidelines. But to get where they are now, they probably experienced some bad stuff too, right?
Who knows, maybe you’re at a crossroads right now too. You just have to stick it out a bit longer to get through this mess.
You don’t know how to love yourself
Quando foi a última vez que fez algo de bom para si próprio? Melhor ainda, o que pode you do for you that’ll make you appreciate yourself more?
The love in your life starts with loving yourself. You cannot be self-deprecating and then wonder why you’re não amado.
Seja o primeiro a oferecer uma abundância de amor a si próprio. Faça as coisas que o fazem feliz. Perceba a incrível importância do amor-próprio.
Once you do, I promise, what’s ahead will no longer seem so gloomy and dark.
Sente falta de afeto físico
Isto é algo com que toda a gente se pode identificar. Há imensas vantagens em estar numa relação romântica.
Algumas das mais importantes são os mimos, beijos e abraços constantes. Estar no sofá a ver um filme enquanto o seu parceiro segura a sua mão ou acaricia o seu cabelo.
Andar na rua e sentir a nossa mão firmemente agarrada à deles. Pequenas coisas como essas fazem a vida parecer muito melhor.
If you’ve been struggling with thoughts like I just querem ser amados ultimamente, pode ser por isso. No final do dia, o afeto físico liberta hormonas de bem-estar. Como é que não sentimos falta disso?
Tem muito amor para dar e nenhum lugar para o concentrar
É verdade que este é um dos piores sentimentos que existem. Temos tanto amor para dar, mas não temos ninguém a quem o dar.
After having been through so many trials and tribulations and working hard at learning to love yourself, you’re left all alone. But don’t let this discourage you.
O amor surge nos momentos mais inesperados. Hoje, pode estar a sentir-se em baixo e sem amor, mas amanhã as coisas podem melhorar. And that’s the beauty of life.
You never really know what it has in store for you. To think that it’s always going to be like this is foolish. Don’t lose faith in yourself and all the love you have to give.
I don’t know when, but one day, this is all going to be but a memory that will fizzle out as you’re drinking your morning coffee with the love of your life.
5 dicas úteis para abrir o seu coração ao amor
You can’t wave a magic wand and have the love of your life appear on your doorstep. But you can make a continuous effort that will give you the necessary tools for finding them.
Permita-se ser vulnerável
As coisas (não tão) pequenas como ser vulnerável podem ajudá-lo a criar laços mais profundos com os seus entes queridos (e potenciais futuros amantes).
Let your vulnerabilities out in the open. This is the only way to attract someone and get them to like you. Why? Because it’s the only way they can meet the real you.
People go through an array of emotions throughout their lives. You cannot close yourself off from everyone and wonder why you’re so alone.
Show them you’re ready to open up. Vulnerability and transparency are attractive. Putting up walls isn’t.
Learn to be happy on your own before finding a partner who’ll add to it
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that if you’re not happy alone, you’re not going to be happy with someone else.
As I’ve already mentioned, love comes from within. Ama-te a ti próprio (com defeitos e tudo) e aprende a encontrar a felicidade na tua solteirice.
Há tantas vantagens em não estar preso a outra pessoa.
While you’re on the lookout, find yourself in the process. What makes you smile from ear to ear? What do you like to do when you don’t have to consider your partner’s needs?
Do ALL the stuff you normally wouldn’t get to do and see that being on your own is not the end of the world. When you find your happy place alone, then you’re ready to find your bae who’ll only add to it.
Ver também: Desafio do amor-próprio de 30 dias: Torne-se a melhor versão de si mesmo
Change your beliefs about what love is “supposed to be”
Deixem de lado todas as vossas noções idealizadas do que é o amor deve be, and understand what it really is: compromise, sacrifice, moodiness, and picking up your partner’s slack when they’re at 20%.
Love is never going to be roses and butterflies 24/7, and as long as you keep expecting it to be, you’ll always remain utterly disappointed.
There will be happy days, sad days, confusing days, and moments when you’ll want to strangle them (not really, though).
That’s love in all its messy glory; o bom, o mau e o feio de tudo.
PARE de deixar que os outros ditem o que sente por si próprio
Or should I be more precise–stop letting a disgruntled ex make you think you’re not enough. You’ve broken up for a reason.
It’s foolish to keep letting someone from your past affect you so badly. Let go of them. They’re no longer a part of your life.
The only thing that matters is how you see yourself, as well as those who know you best. Everyone else doesn’t get to have a say.
Como é que eles poderiam? They don’t know you well enough for their opinion to matter.
Surround yourself with a small circle of people who uplift you, and watch your life ‘magically’ change for the better.
Don’t model your love life after others’ (everyone has their struggles)
Pare de olhar para as publicações nas redes sociais e de pensar que as coisas são tão perfeitas e perfeitas como parecem.
Nada é o que parece à superfície. O amor é mais do que apenas uma foto de um casal feliz e uma hashtag quente.
Love is everything that the post doesn’t say. Don’t let a síndrome da relva mais verde arruinam-no por amor. As pessoas são nunca vão publicar sobre as suas lutas. Lembrem-se disso.
We all have ugly stuff we deal with. Just because it’s not out in the open doesn’t mean it’s not real. Chances are, those happy couples go through the same stuff you do.
The only difference? They never let it show. But hey, now that you know, hopefully, you’ll never let appearances fool you again.
15 Eu Só Quero Ser Amado Citações
1. “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”―Elizabeth Gilbert
2. “My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.”―Maya Angelou
3. “There’s nothing stupid about wanting to be loved. Believe me.”―Nina LaCour
4. “He’s not your Prince Charming if he doesn’t make sure you know that you’re his princess.”―Demi Lovato
5. “Seize the moments of happiness, love, and be loved! That is the only reality in the world, all else is folly. It is the one thing we are interested in here.”―Leo Tolstoy
6. “The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves—say rather, loved despite ourselves.”―Victor Hugo
7. “To be deeply loved means a willingness to cut yourself wide open, exposing your vulnerabilities…hopes, hurts, fears and flaws. Hiding behind the highlight reel of who you are, is the real you, and that person is just as worthy of love. There is nothing more terrifying or fulfilling than complete love. It’s worth the risk…Reach for it.”―Jaeda DeWalt
8. “What a grand thing, to be loved! What a grander thing still, to love!”―Victor Hugo
9. “Once someone loves you that much, loves you more than you deserve, you can’t go back to being loved the normal way.”―Tiffany Reisz
10. “When you are loved, you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there’s no need at all to understand what’s happening, because everything happens within you.”―Paulo Coelho
11. “To be loved and to love takes courage. To be fully seen is incredibly rare and breathtaking. We lower our masks and see a celestial inner being. It is our full self―the supernova as well as the black holes. Our fears and doubts. Our anger and joy…This is love.”―Carolyn Riker
12. “Ultimately, everything we do is merely in hopes of being loved or spreading it.”―Nalini Dhiman
13. “Loving is giving, and being loved is receiving. Loving should not depend on being loved, but to all intents and purposes, your commitment in a relationship is grossly expressed by how much of yourself you share with your partner.”―Olaotan Fawehinmi
14. “Behind every angry soul is a wounded child that just wanted you to love them for who they are.”―Shannon L. Alder
15. “Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love but don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.”―Mandy Hale
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No final do dia, só quero ser amado também. Todos nós sentimos. Mas nunca deve deixar que este sentimento comprometa a sua felicidade.
Hopefully, you’ve pinpointed the reasons for feeling so unloved at the moment. When you learn to encontrar a verdadeira felicidade in yourself, you’ll be closer to finding it elsewhere.
Nas palavras de Paul Pearsall: “Stop looking for love and start showing it.“
