Sometimes when you’re eager to break up with someone, the lines are so blurred that you just don’t know if he REALLY got the picture.
He somehow always ends up gravitating back toward you.
You may not want to break up in the first place, but you’re mature enough to know that is simply isn’t working any longer.
You know in your heart that you must end this for the sake of your sanity.
You’re not good for each other anymore.
You’re both clinging to a relationship that’s no longer there, but you’re desperately trying to recreate it into what it used to be.
Only, it’s not working and you’re suffering like hell.
There’s still lots of love there. You still want to see his face each morning.
But it’s become toxic and you can’t do this to yourself anymore.
So how do you break up with the guy you don’t really want to break up with?
How do you convince him that it’s over for GOOD this time and not sound like you’re trying to convince yourself of that?
It’s hard. Breaking up really does take its toll on you.
But sometimes, you just have to put on your grown-up pants and do the thing you’re dreading because you know it’s the best thing in the long run.
In a few weeks, you’ll be halfway on your healing path.
You’ll be able to look back at this moment and be grateful that you had the courage to leave the man who was causing you so much hurt, even though you still loved him.
Here are 5 brutally honest breakup lines that will leave nothing to chance.
He will finally understand that you are serious about this and he’ll be on his way.
(And with time, I promise it’s going to be okay for you too.)
1. “I don’t like the person I’ve become when I’m with you.”
This one goes straight to the gut. It’s raw, honest, and it paints a crystal clear picture.
No matter how much you still want him, this love has turned you into somebody you no longer recognize.
And you don’t like it.
You don’t know how it got to this point and you’re so saddened that it’s come this far, but in order to be that girl you used to be, you need to distance yourself from him.
Don’t be afraid to be brutally honest.
Soon, it’ll end up being your saving grace.
2. “I am doing what I know in my heart is right for me.”
This is it. And don’t sway from this.
Don’t let him convince you that HE is the one who’s right for you.
Only you get to decide that!
And if you feel it in your bones that this is not good for you anymore, you’ve got your right to break it off.
It doesn’t mean he’s a bad person.
It doesn’t mean he seeks to do you harm.
It simply means that the unity of you two as a romantic couple is no longer serving you any good.
You desperately wish it would, but you don’t want to lie to yourself or to him for one second longer.
It’s over and you’re out.
3. “I’m begging you – don’t call me anymore, we’re done.”
Breaking up always sucks because you know that one drunken night will be enough for your partner to find it appropriate to call you at 2 am and beg you to take him back.
You know this is extremely likely to happen, and it probably has in the past.
And by saying this, you are letting him know that you’re not okay with that.
You don’t want to be the bitch who breaks his drunken heart again for a second time over the phone.
It would hurt you just as much as it would hurt him.
And you need him to not put you in that position ever again.
4. “I am not in love with you anymore.”
You don’t want to hurt him, it’s the last thing on your mind.
But you NEED him to know that you mean it this time.
Even if there are some residual feelings there, it’s better to just rip off the band aid and make it clear.
He’ll be hurt and you’ll be suffering in silence, but this is what needs to happen for him to not make this any harder than it has to be.
You need this relationship to be over because the toxicity of it has become too much to handle.
Love is simply not enough and you have painfully realized this with him.
5. “I don’t see a future with you by my side.”
Perhaps you’re just on opposite paths? Perhaps your hopes and dreams don’t collide?
And as much as you would love to be compatible with him, you’re just not.
He wants to focus on work and travel abroad and you want to stay close to your family and become a mom in the not-so-distant future.
You want to balance work and being a parent and he feels very strongly about his wife being a stay-at-home mom.
These are all really serious issues that need to be dealt with in time.
You can’t just bury them and hope they never resurface.
They will, and it will suck. Show him that you’re only trying to save you both from future pain.
Your ideas for what awaits are completely different and it’s simply not possible to make it work anymore.