When you are in love, it is very difficult to actually find out that the person you are dating is toxic. You can find out these things over time but not at the beginning of the relationship.

To help you guys find out in time what kind of person you are dealing with, I will show some signs that every toxic guy has.

So, let’s start:


1. He is always the victim.

No matter what happens in your life, he is always a victim and you are guilty of everything. He is someone who is always painting himself as a victim in life. In specific situations, he is likely unable to accept responsibility for his own actions, and therefore, doesn’t work to improve his shortcomings.

It looks like you are dating a child and not an adult. Try to talk to him and make some compromise. If he even doesn’t want to listen to you, just leave. There is no need to lose your nerves on a spoiled man like this.

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2. He is controlling.

This is a big red flag! People who try to control their significant others in relationships are likely lacking the confidence to believe that they can attract romantic partners and subsequently keep their attention. He makes you feel so bad and you don’t have the right to do anything without him.

This is not how you are supposed to feel in a relationship. You should tell him that, and if he still insists on his own way, there is no need to stay in a sick and bad relationship. Go away while you still can—it is the best solution you could ever make.


3. They never seem to give you a straight answer.

Simple questions require simple answers. If you find that someone is always avoiding discussions or topics that actually matter in your relationship, they are either hiding something or are unable to have this type of conversation.

Another bad sign is that you get a question instead of an answer. All of a sudden, they have so many things to ask you just when you are seeking for some answers. A common saying is: “Attack is the best defense!”

Try to find out what your man actually wants from you. At least, you can still get away in time—you are not married!


4. He doesn’t really listen to you.

Young woman and man sitting on sidewalk


One of the building blocks of a relationship is communication—which has to go both ways in order to be effective. If someone consistently speaks far more than they listen, then it is a warning sign that they could be self-centered or even narcissistic.

You have to tell your partner that just like him, you also have your needs and you need him to listen to you. Otherwise, that kind of relationship won’t last. Someone can fool us once but if they try to do it again, just finish your glass of wine and leave.

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5. He is sarcastic.

Being sarcastic is sometimes fine but doing it all the time even to people you like is a no-no! Being in a relationship with a man who is sarcastic will make you feel bad. Maybe he won’t be sarcastic to you at the beginning but you will see him do it to people around you.

Why should you stay and tolerate his shit? Just tell him that the way he acts is not normal, it will never be, and if he really wants to have a lifetime partner, he will have to change. You get only one life and you should never stay in the company of people that make you feel bad. Bear in mind that you always have a choice!