When it comes to love and relationships, the media has really made it hard for us to meet our expectations.
We are bombarded with all of these perfect love stories where a couple never fights, they never take each other for granted and never have any of the issues that the rest of us humans might have.
And when we realize that our relationship is not even close to that artificial perfection, we instantly feel like we should break up with our partner and look for happiness somewhere else.
But the truth is that real life is not a fairy tale and it is far from what we’ve been served.
Every relationship will always have difficult periods, which doesn’t necessarily mean that it is time to break up with your partner.
You don’t want to regret ending things over a common problem that can be fixed by simply giving each other some space or changing your perspective.
So, if you notice that most of the signs below apply to your relationship, then know that you shouldn’t end it just yet!
All you need to do is hit the pause button and give it some time instead.
You have trouble connecting with each other
Constantly spending too much time together often results in having trouble connecting with each other.
It is because you are depriving yourself of recharging and acquiring new perspectives.
When you spend too much time together, you gradually become stuck in a rut where your relationship is no longer as exciting as it used to be before, when you just started dating.
This is something that many couples go through and they instantly start thinking that they are not in love with their partner anymore.
But the real truth is that you just need some space to replenish your energy and enrich your life with new things.
You are irritated by each other’s quirks and habits that you used to love
When you just enter a relationship, everything seems fresh because it’s new and you simply never get bored of each other, no matter what you do.
You’re in love with each other’s flaws and quirks and you expect that this feeling will stay forever.
But after some time, you find yourself being irritated by each other’s quirks and habits that you used to adore and you think that your relationship has come to an end.
But this feeling of being irritated by things you used to love about your partner is completely normal after a while.
This happens because through time your excitement lowers and the things you used to find cute become dull and in a way annoying.
Again, all you need to do is just give it some time and everything will be okay.
You keep having the same disagreement
Many people think that in order to be genuinely happy, a couple has to have the same view on things.
Summarized, people think that an ideal relationship is the one where you never have quarrels or any types of disagreements.
On the contrary, having conflicts and constant disagreements is actually healthy for every relationship because, believe it or not, you disagreeing with each other bonds you.
The only thing you need to pay attention to here is the way in which you are handling disagreements.
Do you end up laughing together or in the end do you just agree that you disagree?
If yes, you can be sure that you’re in a perfectly happy relationship.
You don’t feel as strongly about them as you used to
Do you feel like you’re lacking passion and that feeling of being in love with your partner like you used to feel before?
If yes, know that it is completely normal to feel this way after some time.
You see, the initial fire that you used to feel intensely within your body and heart always fades away with time.
In order to keep it alive, you have to make an effort and the same applies to your partner.
So, if you feel like you no longer feel as strongly about them as you used to, you just need to ask yourself if you are making the effort to maintain the same old flame.
You have doubts about if they are ‘the one’
If you’re having doubts about if they are ‘the one’, welcome to the club!
Not being sure about whether you’re with your soulmate or not is normal but constantly thinking about it and torturing yourself is not normal.
Still, this is not a valid reason for you to break up with your partner.
The best solution is to just hit the pause button and see how things are going.
Once you clear your mind and have some time alone, you will see things more brightly and then you’ll be able to make a final decision.
You worry that there could be someone else ‘better’ out there
If you’re constantly thinking that there is someone ‘better’ out there who will make you more happy, you might want to change your perspective on that.
Having a constant urge to seek perfection and to want more is completely understandable because it’s deeply ingrained in us from our birth.
But you certainly don’t want to end up regretting your decision to abandon something that you worked hard for and in which you invested all of your body and soul only to realize that you’ll never find what you are looking for.
The possibility is that your next relationship might annoy you in some other ways than your current one, which will again result in dissatisfaction.
So, what you need to do is ask yourself whether you are feeling unsatisfied because of your partner or you just think that there is something ‘better’ out there.
If it is the latter, you might want to give it some time to think about your intentions more clearly.
