There is one sure thing that narcissists, players and all of the other manipulators are really good at and that is taking people for granted. It’s in their nature (most of the time) to think only about themselves and put their needs before others’. It’s in their nature to expect you to keep giving all of yourself to them without doing anything in return.
The word reciprocity simply doesn’t exist in their dictionary (at least not in a boy’s dictionary). And contrary to them, women are the exact opposite. We would give them everything we had and even more while deliberately depriving ourselves of happiness, only to be taken for granted.
And that is why it’s time for you to take things into your own hands and make him regret not appreciating everything you’ve done for him! It’s time for you to demand respect and make him regret not treating you the way you deserve and these 6 ways will help you achieve it.
6 ways to make him regret taking you for granted
1. Acknowledge his bullshit
When something pisses you off, just tell him! It’s as simple as that. Do not stay silent or ignore his bad words or actions, no matter what. Women have been silent for too long and now is the time to start speaking!
If you know that his behavior is selfish and just not right, tell him. Acknowledge his bullshit to his face so that he knows you’re not a fool and you will not stay indifferent to his mistreatment. You owe yourself that much.
2. Stop going out of your way to do nice things for him
And for God’s sake, stop going out of your way to make him happy when you see that he’s not trying to do the same for you. Let him know that you’re no longer the same person who used to give all of yourself only to appease him.
When he sees that you’ve changed, he’ll realize that maybe it is because of him. Maybe you stopped doing things you were usually doing because you’re sick of him not appreciating it. It’s the only way for him to realize the mistake of his selfish nature.
3. Set rules
The most important thing is to set rules and strictly stick to them. If you’re not happy with how he’s been treating you, set rules that will tell him you will no longer tolerate any of his bullshit.
When he sees that you have boundaries and you will not buy any of his crap anymore, he will know that it’s time to change or he will lose you. Protect yourself and your own happiness because you deserve to be his priority and not an option. You deserve to be treated the same way you treat others.
4. Let him know that you’re perfectly fine without him
You need to make sure that he knows he’s not the center of the universe and your world doesn’t revolve around him. Letting him know that you’re perfectly fine without him will make him realize that you have other priorities as well.
Having fun without him is the best thing you can do for yourself at the moment. So, don’t waste your time figuring out what to do to make him stop taking you for granted. Live your life now! And he will start fearing that if he continues treating you so, he might lose the best thing he ever had.
5. Always have dignity
Never, ever chase him. No matter what happens, know that it is not your fault and you are not the one who should go out of your way and beg for his attention or, even worse, to think that you should change.
The only thing you should be doing is holding your head up high and not giving a damn about him until he starts giving you signs that he’s determined to change himself. Walk proudly, talk proudly, and refuse to receive anything other than what you deserve.
6. Let him know that if he doesn’t appreciate what he has, somebody else will
Give him some time to prove to you that he’s willing to make an effort and work on his treatment toward you. And if he still doesn’t do anything about it, then let him know if he’s not ready to appreciate what he has, somebody else surely will.
If he’s not answering your calls, DO NOT call him again!
If he’s not being there for you when you need him most, DO NOT be there for him!
If he’s not making an effort, DO NOT wait a second longer.
You should never allow yourself to make him think that you will dance to his tune no matter what. You should never allow yourself to be satisfied with mediocrity because you deserve greatness. Never forget that.
I’m a former English language major, copy typing freelancer and between the two I’ve always enjoyed drawing (abstract art), singing and writing. Yes, I’m an artistic soul that always wanted to make the world a better place. Today I’m lucky to be the writer on this site and to share my deepest thoughts with you and support you through your daily struggles. I hope we’re gonna get along and I’ll give my best not to disappoint you. XOXO