He/she likes me. He/she likes me not… You could continue this sequence for the entire day or you could learn how to ask someone directly or indirectly if they like you. Sounds like a great deal, right?
There are two possible reasons why you’re here wondering how to ask that one person if they like you. It’s either because you like them and/or because you think (hope) they like you.
Whatever the reason, I TOTALLY and wholeheartedly feel you. There’s nothing more frustrating in the whole wide world than not knowing what is going on in the head of someone you’re really crazy about.
Due to lack of courage (or to skip potential disappointment), we tend to spend a great amount of time daydreaming about kissing them, holding hands and whatnot.
I personally have nothing against it because I’ve been doing it for half of my life but wouldn’t it be easier for everyone if we decided to start doing something about it?
That leads us to another important question:
Why should you DEFINITELY ask someone if they like you?
I’ll be realistic with you. There are tons of reasons why you shouldn’t ask someone if they like you and those reasons are usually connected to our fears and expectations.
Now, what if I told you that there is one legit reason why you should ask someone if they like you and that reason is ten times more powerful than any other. The reason is: Because you’ve got nothing to lose!
Imagine spending a few years of your life (or, better said, wasting those years) on overthinking things and contemplating what would happen if you acted on your feelings.
You would never know if they like you back and perhaps they do but they’re waiting for you to (help them) make the first move.
The only way to know the truth is by asking.
If you have decided not to do something, you will find tons of reasons not to do it. But if you decided to do something, you will find a way to achieve it and that is why you’re here today, my fellow friend.
Today you’ll learn how to ask someone if they like you (without embarrassing yourself) and you’ll learn all the important signs that can tell you if someone is REALLY into you. So, let’s get started!
How To Indirectly Ask Someone If They Like You
Send them a GIF or a meme that hints at ‘Do you like me?’
Imagine asking someone fifty years ago if they liked you, when there was no advanced technology, social networks or other modern dating tools.
Lucky us because today we have so many ways of expressing our feelings in an indirect way and one of them is by sending a GIF or a meme.
GIFs and memes are extremely popular and there’s not a chance you can go wrong with this one. They are funny, entertaining and simply awesome. So, you should definitely consider sending one to your crush!
Find a GIF or meme that hints at that famous question: “Do you like me?” and wait for their response. This is brilliant for two reasons: It’s indirect and it can be understood as a joke.
However, trust me, if they genuinely like you, they will use this indirect opportunity to let you know!
Wear a T-shirt with ‘Do you like me?’ or similar wording
Not so long ago, I bought a T-shirt that said Hug me with some cute little owl beneath the wording. When I met up with my friends, they instantly hugged me when they read it on my T-shirt.
Also, there were some strangers as well who did the same thing. Now, imagine wearing a T-shirt with ‘Do you like me’ wording in front of someone you like.
I doubt that they would ignore it. And do you know what’s best of all? The fact that you will be able to see their face expression once they read it.
If they start stuttering all of a sudden or acting weird and confused, then you know that they’re totally crazy about you. If they are not into it, you can say it wasn’t meant for them!
Give him/her a gift that subtly tells them you like them
This could be a birthday gift or a random gift as a token of attention or admiration.
What you need to pay attention to is the type of a gift, its shape, engravings and other things that will subtly let them know you like them.
For example, you can get a bracelet with heart motifs and a ‘Do you like me?’ inscription or a box of chocolates in the shape of a heart, a teddy bear or other musical toy that plays, “I like you!” or, “Do you like me too?”
There are so many gifts out there with which you can subtly let them know how you feel about them and the main goal of it is to motivate them to do the same thing.
It’s easier to admit your feelings when you know the other person likes you as well.
The best thing is, if it goes south, you can say that it was a joke.
Send them a ‘Do You Like Me?’ song
Who would think of that, right? This is another brilliant way of asking them indirectly whether they like you.
Now you’re probably thinking: But is there really a song that’s called ‘Do you like me?’ and the answer is of course there is!
There isn’t only one but there are multiple songs from Sesame Street, Josslyn, No Treasure and many others. All you need to do is pick the right one for you, send it to your crush and wait for their response.
If your crush is a creative soul, you might expect the same reply with a different song named ‘I like you’. That would be TOTALLY awesome and inspiring, right?
Even if they don’t do this, be sure that they will understand what you are trying to tell them and they will act accordingly.
Perhaps they will choose to tell you how they feel about you in person or via text message or phone call. It all depends on their type of personality.
Again, if they are not sure about this, you can say it was just a joke.
Ask a mutual friend for assistance
This is definitely one of the most effective ways to find out whether someone likes you. All you need to do is ask a mutual friend to assist you.
Your mutual friend’s task is to talk to your crush and try to (indirectly) find out whether they like you.
This means they should pretend like they know nothing about it but they are just wondering what your crush is thinking about you.
Trust me, if they really like you, your friend will be able to tell by their body language signs and the way they reply to them.
They might even tell your friend openly and honestly how they are feeling about you or they will choose to do it face-to-face once they meet with you.
The best thing here is that your mutual friend is also their friend which means they won’t have a problem telling the truth (and they can also say a few nice words about you as well).
Make it part of a random game
There are tons of games based on questions and answers, so your task is to incorporate that one question: ‘Do you like me?’ into a random game. Your crush will answer with yes or no.
You can play this game via text message or with playing cards. It’s one of the best and easiest ways to find out the truth regarding just about anything.
If they admit that they like you (and I’m sure they will), you can flirt with them a little bit by saying something like: ‘Oh, really? Well, I like you, too.’
This is both romantic and overly cute and I’m sure they will totally melt if you decide to do it.
Alternatively, you can look for an online game where you can add your questions. There are so many choices and all you need to do is be creative!
Speak/text in code language
Recently, I’ve incorporated new methods of flirting with guys and that is creating riddles from my personal life and speaking in code language.
These methods are both interactive and SO MUCH fun for the both of you.
So, if you’re wondering how to ask someone if they like you, you can speak in code language and say or text something like:
“There’s one person who likes you very much and this person wants to know if you feel the same way as he/she does?”
If he/she says yes, ask them who they think the person is. Chances are they will say it’s you and that’s the response we’re aiming for.
Do you see how fun this method is? I mean, I could do it for an eternity with someone I like and you will feel the same way once you implement it into your love life.
How To Directly Ask Someone If They Like You
Send him/her a text message
If you’ve recently met someone and you’re wondering whether they like you, you can use the power of a simple, effective text message.
Texting is one of the most popular means of communication because we have more time to carefully convert our thoughts into written words and say exactly how we are feeling.
Introverts like myself probably think that text messages are the best thing since sliced bread.
Now, regardless of whether you’re an introvert or you prefer texting over other methods for some reason, here’s how you’ll do it.
How to ask someone if they like you over text:
‘Hey, this is Steve. We met a few days ago in the library. I just wanted to know… Do you like me? I’ve thought about you ever since we met and I wonder if you’ve been thinking about me, too. Thank you in advance.’
Write him/her an emotional letter
In times when the real world has been replaced with a virtual one where dating apps prevail, writing a letter is a sign of true bravery and class.
I’m sure that no single soul on earth would be able to resist reading an emotional letter and feel really special because someone took the time to actually write something nice and meaningful to them by hand.
Regardless of whether you’re a writer or not, you can still write a nice, heartwarming letter to someone you like.
In the letter, focus on letting them know how you are feeling about them and then subtly ask them at the end of a letter to let you know if you’re on the same page.
There are plenty of letters online, from famous ones to random vintage ones, which will inspire you to write your own.
And who knows, perhaps you will end up being in an epistolary relationship, which is really refreshing when it comes to modern dating.
Ask them face-to-face when there are no people around
If you’re feeling extra brave and determined, you can choose to ask them face-to-face, preferably when there are no other people around you.
If you’re considering the idea, remember to give yourself a nudge by setting a deadline to remind you of what needs to be done.
Once you finally meet them, pay attention to their body language, establish eye contact and say openly and honestly how you are feeling.
They will appreciate your boldness and you will be a true hero in their eyes because not so many people have the courage to say what they really mean or how they really feel.
Let this be your motivation in case you start changing your mind or if anxiety kicks in.
Give him/her a call
This method is somewhere in-between a text and face-to-face. Just be straightforward and go with the flow.
You can also add something like: “I’ve been getting vibes from you and I’m wondering if this is real (if you like me) or I’m imagining things.”
Making this phone call is a true act of bravery and not many people would choose this method. Your crush will know that too and if they didn’t like you before then, they might start liking you from that moment.
Little things are what mean the most to us but we’re often unaware of it. One phone call can change your entire life and alter your perspective on things.
9 Things To Keep In Mind Before Asking Someone If They Like You
Their response could be either positive or negative
The number one thing to keep in mind before asking someone if they like you is their response. I’m sure you have (probably) already spent an eternity thinking about it and the two possible answers: Yes, No.
Their response could be either positive or negative and remember that you cannot influence that or force them to change their mind or similar.
Whatever their response, do not let post-confession awkwardness overwhelm you.
Remember that you’ve got nothing to lose. You will finally know whether they like you or not and that’s all that matters and all you should focus on.
They might embarrass you or shame you in public
People sometimes choose to do stupid things because they are caught off guard (especially if it is the first time someone asked you such a delicate question).
However, do you know what? This has nothing to do with you but with their toxic character.
If they embarrass you or shame you in public, then you know for sure that they are not worthy of being with you, so you won’t give a damn whether they like you or not.
You see, however you turn, you gain. Being embarrassed in public or on social media is probably one of the worst-case scenarios in your head but I assure you that this rarely happens.
Carefully choose the location
If you’re really anxious about getting embarrassed in public, then you should avoid overly public places like coffee shops or similar.
You should choose a location that will be in your favor. For example, you can choose a secluded area in a park or go for a walk.
Learning how to ask someone if they like you is not only about focusing on WHAT you are going to say to them but also WHERE you are going to tell them that.
So, if you choose to do it in person, be careful about choosing the right location.
If you’re having trouble thinking of one, you can also ask your friends for assistance.
Collect evidence before approaching them
I bet that every dating coach out there regarding any relationship or dating problem would tell you this: Collect evidence before approaching them!
What does this mean? No, it doesn’t mean that you should stalk them on social media or hack their phone in order to collect evidence that they like you so that you can use it in case they lie to you.
Instead, you should collect evidence regarding their body language and overall behavior when spending time with you.
For example, if they tease you a lot, if they are constantly asking you to join them when going for a walk, if they’re texting you in a way that screams ‘I like you!’ or similar.
Collecting evidence is good for two reasons:
1. You will know whether to approach them or not.
2. You will have an alibi for why you asked them that in the first place.
In other words, in case they don’t, they will feel responsible for making you think that you like them.
Prepare polite feedback for their response
Regardless of whether you met them on an online dating site or if you’ve been friends for a long time, remember to prepare good, polite feedback for their response.
If their response is positive, you can propose a drink or a first date. If their response is negative, you can just thank them for being honest with you and move on. The key word here is POLITE so keep that in mind.
Be confident and vulnerable
In these situations, confidence is your best friend. Just be upfront about it and don’t think too much about their response. Also, remember to be vulnerable and genuine.
The last thing you need is for them to think that you’re fooling around with them but when they see that you’re honest and serious about it, this will help them be open and honest with you as well.
In case you become exclusive, keep in mind one more thing: Honesty is the key to every healthy relationship.
Let them know your intentions
Before asking someone whether they like you, think about your intentions with them. Do you see them as your potential partner or casual dating material?
That’s the first thing they would want to know in case you both like each other.
For example, they might like you as a good friend or a friend with benefits, whereas you might like them in an intense romantic way.
That’s why it’s important to let them know your intentions and how you perceive them.
Remember to thank them for their honesty
Regardless of whether their response is positive or negative, remember to thank them for their honesty.
The following quote by Warren Buffett perfectly sums up the power of being honest: “Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.”
By thanking them for being honest with you, you are basically letting them know that you are a great person and you don’t have a problem accepting the truth.
This is a sign of maturity in every sense of its meaning and it’s something you should be proud of.
Stay calm whatever happens
Asking someone if they like you can be the biggest source of anxiety. I mean, who would know that such a simple question can cause so much apprehension and nervousness.
Regardless of whether the other person feels the same or not, remember to stay calm whatever happens. Don’t take things too personally and remind yourself that it’s not a big deal. Easier said than done, right?
Keep in mind that just because they don’t like you, this doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
I’m sure there are a few people in your life who you don’t really like but you still respect them and appreciate them. The same thing applies to you.
If they say that they don’t like you, this doesn’t mean you should change just to win their approval.
You should continue living your best life and wait for someone else who will reciprocate and with whom you’ll be a great match.
Whatever happens, remember that you won!
Remember that there are some things in life that cannot be influenced and this is one of them. You cannot persuade, convince or force other people to like you back and vice versa.
Instead of blaming people around you or the universe, keep in mind that everything happens for a reason.
I hope I helped you find an answer to that one question: ‘How to ask someone if they like you?’ and that everything will go smooth and as expected. Good luck!