A healthy partnership can never exist without good communication skills between the people involved in it.
However, many couples don’t know that and try building their relationships without discussing some important matters in time.
The harsh truth is that if you feel like you can’t talk about some topics with your significant other, your relationship isn’t as serious as you might see it, and it’s time you reconsider its future. Here are 5 of these topics.
1. Your past
Remember one thing—you’re not obligated to tell your partner details about your romantic history and other things regarding your past.
Even though you are now a part of a couple, you still have the right to keep some things to yourself and to have your privacy (and this is especially the case at the beginning of a relationship).
However, after a while, you should feel the urge to share some things about your past with your boyfriend, without him forcing you to do so.
You should be able to talk to him about the things which led you to this day, about events and people which helped you become the woman you’re today, and about some things from your past that might still bother or impact you.
2. Your future together
The truth is that living in the present moment is the best thing you can do for yourself.
However, when you’re in a serious relationship, you have to think about your future, as well.
No matter how great your relationship might be going right now, if you and your boyfriend don’t have similar life goals and plans about the future, your relationship is probably doomed to fail.
It is natural that you two will not want exactly the same things, but it is important to meet halfway.
Let’s be honest—it would be impossible, for example, to have a happy life with someone who doesn’t want children if your dream is to have a big family.
That is exactly why you need to be able to talk with your partner about these things in time, before it becomes too late to change anything.
3. Your finances
When you first start a relationship, your finances are only your business.
Maybe you and your new boyfriend split your expenses equally or you don’t worry about who paid more.
Either way, money is probably not at the top of your concerns at the beginning of your relationship.
Nevertheless, all of this changes when your relationship gets to another level and especially, when you and your partner start considering moving in together.
After all, now all of your money becomes part of one budget, and it is important that your consumer habits are something you have no problem discussing.
4. Your wildest sex fantasies
Many experts claim that there doesn’t exist such a thing as being good or bad in bed.
There only exist people who are compatible and who get along under the sheets…or don’t.
The best way to a healthy sex life is without doubt through communication.
You and your boyfriend should be relaxed enough to share your deepest and wildest sexual fantasies with one another.
Remember, there is no place for embarrassment and shame among two people in love.
This is someone you have chosen to plan your life with, and if you can’t talk to him about this important topic, maybe it’s time to rethink your relationship.
5. The things you don’t like about each other
No matter how madly in love you might be with your significant other, there always exist some parts of his personality that annoy you and which you’d like to change.
And the same goes the other way around, as well—you two accept each other, but it doesn’t mean you like literally everything about one another.
This is exactly one or the topics you should be able to talk to your boyfriend about, without it necessarily leading to an argument.
You guys are two adults who should know how to sit down and talk about your dissatisfactions in your relationship.
If this is not the case, you will have problems in the long run, and your relationship probably has no future.