The moment this girl walked out on you, you rushed into putting all the blame on her for the failure of your relationship.
Without taking a slice of responsibility, you accused her of leaving you hanging, being selfish and heartless, and not giving a damn about you.
I guess it was easier for you to assume that she simply fell out of love with you.
It was convenient to feel sorry for yourself as a victim of a ruthless girl who woke up one morning and decided to kick you out of her life and heart.
Things were pretty simple from your point of view: You were obviously the one who cared more because you’d never have broken up with her for good.
On the other hand, maybe she never loved you enough or she just stopped loving you.
Either way, the point remains: You’re the one left heartbroken and hurt, while she’s out there living her life as if you were never a part of it.
These are all the thoughts that have been running through your head lately, aren’t they?
She’s the only one guilty for the fact that you didn’t make it and there’s absolutely nothing you could do to compensate for this girl’s lack of emotions.
Well, let me tell you that you can’t be more wrong. This woman never stopped loving you, she just outgrew you.
I hate to break it to you, but she matured and she started wanting more than you could give her.
And I’m not talking about finances here – she just surpassed your relationship and you simply weren’t enough for her anymore.
She matured to the point where she stopped settling for your menial effort.
Stopped considering herself lucky just for having a boyfriend who doesn’t cheat on her or abuse her, yet doesn’t do anything for the benefit of their relationship either.
She outgrew her fantasies that true love should be a constant struggle, that jealousy is a sign of deep romantic feelings, and that passion and butterflies are what make a relationship worth fighting for.
She realized that all of these things are actually toxic and a healthy relationship should be a peaceful harbor instead of a rollercoaster of emotions that makes you feel uneasy all the time.
She outgrew her need to chase and be chased.
She moved past the mind games, mixed signals, overthinking, overanalyzing, and never knowing where she stands.
Instead, she realized that she needs something more stable for the rest of her life.
She doesn’t need a man who represents a constant challenge – she needs someone who’ll feel like home and whose love will calm her instead of constantly ruin her peace.
She outgrew you – an immature mama’s boy who doesn’t have a clue about what he wants in life.
A guy who is still mentally and emotionally stuck in his teen years without any future goals, obsessed with infantile games, and in need of approval and an ego boost.
This girl didn’t stop loving you – she matured enough to understand that sometimes love is not enough, despite its strength and depth.
She evolved to realize that she’s not the same person she was when she met you, while you remained at the exact same level.
Now, she is merely smarter, wiser, and knows better. She sees that somewhere along the way, you two stopped being compatible and could never make it in the real world.
Now she knows that you two want different things from life.
That you’re not interested in working on yourself and taking your relationship to another level. And that is something she no longer is willing to settle for.
She sees that while she became the woman she was always destined to be, you’ll never become the man she now needs by her side.
That you’ll never get your shit together and make something out of your life.
As harsh as this might sound, this girl realized that you were holding her back, instead of pushing her forward.
You were knocking her down, instead of being the wind to her wings.
You were keeping her stable instead of inspiring her to become the best possible version of herself.
So no, despite all of your doubts, she didn’t stop loving you – you’ve just stopped fitting in her life, as selfish as that might make her.
