What is the thing you do to yourself, when going through a heartbreak, which prevents you from healing healthily?
Heartbreak is one of the most painful experiences, and everyone handles it differently. Some people process their emotions head-on, while others bury their feelings, hoping the pain will magically disappear.
But in many cases, the way we deal with heartbreak is far from healthy. Our coping mechanisms—shaped by personality, experiences, and even the stars—can often cause more harm than good.
The toxic way in which you handle your heartbreak might just have everything to do with the zodiac sign you belong to. Each sign has its own unique way of dealing with pain—some lean into anger, others into denial, and a few just dive headfirst into distractions.
Curious how your sign sabotages itself during a breakup? Let’s break it down!
1. Aries
Your biggest mistake when it comes to break-ups is that you try to mask your pain with anger. It is easier for you to admit that you are furious about the other person and even angry at yourself for allowing someone like that to be a part of your life and for choosing wrongly than to accept the fact that your heart is broken into pieces.
What makes this even harder is your tendency to act impulsively when angry. Instead of sitting with your emotions and processing the hurt, you lash out—sometimes at others, but often at yourself. You might make drastic decisions, like burning bridges or throwing yourself into reckless activities, just to distract yourself from the real pain.
You might not be aware of this, but the truth is that you consider all emotional pain as your own personal defeat, so you think the best way to avoid it is to channel it this way. But until you allow yourself to feel the sadness beneath the anger, you’ll struggle to truly heal. Accepting vulnerability doesn’t make you weak—it sets you free.
2. Taurus
If you belong to this zodiac sign, your problem is that you don’t know how to accept that a relationship has come to its end or the fact that the other person doesn’t love you the way you expect them to. Instead, you have a habit of pushing things too hard, thinking that they will work out if you give them just another shot.
Even worse, your stubborn nature keeps you stuck in the same cycle of hoping and trying, even when it’s clear the relationship is over. You convince yourself that if you just say the right thing or show enough love, you can fix everything. But this refusal to let go only drags out your suffering.
All of this behavior makes you lose your dignity, and you come off as someone begging for love, without even being aware of it. If you could take a step back and focus on your own worth instead of chasing someone else’s approval, you’d see that letting go is often the most dignified and healing choice you can make.
3. Gemini
What you can’t seem to grasp is that your heart needs time to heal after a brutal break-up. Everyone, including you, needs some time to get their shit together after being hurt. However, this is something you refuse to accept. Instead, you assume that a rebound relationship is exactly the thing you need to fix yourself.
Your constant need for stimulation doesn’t help either. Instead of sitting with your emotions, you distract yourself by jumping into new situations, whether it’s a rebound, a social whirlwind, or even an ambitious project. But deep down, the pain you’re avoiding doesn’t go away—it just sits there, waiting to surface when you least expect it.
Of course, in the end, when you finally understand that things don’t work like that, you end up hurting more people than necessary and you end up breaking your own heart even more. To truly heal, you need to slow down, embrace solitude, and let yourself feel everything you’ve been running from.
4. Cancer
When it comes to break-ups, you have a tendency to idealize the other person even after they do you harm. You can’t seem to accept that they are bad for you and that they didn’t care for you as much as you did for them, so you continue looking for excuses for everything they did.
This habit of romanticizing the past only makes it harder for you to move forward. You replay old memories and cling to the good times, even when they’ve been overshadowed by hurt. It’s as if letting go of the person means letting go of the dream you built around them—and that’s something you struggle to face.
The most toxic thing you do while handling your heartbreak is taking overall responsibility for things ending the way they did. You keep wondering what you could have done differently to avoid this break-up and how come you weren’t enough for your partner to love you. But the truth is, not everything is your fault, and the sooner you stop blaming yourself, the sooner you can start healing.
5. Leo
When you end a romantic relationship, you pretend like the person you dated was never a part of your life. Yes, leaving your ex in the past where they belong is always a good idea, especially when things don’t end well. But the pain won’t disappear overnight if you delete all record of them ever existing, nor will it be magically gone if you pretend like your entire relationship never mattered.
This habit of cutting people off so abruptly stems from your pride and your desire to appear strong. You don’t want anyone to see you vulnerable, so you act like the breakup hasn’t affected you at all. But bottling up your emotions only creates a deeper wound that takes longer to heal.
Instead of erasing the past completely, give yourself permission to feel the loss and acknowledge the lessons the relationship taught you. It’s okay to grieve—it doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it’s the first step toward becoming even stronger.
6. Virgo
The toxic thing you do while handling your heartbreak is overthinking and overanalyzing. You can’t seem to grasp that things turned out the way they did, and you are always looking for a deeper meaning and a reason behind everything that went on.
Your mind becomes a battlefield of “what ifs” and “if onlys.” You replay every conversation, every argument, and every moment, searching for clues about where things went wrong. This endless cycle of analysis doesn’t bring you peace—it keeps you trapped in the pain, unable to move forward.
You can’t seem to move on without getting closure, and you focus all of your energy on thinking thoroughly about every little detail that led to this outcome. But closure doesn’t always come from the other person. Sometimes, it’s something you have to create for yourself. Accept that not every question will have an answer, and learn to find peace in letting go of the need to understand everything.
7. Libra
The worst thing you subconsciously do after having your heart broken is giving up on love altogether. You lose hope that you’ll ever find your happiness, and you start assuming that everyone is just like your ex.
Instead of seeing the breakup as an isolated event, you let it color your entire view of relationships. You convince yourself that love is a lost cause, and you withdraw from opportunities to connect with others. This pessimism doesn’t protect you—it isolates you and makes the heartbreak even harder to bear.
You start looking at your entire life through the prism of this heartbreak, and you get the feeling like your entire world is falling apart. But deep down, you’re a romantic at heart, and you know that giving up on love isn’t the answer. Take your time to heal, but don’t let one bad experience close you off to the possibility of something beautiful in the future.
8. Scorpio
Out of all zodiac signs, you are the one who handles your heartbreak in the most typical of all toxic ways. You can’t seem to face the pain you are feeling, so you do everything in your power to chase it away.
Your intensity and emotional depth make heartbreak especially hard for you, and instead of sitting with your feelings, you throw yourself into distractions. This often takes the form of reckless behavior or meaningless connections, which only leave you feeling emptier in the long run.
The worst part about the way you deal with losing someone you love is sleeping around with everyone who comes your way, convinced that all of this meaningless physical intimacy will fill the void inside of you. But the truth is, the only way to truly heal is to confront the pain head-on. Allow yourself to feel everything, even if it hurts—it’s the only way to truly move forward.
9. Sagittarius
If you belong to this zodiac, you have an uncontrollable urge to reinvent yourself the moment your heart breaks. You think that the easiest way to get someone out of your system is to change something about your appearance.
Whether it’s a new haircut, a fresh wardrobe, or a dramatic change in lifestyle, you throw yourself into transformation as a way to distract from the pain. On the surface, it might seem like you’re taking control, but deep down, you’re avoiding the emotional work that needs to be done.
What you don’t know is that the pain comes from within, so you have to work on improving your interior instead of your exterior if you really want to heal. Instead of focusing on outward changes, take time to reflect on your emotions and find ways to nurture your inner self. True healing starts from within, and once you’ve addressed the root of your pain, you’ll feel stronger than ever.
10. Capricorn
A heartbreak is anything but easy for you. However, for you, your pride is more important than everything, and you would never allow others to see the true intensity of your pain.
You’re a master of keeping up appearances, even when you’re falling apart inside. You bury yourself in work or responsibilities, convincing yourself that staying busy will make the pain go away. But all this does is delay the healing process, leaving you feeling more drained and disconnected over time.
So you suffer in silence and pretend that everything is in perfect order while you are actually dying on the inside, and that is one of the worst things you can do to yourself. It’s okay to let your guard down and let someone in. You don’t have to carry the weight of heartbreak alone—lean on those who care about you and allow yourself to be vulnerable.
11. Aquarius
When you are going through a heartbreak, you have some masochistic habits. You continue breaking your own heart by stalking your ex’s social media, by going through your old photos, and by listening to the songs that remind you of them.
This constant revisiting of the past keeps you stuck in a loop of pain, making it nearly impossible to move on. You convince yourself that you’re just seeking closure, but what you’re really doing is reopening wounds that need time to heal.
Even though pretending that the pain doesn’t exist is never a good idea, you shouldn’t dig your wounds deeper either. Instead of torturing yourself with reminders of what’s been lost, focus on creating new memories and experiences that bring you joy. It’s not about forgetting—it’s about finding the strength to move forward.
12. Pisces
If you belong to this zodiac, when you are hurt, you don’t only cut off the one who has done you harm. Instead, you shut everyone out, and you don’t let people help you, thinking that you can go through all of this on your own.
Your instinct to retreat into yourself comes from a desire to protect your heart, but this isolation only deepens the pain. The people who care about you want to support you, but they can’t if you keep them at arm’s length.
Even though being your own hero is amazing, there is nothing shameful in accepting a hand from the ones close to you. Letting others in doesn’t make you weak—it shows that you trust them with your heart. Healing doesn’t have to be a solo journey, and when you allow yourself to lean on the people who love you, you’ll find strength you didn’t know you had.
