It’s one thing to win a man over, to sweep him off his feet, but what you need to do to get him to commit?
In other words, how to get a man to marry you? What are the tricks to make it possible?
Usually, men get comfortable at a certain stage of a relationship.
And the funny yet so frustrating part is that this is the stage of a relationship that is boring for a woman.
That stage is exactly what you’re trying to avoid.
What happens is that he gets comfortable and you’re at the edge of your seat because you want things to go further and take your relationship to the next level – a more serious level.
In other words, you’re waiting for him to pop the question, but he seems to be comfortable right where the two of you are at.
What to do when he freaks out at the mere mention of marriage?
What happens is that you need to play the game. You’re not going to manipulate, you’re not going to play dirty. You’re going to play smart.
You’re not going to lie, you’re just going to present who you are and convince him that he needs you – actually, you’re not going to convince him, you’re going to show him with your behavior.
Men are like that. They think they are hard to understand, but actually, they are very easy to read – and it’s ugly to say manipulate – but let’s say it’s easy to make them think they have done something on their own, where in fact, you had a huge role in affecting their decision.
How to get a man to marry you?
Maybe you think you’ve done everything, but I bet there are some things that you haven’t tried yet, maybe even some you haven’t even considered doing because they seemed too trivial.
1. Love yourself
I know it’s cheesy and ever-present, but it’s only like that because it’s true. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else.
If you’re unhappy with the way you look or behave, if you’re not satisfied with who you are, nothing and no one else will ever be enough.
And this I’m speaking from experience. Every time a problem appears in your life, start solving it by working on yourself.
When you deal with all your issues and accept yourself for who you are and forgive yourself for what you resent, you’ll be able to move forward.
Therefore, love yourself. Analyze things you don’t like and change them. You can do it if you really want to.
2. Make him hang out with your married friends
You know how sometimes people who hang out together for a longer period of time start acting like each other?
They start talking the same way and, in extreme cases, they even start looking like each other.
Well, that phenomenon is called mirroring.
It’s a behavior in which one person, without being aware of it, imitates another person’s speech pattern, body language, or attitude.
This happens in everyday interaction and both the person who is mirroring and the person being mirrored don’t pick up on the fact that it’s happening.
Why am I saying this? Well, if you get him to hang out with your married friends and he happens to like them, he’ll pick up on their behavior and he’ll start mirroring them, which will make the idea of marriage more appealing than ever.
Your married friends will show him that marriage has its ups and downs, but at the end of the day, the love you have for each other always wins.
Some men are more cautious when it comes to marriage because they come from broken homes.
All they have learned and heard was fighting and disrespect. Therefore, marriage has negative connotations to them.
Try hard to prove them wrong. Show them with your married friends that things are not always bad.
3. Always keep the communication alive
The moment you stop the communication, you’re going to be facing real problems.
You see, as long as you talk to your partner, any kind of damage done can be undone. Conversation can solve any conflict.
Even if you don’t feel negative things toward your partner, you have to talk to him.
When you’re positive, when he has done something praiseworthy, let him know he has done a good thing. Simply put, share every little thing with your partner.
Communication is vital from the beginning of the relationship and throughout the whole marriage.
It’s not easy to live with one person for the rest of your life, even if you love that person deeply. Therefore, never keep things buried inside.
When you become a communication-focused person, he will definitely marry you.
4. Make him need you
If you want to have him forever, you’ll have to become everything to him.
When he needs a friend, you’ll have to be one, when he needs someone to watch the game with, you’ll have to do it.
You’ll have to be a lover, friend, support, and hobby partner – all in one.
As you’ll see, it isn’t that hard to do. Maybe it sounds like a lot of work, but when you love someone, you already are all of those things to that person.
Become the whole package if you want to have him in your life.
Make him need you by making his time with you priceless. When you’re together, you’ll laugh and make beautiful memories.
He wouldn’t want to walk away from that. Tone down the drama to a minimum and enjoy life with the person you love.
Also, another crucial thing he will cherish more than everything is to give him some time alone.
All men need that and, to be honest, you need that, too. You need to give him space, some time to think and deal with his stuff by himself.
It doesn’t matter what he does when he’s alone. One thing matters only – that he respects the fact you’re letting him breathe.
It only shows him you are confident enough to let him go away. It shows him you trust him.
He will realize that being with you doesn’t mean his freedom will vanish.
He’ll realize nothing will change, except the fact he’ll have constant support by his side.
5. Stay natural
You don’t need fake boobs or lips to be attractive.
After all, physical attraction is not the only type of attraction and in time it fades, which is the reason why most relationships fail.
Attraction comes from within; it comes from your very essence and no plastic surgery can top that.
You have to show your partner the real you. When you get up in the morning, you won’t be wearing any makeup.
You won’t be covering your natural face when you sleep beside the man you love.
And he doesn’t want you to do that. He doesn’t want you to hide the real you.
Also, I guarantee you he will like you better with no makeup on than with wearing the whole facade.
No man wants his partner to hide who she really is for the rest of their life.
6. Break the routine
Men get easily comfortable and when they get to that state, it becomes a routine that is really hard to escape.
For example, your guy has grown used to you being at home every time he comes from work, or you staying home Friday night where the two of you watch Netflix.
It has been like that forever. He is used to you always being there. Well, be smart enough and shake things up a bit.
When he comes from work, don’t be at home. Go out with your friends on a Friday night. Do something he doesn’t expect you to do.
In a way, you’re letting him know that you too have a life of your own and it doesn’t have to revolve around his.
Break your routine and shake him up a bit. He’ll realize you won’t wait for him forever.
7. Keep the sexy
We’ve already covered the whole physical attraction aspect. We’ve agreed on the fact that it doesn’t matter that much in the long run.
This is still true, but it doesn’t mean you should stop being sexy, that you should stop trying.
There are women who completely let themselves go when they are in a long and serious relationship.
I don’t know why that happens, but I can guess – they get too comfortable; they are sure their partner is there for them and he isn’t going anywhere.
Well, that lack of effort is the number one relationship killer. You’re stuck in a rut of which you can’t get out.
The relationship is becoming more boring with each passing day and you find yourself miserable in a relationship that used to work.
Keep sexy alive and don’t become boring and unpredictable. After all, he is not only marrying a friend but a lover, too.
8. Give him hints about going away
You can do this if everything else fails.
If you’ve tried to play this smart and fair but it didn’t work, then it’s time to bring out the big guns and play the game, badass style.
It’s time for a little bit of manipulation.
If you see that your relationship is at a standstill, you simply have to do something to get things going and to wake your partner up.
Casually mention that you’re really thinking about moving to another city because you have a job opportunity or just let him know that you’re bored with the place you’re in right now and you want something new and exciting.
But never leave things just at words. Make plans like you’re really going to do it. Make your plan believable and real.
Even if you don’t have any plans, make him believe that you do.
Do absolutely anything necessary to shake him up a bit and make him realize he needs you and wants to spend his life with you.
Sometimes men need that little push.
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9. Be emotionally stable
No one wants a drama queen by their side. Too much passion and too much of anything is not a good thing.
You need to be balanced – not too cold and not too emotional.
Men like stable women who don’t lose their minds at every trifle and don’t make a fuss about something that is not that big of a deal.
When you think about it, why wouldn’t they want a nice and stable woman by their side?
You as a woman are also looking for a stable man to be your support for the rest of your life, right?
Staying calm and together is not an easy thing to do because life is hectic and all kinds of things happen all the time.
Life throws challenges and problems every step of the way, and not everyone can deal with it all while keeping their head clear at the same time.
If you notice that you’ve been dramatizing about things that are not important, or they are important to you but others don’t see it that way, you should probably seek help.
Talk to a professional who will help you deal with life without creating a fuss.
10. Keep dating fun as it’s supposed to be
Don’t mention things before it’s time to mention them. You’ll ruin everything.
The most important thing you have to do if you want a man to marry you is to never pressure him. Don’t even joke about getting married.
Men take commitment very seriously and they won’t do it if they aren’t ready.
On the other hand, if you’re pressuring them, it will only make them back off and completely walk away.
You have to let things go their natural course. While you’re dating, you’re dating.
When he sees you as someone he might spend his life with, he will commit to you.
When he commits to you, then you can start talking about the future, although he will probably do it first. Slowly, you’ll realize he’s showing signs he’s about to pop the question.
11. Romance is a two-way street
You can’t expect him to be the romantic one. You have to put in some effort, too.
Isn’t it nice when your loved one surprises you with a romantic dinner or a nice present for no apparent reason other than pure love?
Well, guess what, it would be nice for him, too. He is not made of stone; he has feelings, too.
If you want to be treated as an equal, you should show him that you care for him and that you can be romantic as well.
Give him a reason to stay in this relationship. Don’t expect him to give all the time while you just take and never give anything back.
If you keep on pushing that kind of a relationship, then he will never marry you.
12. Think about how you’re going to do the talk
If you have a feeling that you’re not on the same page relationship-wise, think about your approach to him because what you’re feeling isn’t necessarily what he’s feeling.
Instead of approaching him with a serious tone, try to keep it light and positive.
Make yourself look like you want to solve things and not break them off for good.
You don’t even have to say anything; your body language is talking for you.
Be light-hearted and think optimistically. That’s the vibe you’re going to pass onto him.
Tell him that you are planning on marrying in the future and that you want to be with a person who has the same values as you do.
Then, ask him if he feels the same and if he sees himself maybe someday by your side?
You see, honesty is always key. But the trick is the way you say what you think.
If you’re going to say something, but you already have a bad feeling and you think it’s not going to end well, you’re letting that vibe spread to people around you.
But if you approach your person in a happy and positive matter, that same conversation can take a completely different course.
That’s why I’m saying you should play this smart.
Be the woman you are and take this game to a different level, the one only you know how to play on.
Present yourself the way you are and he will understand what he has to do, what would be the best for him to do.
