What makes a man decide that he wants to get married? What points are men checking off their list before they decide to pop the question?
Men, just like women, have this imaginary “list of things” that they find important to follow when it comes to deciding with whom they want to spend their life.
No, they don’t look for the perfect, hot woman who will be able to make them the perfect sandwich.
They pay attention to other things that are of utmost importance when it comes to establishing a healthy and happy marriage.
So, if you’ve already talked about tying the knot, you’ve made it clear that you want to spend the rest of your lives with each other, and he still hasn’t popped the question, chances are that he’s still checking the following points to make sure that you’re the one!
7 POINTS HE’S CHECKING OFF BEFORE HE POPS THE QUESTION
1. Family/friends like you
Before he pops the question, every guy needs to make sure that his family and friends like you and approve of you.
If you don’t get along with the people who are an important part of his life, some issues may arise in the future.
That is why he will never pop the question until he’s one hundred percent sure that you will be able to form a healthy and positive community together.
One of the most important things that every man wants to make sure of is seeing that you’re good with kids and, most importantly, hearing your opinion on having children someday in the not too distant future.
That’s why he will always observe how you get along with kids when you have the opportunity; he will notice if you don’t feel that comfortable or if children don’t really like you.
Either way, the best bet is to be honest regarding your opinion on having children one day.
The worst thing you could do is pretend that you’re crazy about children only to win his affection.
Every man wants to make sure that his future wife will be supportive and not purely judgmental.
He wants to see that he can always ask you for advice and come to you with new ideas, without fearing that you’ll discard all of them and tell him that he’s a lunatic.
So, if he likes to spend lots of time playing video games or doing something else, he wants to make sure that you’re okay with that because if you’re not, confrontation will be inevitable.
4. Lovemaking is great
No, he doesn’t expect from you to fulfill his deepest fantasies, yet he wants to see that you two are compatible in bed, because making love is one of the most important things when it comes to marriage and maintaining passion.
He will conclude that lovemaking is great if he sees that you’re making an effort just as he is and you’re willing to reciprocate, try something new (if you’re okay with that), and tell him if he’s doing something wrong.
5. Similar goals and interests
It is really hard to imagine spending your life with someone whose goals and interests drastically differ from yours.
That is why before he pops the question, he will want to make sure that you have similar goals, interests, and dreams.
He wants to spend time with someone who will understand him and whom he will understand in terms of achieving goals and pursuing happiness.
Remember that quote: “Looks fade, but personality lasts forever”?
Yes, he wants to make sure that you’re not just a pretty face, but that he can always have a meaningful conversation with you and learn something new from your perspective.
But, don’t get me wrong. Intelligence doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to have Albert Einstein’s IQ.
An intelligent person is the one who is not afraid to speak their mind,one who knows how to listen to others and give satisfying replies instead of just being silent and nodding all the time.
And that’s exactly what men want from their women and future wives.
They want someone who will listen to them and also be willing to contradict them when they are wrong.
7. Honest and kind-hearted
Without honesty, there is no healthy relationship or healthy marriage. Honesty is the base of everything.
If he can trust you with all of his heart, he will never doubt for a second in popping the question.
Honesty comes along with being kind-hearted.
He wants to see that you are a warm person who likes to cuddle with animals, enjoys helping other people, and takes care of her loved ones.
He wants to see that he relies on you with his body and soul, and once he makes sure of all of it, he will never second-guess asking you to marry him.