Life is not a cheesy romantic movie. Clumsy flirting is not attractive, at least not always. So, forget everything you know so far and carefully see where the actual problem is.
Why, despite all your efforts, can’t you attract him and get him to say, “I love you”?
We are all searching for eternal love, the kind of which turns on the butterflies in your stomach and makes you want to shout and scream with happiness. So, it’s no wonder that women will do practically anything to make that dream come true. Who wouldn’t? Who would deny themself long-term happiness?
We even know to use manipulation to get a guy to like us, we read hundreds of articles on how to make him like us, or how to make him miss us and so on, but we never stop to think if there is something that we are doing wrong.
Is there something that we think we’re doing perfectly and actually it provokes the complete opposite reaction, and it scares him away?
Well, the truth is that you just need to be yourself. That is the first step. Stop reading tips on how to…. whatever, because if something that you’ve read is not something you would normally do, then there is no point in doing it anyway. You don’t want to create a false picture of yourself.
The most important thing is to act the way you feel and love will knock on your door because despite all our efforts in trying to make men attracted to us, there is that one special person out there waiting for you and you’ll meet sooner or later, no matter what you do. Call me a hopeless romantic but it’s true.
But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t pay attention to what not to do to get a guy to like you. You’re not changing yourself by doing it, you’re just introducing new slight changes that will essentially work to your benefit. You’ll grow and you’ll become the best version of yourself.
So, when you look at it, you’re actually doing this for your own sake and on the plus side, you’ll definitely attract a man if you avoid doing some or all of these things:
1. You’re late to dates
I know that this isn’t the case with all women but it happens all the time. If you’re not one of them, just ignore this one and move on to the next thing you should never do. If you are always late, stick around and see how to deal with this. Some women think that by showing up late to a date, the guy will want them even more, because he is waiting for them.
Actually, that is not quite the truth. Think about it—maybe by showing up late you’re showing him disrespect and making him feel bad because you don’t care about his time. Try to avoid doing this and let your other qualities shine and leave him speechless.
2. You’re all dressed up 24/7
I know that most of you will say that you are dressing up because of yourself and you want to look good because you want to feel good. I know you’ll say that you like wearing full makeup but if you’re doing this because you’re hoping you’ll see him somewhere, then admit to yourself that you want to look good just in case you meet him on the street.
But you should keep in mind that men prefer women without much makeup. Actually, when it looks like you’re wearing no make-up, with a nude and clean look. So, try being natural because it’s way more attractive.
3. You’re obsessed with the way your body looks
First and most importantly, you should never change for anybody’s sake. No matter how you look and how much you weigh, if he likes you, he likes you for who you are as a person and not because of the way you look. So, the initial attraction may depend on the way you look but you’re searching for something more meaningful and deeper, a relationship that will last.
And when you think about it, most men like women who have some curves and are not only skin and bones. So, don’t ever starve yourself hoping that is the key to attract him and keep him interested.
4. You’re laughing at all of his jokes
Never overdo it. If something is not funny, don’t force it to be funny because it won’t make him feel better. He’ll probably notice the difference between a fake smile and a real one. And even if he doesn’t, faking laughter won’t magically turn him into a humorous person. Don’t encourage him to do it if he’s bad at it. This way, if you’re not laughing your ass off at every joke he tells, he’ll probably get the hint and give up in time. Actually, you’ll be doing him a favor.
5. You’re pretending you like sports
Okay, let’s face it, you know as much about sports as he knows about fashion. So, don’t pretend to like it because he’ll figure out you’re lying sooner or later when you say something that you think makes sense but is actually absurd.
Sport connects people, and even if you succeed in tricking him that you like sports and you bond, that won’t last forever. You’re not being yourself and he’ll figure out sooner or later that you were lying and your whole relationship will go down in flames.
6. You’re agreeing with him all the time
You have to have your own opinions. Men don’t like women who won’t speak their mind about something if they have something to say. Men like women who can stand up for themself and prove a point.
Let’s say you are in the middle of an argument and you think what you’re saying is right. Stand up to him and try to prove your point. If you agree with him on everything, there is no excitement and where there is no excitement, it gets boring. You don’t want it to get boring.