It doesn’t matter how many times we get broken, somehow we still keep attracting men who aren’t really good for us. Of course, every relationship teaches us a valuable lesson for our life—but why does it hurt this bad?
Those guys simply mark us for the rest of our lives and we are all sick and tired of them! So here are some tips and tricks on how to stop attracting the wrong guys:
1. Know what you’re looking for
Most of the time, we settle for guys who don’t really fit the profile of the man we’ve been dreaming of, but we still want to be with him, thinking that he might change for the better.
No. Stop that.
Know what you want and what you deserve in a relationship. If he’s doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends or is super-crazy jealous, those are red flags that are telling you to run for the hills, because those things stay for life.
2. Be confident and know your worth
Again, we settle for regular men who look cute, but are toxic as hell, because we don’t know what we deserve.
It’s very important to know that you are an awesome individual who can do anything that she dreams of! So don’t forget that!
You want a man, you don’t need one. It’s just more fun when he does something for you, even when you can do it yourself.
Don’t be desperate by running into a man’s arms. Know that there is nothing in this world that is even close to being as beautiful and unique as you are.
3. Don’t be afraid of commitment
So, this might sound strange, but the other day I was hanging out with one of my friends and she said that she always picks the wrong guys because she is scared to get married and commit.
I looked back at my previous relationships and that was exactly what I was doing without even realizing it. You might be afraid of commitment as well, it’s just that you didn’t realize it until now.
4. You can’t find a right guy in the wrong place
If you’ve fallen in love with a man who you met in a club, drunk and surrounded by other women, then there is no chance in hell he’s the right one.
You can’t want a guy who was drunk when you met him, when you don’t like drinking at all. So, if you want a lasting and loving relationship with a man who is well-read, you will find him in a library, not a disco.
5. Realize that you don’t need approval
I don’t know if this is the case in your past relationships, but many struggle with the need for approval in relationships. Girls will start a relationship with anyone who gives them attention and approval just because it feels good; don’t be one of them.
This is, of course, not the fault of the woman, but the fault of important male figures in her past who didn’t give her the recognition she needed.
6. Know that you can break a pattern
Even if all your previous boyfriends were bad boys who just needed you for their own pleasure, that doesn’t mean that it’ll be this way for the rest of your life. You can break that pattern now and start anew.
Even if you got familiar with the feeling of being in a toxic relationship and you got used to the pain, you don’t have to live in it forever. You will be happy and you will feel much more satisfied in a new kind of relationship with someone who appreciates you.
7. Be aware of the deal-breakers
So, he came home smelling like another woman. Don’t just hide in the corner and cry, no.
You face that D-bag and tell him what’s up.
If he doesn’t give you enough attention that you deserve, then there is no need for me to tell you that you need to move on. He’s not worthy of your efforts and energy. Know your limits when it comes to relationships and don’t cross them.
8. Take a break
Take a break from the dating world to actually get to know yourself and your needs. Know that there is someone out there who was made just for you and no one can steal him away.
Just give yourself time to think and don’t push yourself. Being pushy with yourself can lead to a whole lot of unhealthy decisions.