When you finally get over a toxic relationship and the pain is over, the hardest thing is knowing whether you are ready to put yourself back out there.
Have you officially moved on with your life, and do you feel like it’s time to let a new man become a part of it?
Well, we have a solution to your problem because we are giving you 5 questions you should ask yourself to determine if you are ready to get back in the dating pool after a painful break up.
1.Why do I want a new relationship?
The first things you have to determine are your reasons for wanting to find someone new.
Do you think you are at the point of your life where you could share it with someone special?
Or are you’re just fed up with being single and want to date anyone who comes your way, just to avoid loneliness?
Are you thinking about dating again because you want love or because you desperately need it?
Because you want to have someone to be your partner or someone to give your life meaning and to fill up the voids inside of you?
If the answer is the latter each time, it means you are everything but ready to go back out there.
Instead, focus all of your energy on improving yourself.
Once you become content with your life the way it is without a man in it, then it is time to search for someone new.
2. Did I cut all ties with the past?
Leaving the past in the past and moving on from your previous relationship is a must before getting back in the dating pool.
Remember that is utterly unfair to use someone as your rebound and to help you get over an ex you are still in touch with or have feelings for.
Besides, by doing this, you won’t be hurting just this other person.
You’ll also be the one to suffer because you’ll find yourself torn between your repressed emotions and your desire to run away from them.
3. Do I still believe in love?
So you’ve been through a tough breakup, and naturally, everything you’ve been through has distorted your view on love.
Your trust in men has been shaken, and you are not the same person you used to be before this heartbreak.
However, what you need to ask yourself is whether you’ve lost all faith in love all together.
Do you expect every man to be just like your ex and to hurt you the way he did?
If the answer is positive, it is more than clear than you’re still overwhelmed with bitterness and negativity from your past, and this is something you should get rid of before getting into a new relationship.
4. Do you know what you’re looking for?
Another question to ask yourself before getting involved with someone new is what exactly do you hope to find?
Do you want a serious relationship or just someone to have meaningless sex with?
Are you looking for something temporary to help you get through the day or you are in search of your soulmate?
Whatever it is that you want, remember that there are no wrong answers.
You have a complete right to do whatever you want with your life, just be honest with yourself and with your potential partner.
What is also important is to have a clear vision of the man you want to meet.
I am not saying that you shouldn’t be spontaneous or that you will find exactly the one you want, but in order to find the right guy, you have to have some standards and criteria.
5. Did I learn my lesson?
After escaping a bad relationship, the most important thing is to learn something from it.
It is not to let your pain define you but to use it to realize what the things you shouldn’t settle for ever again are.
Is this something your previous relationship taught you?
Has it been an eye-opening experience which made you wiser and stronger?
If it has, then you are good to go.