Señales de obsesión: 10 señales de que es peligrosamente obsesivo y no está enamorado
¿Son fáciles de detectar los signos de obsesión? Uno se siente realmente bien cuando tiene a alguien especial a su lado, alguien que le importa de verdad y que se preocupa por usted.
Es increíble cuando el hombre de tu vida es todo lo que has soñado y te da todo su amor y apoyo.
Pero hay personas que pueden obsesionarse fácilmente con su pareja y convertir su amor en un amor obsesivo.
Se convierten en quienes los persiguen, los fantasman, los asfixian.
The ones who don’t let them have their free time or spend some time with family members and friends.
Hay chicos que actúan de forma bastante normal al principio de una relación pero después, por alguna razón, empiezan a ser controladores.
They start to manipulate, convincing their partners that they don’t need anyone and that they are the only person they need in their life. Those men can be very dangerous because what they feel is not love.
They are some of the extreme cases where love turns into an obsessive relationship and the other person in it has no idea she’s dealing with an obsessed person.
If you have a partner who was normal at the beginning of your relationship but who changed over time and he doesn’t make you feel good now, déjalo. Your relationship with him won’t get any better.
It will only get worse. And the worst thing is that you can’t do anything about that.
You can’t change him. Only he can change his obsessive behavior if he decides it is time for that.
Si no estás muy segura de si tu hombre está obsesionado contigo, aquí tienes algunas señales de advertencia del amor obsesivo:
Es demasiado pegajoso
Sé que se siente bien cuando pasa mucho tiempo contigo al principio de vuestra relación.
Pero cuando es demasiado, simplemente es demasiado. Tiene que entender que tienes tu propia vida y que a veces te apetece estar sola.
Todos necesitamos un poco de tiempo a solas y tiempo que podamos pasar sólo con nuestros amigos y familiares.
A guy who doesn’t want to accept your relationships with your friends and family probably has mental health issues connected to obsessive-compulsive behavior.
Ese tipo de relación no es sana, así que será mejor que quemes los puentes entre los dos antes de que sea demasiado tarde.
Lo último que necesitas en tus manos es una baja autoestima seguida de un corazón roto y tu alma hecha pedazos.
Te bombardea con mensajes
It is sweet to get a ‘good morning’ message from your sweetheart but if he keeps texting you every fifteen minutes, it is a little bit pushy.
Tiene que entender que no es el centro de tu mundo y que en tu vida pasan muchas cosas.
He can spend time with his friends or family as well. He can find a hobby or do something that fulfills him. But he can’t suffocate you in that way.
Si sigue haciéndolo, te sentirás mal en esa relación y desearás no haberle conocido.
It is okay to send you a message while you are at work to ask something important but asking you about some things that don’t matter simply doesn’t make any sense.
Answering all those texts will take a lot of time, especially if he’s bombarding you on social media as well, and you won’t be able to focus on your work.
That is why you need to set some boundaries because if you don’t do it now, you will have problems later.
And if he can’t understand that, then he is not worthy of your love and your love is not healthy love.
Sólo un hombre que te comprenda y que sepa que te esfuerzas nunca te hará algo así.
Usted es su modelo a seguir
Es estupendo cuando eres un modelo a seguir para alguien, pero es un poco extraño cuando tu hombre te dice eso después de vuestro primer encuentro. Eso de ahí es una señal que grita trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo.
I mean, come on, he hasn’t gotten to know you well yet—how can he judge a book by its cover? His behavior is showing pure infatuation, mixed with obsession.
Si te encuentras en una situación así, por favor, piénsate dos veces si es el hombre con el que quieres tener una segunda cita o incluso pasar tu vida.
It is just a sign that he doesn’t have any life experience and that he doesn’t know anything about love.
Mientras estés con él, deberías sentirte bien en tu propia piel, pero si no te sientes así, quizá simplemente no sea el adecuado y deberías romper con él.
Ten en cuenta que necesitas un hombre que sea totalmente independiente y no alguien que acuda a ti para que le resuelvas todos los problemas que tenga.
Si le rechazas se enfada
Esta es una de las señales más comunes de que está obsesionado contigo.
He just can’t understand that, “No,” means, “No.” And he needs to understand that.
If you are not feeling like doing something, he can’t just think about himself only.
He needs to let you go to do things in your own way. That is a good thing and we all need it, even if we are in a relationship. Your free time is what you need and what you deserve so don’t let a guy tell you what you have to do.
No es bueno ni sano, así que tienes que poner algunas reglas si quieres que tu relación dure.
No matter how much he says that he loves you, he won’t admit that he is wrong.
If you catch yourself in a situation like this, try to talk to him in a normal and calm way. If that doesn’t work, I guess no es el hombre adecuado para ti!
Bu, don’t worry, there are a lot of people out there who are your perfect match and most importantly, are ready to make you the object of their affection—but in a healthy way.
Dice que se suicidará si le dejas.
Oh, that sneaky bastard! He is just blackmailing you because he knows that you love him and that you won’t let him do any harm to himself. He is not the kind of man you need in your life.
Si hace eso al principio de vuestra relación, imagínate lo que hará cuando las cosas se pongan serias.
He needs to know that he can’t do that to you and later tell you he loves you. That is not love, it is manipulation and it is not healthy.
No es más que un imbécil manipulador que intenta mantenerte cerca y chupar toda tu energía positiva.
The truth is that he doesn’t have the guts to kill himself and all those stories are just a show for you.
Espero que seas lo suficientemente inteligente como para no tragarte esta mierda porque un ser querido nunca diría algo así. ¡Las cosas que dice y hace son pura BS!
Te acecha
Esta es una señal innegable de que está obsesionado contigo. Te controlará en el trabajo, irá sin invitación a las fiestas que hagas con las chicas y dirá que fue sólo una coincidencia.
¡Corta el rollo! Este tipo es un acosador y lo hace porque está loco. Primero empieza con cosas pequeñas, luego se vuelve más grande y más serio.
Deberías pensar dos veces si es el tipo de hombre que quieres en tu vida.
Let’s be honest, the situation can only get worse, to the point where you should be seriously considering getting a restraining order. It’s usually how these relationships end.
Insiste en que eres su alma gemela
Un chico que habla de matrimonio e hijos después de la primera cita no es una persona mentalmente sana.
Okay, we have all daydreamed about our wedding day with some hot dude we saw on the street but to actually go up to that person and start talking about it, that’s insane!
He doesn’t care how that makes you feel, because in his head it’s a completely normal thing to do.
He ‘knows’ that you’re the one for him, he has to be the one for you, right? Hell no! This is one of the most disturbing signs that he is obsessed with you.
He created a scenario about the two of you in his head where everything is ideal but he forgot one thing—to ask for your opinion.
Lo que tiene que hacer es recomponerse antes de perder a una chica increíble como tú.
Comprueba tu teléfono
Esto es un signo de obsesión pero también es un signo de ambos inseguridad y celos.
Si lee los mensajes que has enviado a otras personas, probablemente sólo quiera averiguar si te gustan otros hombres porque sabe que siempre le contarás a tu mejor amigo todo lo que te pasa en la vida.
Así que aprovecha cuando no estás para revisar tu teléfono.
He does not respect your privacy because in his head it’s completely normal to share everything and he needs to know how you feel exactly and what you have been doing throughout the day.
He is insecure and that is the only reason he does that to you. Well, that and because of the personality disorder he’s suffering from.
Si alguna vez le pillas haciendo esto, tenéis que sentaros y tener una larga y seria charla.
He needs to know that you want a man who will love you and support you—not an egomaniac who will freak out every single time you do something that he doesn’t like!
Maybe it will all stop with jealousy but what if he starts being abusive? What if he starts hitting you every time you don’t do what he wants? These are the things you need to think about before it is too late.
He says, “Yes,” to everything you ask
It is a little bit boring when your man says, “Yes,” to everything that you have to say.
I am not saying that the two of you can’t have the same opinion about something, I am just saying you can’t do that all the time.
After all, you are a woman and he is a man. It is normal that you don’t think the same. That is what makes you unique as a couple!
If you feel he doesn’t want to say what he thinks just so you wouldn’t get angry, it is a sign of obsession.
A guy like this will put up with all the things he doesn’t like about you and he will explode one day. And the only victim in all this will be you.
I suggest you talk to him openly and tell him that he can be honest with you even if the two of you don’t want the same thing. That is how problems are solved in healthy relationships.
Está ahí aunque le trates mal
He won’t get out of your life even if you treat him badly. He will stick around even if you tell him you need some time alone.
He will call you, send you messages and buy you gifts. This is a sign that he doesn’t have any self-respect and that he would do anything to be with you again, no matter how poorly you treat him.
This is a big, red flag, a sign of obsession, so be prepared that you won’t be able to get away from him so easily. If this is not a sign of mental illness, I don’t know what is!
